true friend here - email anytime (npr2005@gmail.com), chat, orgnote or whatever.

perhaps he is envious of the time you spend chatting online with others ?

perhaps he doesnt know how to tell you he would like more of your time ?

anyway ... i am as real and honest via the web as i am inperson

i know just as mant fake people in the flesh as the ones that i see online

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So can we get that drink or twelve now???

shanti0608 said:

I am, aren't I...

he's being pretty general, but he's not being untruthful.

There are many sweet sincere honest people online, with whom you can have friendships.
Online people should not however replace real time relationships.
It's all too easy for online people to represent themselves as something they are not..you really can't verify it, so you have to believe them or not

My experience is...I once sent $$ to someone I knew from online because she said the electric company was shutting her lights off. She lied
I had a cyber affair for 2 and 1/2 years with someone who said she was something she wasnt'. Forget the fact that I was and still am (miraculously so) married.

Just be careful. Don't forget to go outside and feel the sun on your face. And hug your husband for caring

jerseykrs said:

Hell yes!!!!!

I would listen to your husband...

sag10 said:

hhhmmmm- thanks... I guess..

There are real ppl on the internet - he just goes to the 4 wheel truck website. He does not get that ppl chat here and there are real ppl here.

Imago said:

MickG said:

I think the FCC should require Websites to post this ratio.

twister6 said:

yep! don't like you anymore

Imago said:

Mach said:

Thanks Mach

I so agree with you.

Every single person I've met from here has been even cooler in person.

shanti0608 said:

Sometimes the net is the only place one can communicate with others. And they feel safer, less vulnerable because its "only the net". I use to get on the net because I use to find I laughed alot at people and I felt it safer than going out. Safer in a sense that I wouldn't have an affair or drink and drive. But now I just log on for a few laughs.

jerseykrs said:

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shanti0608 said:

Shanti, I've already posted my feelings, but..your husband is saying something without saying it. Maybe you're not communicating with him and he's expressing it. He's jealous of the time youre spending online. Go see a movie with him. Go to dinner..do something with him. Otherwise, he'll resent you..you'll resent him...and things will escalate. Talk to him. That's the first thing you need to do. Then examine why youre spending so much time online. Are you running away from something in real time?...are yuo bored?...go volunteer in a children's hospital...do something constructive. Being online isnt one of them

PurpleRein said:

From her other post/thread, seems he is the one who don't communicate with her. Sounds to me like he is neglecting her.

Rebeccas said:

Yes and that is just part of his nature and I do not feel that deep down inside he can change that.
He is not an asshole he is who he is and I am who I am and we are not working together. Which really sucks!!!!!

shanti0608 said:

you and he could work together..how about some marriage counseling?

shanti0608 said:

You two just have different natures eh? Thats sad. I hope if the day comes and you decide to move on, both you and him will be happy with somebody more like yourself. It's hard because you can see the difference in you two. I wonder if he can? Have you ever asked him?

Do you think you can change your nature for him? Do you think maybe you two after a few more years will both change growing inward toward each other? Can I ask how long you have been married?

PurpleRein said:

Great advice!

Shanti? Have you thought about marriage counseling. The sad thing is sometimes, the other spouse does not think anything is "wrong". They see no reason for counseling

We have done counceling and we are doing more next week actually.
We have been together 10 yrs. Married almost 5....

shanti0608 said:

Hmm.. Do you think this may just be a "stage"? A marriage goes through many stages.

.. sorry.. asking to many questions

Rebeccas said:

No- it is alright.. If this is a stage then it is a very long one...

We seperated before we got married back in 2000 for these very reasons...
Same issues just never addressed them right back then...

shanti0608 said:

Sad! But you seem to be aware of whats going on. It's not like you are in deniel. I just feel bad because seems like it's a a very lonely stage for you. Maybe for him to but because of his lack of communication and him being a man, he won't talk about it, moreless admit it.