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I know most guys don't feel it's important to say they love their partner but why is it such a drama for you to say it if you're mate feels it's important to hear it from you? 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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 that's a good question. I have no idea what the answer is.In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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I heard 'I love you' first from the men I have been in love with before I ever said it. And actually, they both said it quite freely, once it was said.
And that's nice.  |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: but why is it such a drama for you to say it if you're mate feels it's important to hear it from you?
I say I love you all the time to most people close to me... some are a bit uncomfortable about it you can but I like them all to know how much they mean all the time life's too short NOT to tell the ones you love how you feel  | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: but why is it such a drama for you to say it if you're mate feels it's important to hear it from you?
its been told to me many of times and its was done freely. i think that the fact that someone is forcing you or pressuring you makes anybody not want to do it. Maybe they just wanna say it when they want to  or maybe they're not really feeling the same way and don't wanna say somethin' they don't mean. | |
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brownsugar said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: but why is it such a drama for you to say it if you're mate feels it's important to hear it from you?
its been told to me many of times and its was done freely. i think that the fact that someone is forcing you or pressuring you makes anybody not want to do it. Maybe they just wanna say it when they want to or maybe they're not really feeling the same way and don't wanna say somethin' they don't mean.Oh I don't believe in forcing someone but if they don't even fucking say it on your anniversary? Come on now. I still want to know why this is such an issue for men, if it's something their partner needs from them. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: brownsugar said: its been told to me many of times and its was done freely. i think that the fact that someone is forcing you or pressuring you makes anybody not want to do it. Maybe they just wanna say it when they want to or maybe they're not really feeling the same way and don't wanna say somethin' they don't mean.Oh I don't believe in forcing someone but if they don't even fucking say it on your anniversary? Come on now. I still want to know why this is such an issue for men, if it's something their partner needs from them. i shouldn't have said force but maybe its the sheer pressure of it? i dunno maybe some guys feel that the words are not as important as showing their love and thus feel "you know i love you so what else do ya need? " | |
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brownsugar said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Oh I don't believe in forcing someone but if they don't even fucking say it on your anniversary? Come on now. I still want to know why this is such an issue for men, if it's something their partner needs from them. i shouldn't have said force but maybe its the sheer pressure of it? i dunno maybe some guys feel that the words are not as important as showing their love and thus feel "you know i love you so what else do ya need? "That is a copout. I know guys feel that way but that is so weak. Women show them in many ways that they love them. And most women are very aware of their partners needs and meet them to bring them happiness. So why do we let men off the hook so easily? If you really love someone, it shouldn't be so hard to say 3 simple words once in a while. A whiny-clingy-scary-stalker type of girl is one thing, but most of us would just like to hear it at least once in a while and men will let that lapse into never. I love to tell my partners I love them and want that in return. The I show you how much I love you bit only goes so far. . [Edited 4/18/06 15:37pm] 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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All of my guys have made a point of telling me they love me. Martin, my ex, still sends "love ya" text messages, just because. My boyfriend tells me 10 times a day.
I say it a lot too, to lovers and friends. As Natisse said, life's too short. If your guy isn't telling you he loves you and it's important to you, kick his ass out. It's not much to ask. oh noes, prince is gonna soo me!!1! | |
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I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it. | |
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HereToRockYourWorld said: All of my guys have made a point of telling me they love me. Martin, my ex, still sends "love ya" text messages, just because. My boyfriend tells me 10 times a day.
I say it a lot too, to lovers and friends. As Natisse said, life's too short. If your guy isn't telling you he loves you and it's important to you, kick his ass out. It's not much to ask. 
I think it can go the other way too, with being too needy, needing constant reassurance... but if someone absolutely refuses to say it once in awhile, yeah, he's not worth it. |
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Romera said: I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it.
I need both. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: Romera said: I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it.
I need both. I was just gonna say that.  |
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CarrieMpls said: Sweeny79 said: I need both. I was just gonna say that.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: Romera said: I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it.
I need both. Me too. oh noes, prince is gonna soo me!!1! | |
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Romera said: I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it.
Oh I think showing it has more import than saying it. But what's wrong with both? I need this from my partners and I feel slapped in the face if I have to practically beg them to tell me. Fuck that. You want my fucking face in you're lap, tell me you love me fucker 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Sweeny79 said: Romera said: I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it.
I need both. | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Romera said: I don't need to hear it, Supa. I need to be shown it.
Oh I think showing it has more import than saying it. But what's wrong with both? I need this from my partners and I feel slapped in the face if I have to practically beg them to tell me. Fuck that. You want my fucking face in you're lap, tell me you love me fucker  | |
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Romera said: Sweeny79 said: I need both. If they mean it, why not say it?  2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Romera said: Sweeny79 said: I need both. I didn't say I needed to hear it with out being shown it. I said I need both. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: Romera said: What's the point in hearing it if they don't mean it? Actions speak louder than words.
I didn't say I needed to hear it with out being shown it. I said I need both. And being told you're loved without being shown don't fly with me either. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Sweeny79 said: I didn't say I needed to hear it with out being shown it. I said I need both. And being told you're loved without being shown don't fly with me either. Nope. I need both, not one or the other but shit I need lots of things... A co worker said this poem is about me... My Rules If you want to marry me, here's what you'll have to do: You must learn how to make a perfect chicken-dumpling stew. And you must sew my holey socks, And soothe my troubled mind, And develop the knack for scratching my back, And keep my shoes spotlessly shined. And while I rest you must rake up the leaves, And when it is hailing and snowing You must shovel the walk... and be still when I talk, And -- hey -- where are you going? From Where The Sidewalk Ends, by Shel Silverstein. It's kinda true, but I have a good man. AND I give as much as I get. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: brownsugar said: i shouldn't have said force but maybe its the sheer pressure of it? i dunno maybe some guys feel that the words are not as important as showing their love and thus feel "you know i love you so what else do ya need? "That is a copout. I know guys feel that way but that is so weak. Women show them in many ways that they love them. And most women are very aware of their partners needs and meet them to bring them happiness. So why do we let men off the hook so easily? If you really love someone, it shouldn't be so hard to say 3 simple words once in a while. A whiny-clingy-scary-stalker type of girl is one thing, but most of us would just like to hear it at least once in a while and men will let that lapse into never. I love to tell my partners I love them and want that in return. The I show you how much I love you bit only goes so far. . [Edited 4/18/06 15:37pm] this is all true. it wouldnt hurt to say it once in awhile. but the issue has never been a big deal to me. is something wrong with me for this but when they do say it and express it they will get a whole lot more back than what they bargained for so yeah personally i don't see it as a big deal. | |
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Sweeny79 said: Romera said: What's the point in hearing it if they don't mean it? Actions speak louder than words.
I didn't say I needed to hear it with out being shown it. I said I need both. | |
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Sweeny79 said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: And being told you're loved without being shown don't fly with me either. Nope. I need both, not one or the other but shit I need lots of things... A co worker said this poem is about me... My Rules If you want to marry me, here's what you'll have to do: You must learn how to make a perfect chicken-dumpling stew. And you must sew my holey socks, And soothe my troubled mind, And develop the knack for scratching my back, And keep my shoes spotlessly shined. And while I rest you must rake up the leaves, And when it is hailing and snowing You must shovel the walk... and be still when I talk, And -- hey -- where are you going? From Where The Sidewalk Ends, by Shel Silverstein. It's kinda true, but I have a good man. AND I give as much as I get. I always give way more than I get which is why if you know it's important to hear "I love you" once in a while, then do it. I do all kinds of shit to make this thing work too without bitching. Love me damnit  2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Romera said: Sweeny79 said: I didn't say I needed to hear it with out being shown it. I said I need both. But it's nice to hear it ain't it? Heraing it makes you feel good and appreciated and valued. It can be like a pressure valve in a relationship sometimes. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Sweeny79 said: Nope. I need both, not one or the other but shit I need lots of things... A co worker said this poem is about me... My Rules If you want to marry me, here's what you'll have to do: You must learn how to make a perfect chicken-dumpling stew. And you must sew my holey socks, And soothe my troubled mind, And develop the knack for scratching my back, And keep my shoes spotlessly shined. And while I rest you must rake up the leaves, And when it is hailing and snowing You must shovel the walk... and be still when I talk, And -- hey -- where are you going? From Where The Sidewalk Ends, by Shel Silverstein. It's kinda true, but I have a good man. AND I give as much as I get. I always give way more than I get which is why if you know it's important to hear "I love you" once in a while, then do it. I do all kinds of shit to make this thing work too without bitching. Love me damnit I don't know how anyone on this earth could not love you Richard, seriously. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Sweeny79 said: Nope. I need both, not one or the other but shit I need lots of things... A co worker said this poem is about me... My Rules If you want to marry me, here's what you'll have to do: You must learn how to make a perfect chicken-dumpling stew. And you must sew my holey socks, And soothe my troubled mind, And develop the knack for scratching my back, And keep my shoes spotlessly shined. And while I rest you must rake up the leaves, And when it is hailing and snowing You must shovel the walk... and be still when I talk, And -- hey -- where are you going? From Where The Sidewalk Ends, by Shel Silverstein. It's kinda true, but I have a good man. AND I give as much as I get. I always give way more than I get which is why if you know it's important to hear "I love you" once in a while, then do it. I do all kinds of shit to make this thing work too without bitching. Love me damnit You deserve to be loved, big and loud. Accept no less. oh noes, prince is gonna soo me!!1! | |
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HereToRockYourWorld said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: I always give way more than I get which is why if you know it's important to hear "I love you" once in a while, then do it. I do all kinds of shit to make this thing work too without bitching. Love me damnit You deserve to be loved, big and loud. Accept no less. | |
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