BlackBuddy said:

I love you but

Who is talking out the ass ay?

charlottegelin said:

Agree 100%

So many people I went to high school with are already married and having babies. All I can think is, "Why?!?! How can you possibly be ready for something like that? Didn't any of you ever want to do something exciting, like travel or go to school? How can you possibly find transitioning from the restrictions of your parents to the restrictions of being a parent with no break inbetween ideal?"

It boggles the mind.

BlackBuddy said:

Y'know,
I'm always talking out of my ass,
but other than that, I don't think that I can add anything substantial to this thread,
so I'll just keep my ass shut.

I had to change the job i loved worked with a great bunch of people, I now do shift work the money fine but its down to the days off which cover the school holidays. oh well only another 8 years of working nights

well im glad i made you smile
everything evolves as some one once said-and just imagine the joy you will get regailling the stories of how hard it was,all i sacrificed etc to your dissintrested teenager

pecker up!!!

U know, there r far worse tragedies in life than having a child.

alwayslate said:

maybe you could get yourself into a mommy's connection sorta thing..and then trade an evening of babysitting with the other moms...?

If you have a daughter from 16/17/18 the problem is resolved she can watch over her sisters or brothers!

I have all the freedom in the world! because she can watch her little sisters in the evening!
[Edited 4/11/06 10:42am]

meow85 said:

I know what you mean. I have seen some people i went to school with an it is so depressing. They cut their life off before it began. I saw a guy i went to school with at the mall with his overweight wife and their two kids. He looked miserable. Like he had been hit with a shovel. He is not even 30 yet!!!!! I saw a girl I went to school with at the grocery store who was a real hottie in her day. Very popular the whole thing. She is not hot anymore and has a kid. I thank god that i have the freedom to do whatever i want without worrying about any of that.

Not for me! they don't kill my life! They bring you joy, love and much more!
Oke, sometimes there are bad times, but thats also without kids!

As Wanda Sykes would say...

Yeah kids may cost you a lot of money and heartache (sarcasticly)...but there worth it.

SammiJ said:

I don't. It's true for a lot of people

It's true for a hell of a lot of people. I have some buddies who regret starting a family. Especially when they see us out having fun trying to hook up with babes and their at home with the noisy kids and the wives.

Spats said:

Aside from being jealous at your social life, the responsibility of children is huge and can drown a person who is not ready for it

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yep.

And they are not allowed to talk about it, because if parenting isn't the joy and purpose of your life and you admit that, you are automatically a "bad parent". A lot of people do feel this way. . . so yeah, let's put it out there and talk about it. . .

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Exactly, parenting is like any other experience in life, we all get frustrated, at many aspects of it. Doesn't mean we are bad parents or bad people, in fact, I would argue it's what makes us NORMAL.

Exactly. They feel they have to say it's great and worth it.What else are they going to say? They are locked into it now.

Spats said:

I have never felt the need to say anything but my exact views on things. People should be more honest really, something you subscribe to Spats, and believe it or not, I respect that.

jonylawson said:

no don't get me wrong when its not school hoildays i still get my rest days, as well as my leave. It works out that im only working for six months of the year!!!!!

THe hardest part of being a husband/father for me is finding some quiet time to take care of what I want to accomplish. Seems that theres always some juice to pour or an argument to break up or something. Its all good, but it can get frustrating at times.

I think a lot of it has to do with how you were raised. Being that Im an only child, its been a HUGE adjustment dealing with sharing my time and space ALL THE TIME with my children . Im not resentful, and hopefully this post isnt coming off that way. Its nothing that a 3day solo vacation wont cure.
[Edited 4/11/06 13:47pm]

jerseykrs said:

I agree. Its those people who walk around all stepford 24/7 that make me wonder what lurks beneath..

I have fathered thirteen children, all of which were born on the same day.

When they hit age ten, their training will be complete, and they will form a secret assassin squad called "The Baker's Dozen." This has been my goal, my dream, since young times.

alwayslate said:

What You Didn't Get the Memo? You didn't check the instructions as a human in life? You forgot how you ruined your parents lives?

I am happily married. Our happy little life is because of many reasons. We are in love. We are doing well. We have decieded to Not have children .

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

No one in particular. I said some. If half the people planned it, they wouldn't do it

Oh so much to say, particularly to the folks on this thread who don't have kids but I won't.

But to the person that started this thread, having a child, planned or not, is a conscious choice. Choosing a raise a child alone is a bitch. Be grateful to God, Buddha, SpongeBob that your child is healthy. She'll one day be old enough to leave home and you'll be able to go and live your life. Then you'll miss her and wish she was a little girl who wouldn't give you two seconds to breathe.

Me, I have a child who is disabled and will live with me for the rest of my life. My kids were not planned but they in no way kill my life.

BlackBuddy said:

I think that is true, or one half of the couple planned it and the other did not BAD SITUATION. Some people in relationships are not strong enough to say I don't want kids, they end up with them because the alternative is leaving the relationship. Resentment always ensues if both don't want kids as much as the other. and the poor kids? My sister and I have been told we were planned by our mum whilst our dad insists we were both accidents
If you don't want kids, DON'T HAVE THEM, PLEASE!!!!

Sure there r times when u can't do things...u have to think about them first .....alot of my friends that don't have kids tend to be all me me me ....(love them to death and thats not their fault ...its just they don't have something they love more than their own life that they have to consider 24 hours a day) ....
Basically I love Taylor and Tyryn more than life itself and wouldn't have it any other way
[Edited 4/12/06 0:18am]

Byron said:

Aww- that is the sweetest thing I have ever heard!!!!

jerseykrs said:

exactly!

shanti0608 said:

Very sweet and so manly to admit. ..