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PrintableThe internet is NO different than the people you meet in "real" life. Most people are full of ^^%$^& and lie and all the other things that your hubby stated. Just a fact. | |
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PurpleRein said: shanti0608 said: hhhmmmm- thanks... I guess.. There are real ppl on the internet - he just goes to the 4 wheel truck website. He does not get that ppl chat here and there are real ppl here. Shanti, I've already posted my feelings, but..your husband is saying something without saying it. Maybe you're not communicating with him and he's expressing it. He's jealous of the time youre spending online. Go see a movie with him. Go to dinner..do something with him. Otherwise, he'll resent you..you'll resent him...and things will escalate. Talk to him. That's the first thing you need to do. Then examine why youre spending so much time online. Are you running away from something in real time?...are yuo bored?...go volunteer in a children's hospital...do something constructive. Being online isnt one of them Constructive my fucking ass, whatta stupid computer.  | |
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twister6 said: PurpleRein said: Shanti, I've already posted my feelings, but..your husband is saying something without saying it. Maybe you're not communicating with him and he's expressing it. He's jealous of the time youre spending online. Go see a movie with him. Go to dinner..do something with him. Otherwise, he'll resent you..you'll resent him...and things will escalate. Talk to him. That's the first thing you need to do. Then examine why youre spending so much time online. Are you running away from something in real time?...are yuo bored?...go volunteer in a children's hospital...do something constructive. Being online isnt one of them Constructive my fucking ass, whatta stupid computer. I politely disagree, having lived throught it myself  | |
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shanti0608 said: my husband tells me that ppl on the internet are fake and lie. He says they pretend to be something they are not...
So- I am sort of perplexed... 
[Edited 4/13/06 10:21am] When you invade you will see that most are absolutely genuine  2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Some are...some are not. Just like in real life.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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sag10 said: I would listen to your husband...
you're the husband are'nt you. shanti, why question about others on the internet, you're on here, you don't think you're fake do you? Why would you assume anyone else to be? [Edited 4/14/06 2:13am] 'Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.'- Einstein
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maleeboo said: sag10 said: I would listen to your husband...
you're the husband are'nt you. shanti, why question about others on the internet, you're on here, you don't think you're fake do you? Why would you assume anyone else to be? [Edited 4/14/06 2:13am] I realise that most of you are real... Not even going to try to explain that to him... | |
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Honestly, my advice is to put everything you have into working it out. The breakup is terrible. Of course, that was my view on it. Your situation could be completely different. But you don't ever want to look back and be able to say you gave up before you should have.
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: All the friends that I have met on here have been genuine so far.
M ya ghat damn right | |
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maleeboo said: sag10 said: I would listen to your husband...
you're the husband are'nt you.  | |
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jerseykrs said: Honestly, my advice is to put everything you have into working it out. The breakup is terrible. Of course, that was my view on it. Your situation could be completely different. But you don't ever want to look back and be able to say you gave up before you should have.
specially if/when kids are involved. They're the innocents | |
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PurpleRein said: jerseykrs said: Honestly, my advice is to put everything you have into working it out. The breakup is terrible. Of course, that was my view on it. Your situation could be completely different. But you don't ever want to look back and be able to say you gave up before you should have.
specially if/when kids are involved. They're the innocents very true. | |
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jerseykrs said: PurpleRein said: specially if/when kids are involved. They're the innocents very true. No kids - I have given this much thought- trust me... Neither one of us are happy... Do I stay just so we do not have to break up??? | |
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jerseykrs said: Honestly, my advice is to put everything you have into working it out. The breakup is terrible. Of course, that was my view on it. Your situation could be completely different. But you don't ever want to look back and be able to say you gave up before you should have.
Exactly. I gave this same advice to people close to me recently. They didn't work things out but it was important they gave themselves every chance to do so. | |
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Fauxie said: jerseykrs said: Honestly, my advice is to put everything you have into working it out. The breakup is terrible. Of course, that was my view on it. Your situation could be completely different. But you don't ever want to look back and be able to say you gave up before you should have.
Exactly. I gave this same advice to people close to me recently. They didn't work things out but it was important they gave themselves every chance to do so. I know it is correct- In 2000 we seperated (before we married) for a lot of the same reason I need to leave this time. We have been doing counceling this time. I am not going to make the same mistake I do last time and not resolve it completely- when I leave this time- I do not want to come back... | |
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shanti0608 said: jerseykrs said: very true. No kids - I have given this much thought- trust me... Neither one of us are happy... Do I stay just so we do not have to break up??? No, you can't keep something going if it just isn't right. We went to counseling and all that also. It just got to the point where we already lost each other and knew the end was near. It's a very painful and stressful process no matter what anyone says, even if it IS the right decision. Like I said Val, just BE SURE. | |
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jerseykrs said: shanti0608 said: No kids - I have given this much thought- trust me... Neither one of us are happy... Do I stay just so we do not have to break up??? No, you can't keep something going if it just isn't right. We went to counseling and all that also. It just got to the point where we already lost each other and knew the end was near. It's a very painful and stressful process no matter what anyone says, even if it IS the right decision. Like I said Val, just BE SURE. Thanks Chris!!
It is so difficult because I have lost all attraction to him and I know in my heart it is not coming back. We avoided it for too long..It sucks I hate to break his heart- he is a great guy but is that enough to stay married for?? | |
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