thing is, as the day progresses, I'm starting to think there is some validity to my reaction. He hasn't called me or emailed. I tried calling him, it wasn't like we had a big fight. If it was totally no big deal to him, why would he be avoiding calling me? He's never, since I've met him, been so bust that he couldn't talk for a few minutes...

I think I will just listen to what he has to say when we finally do talk. Maybe he has something going on, and I feel like we have good communication. Hopefully, he cares enough about me to try and talk things through...or something.



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thing is, as the day progresses, I'm starting to think there is some validity to my reaction. He hasn't called me or emailed. I tried calling him, it wasn't like we had a big fight. If it was totally no big deal to him, why would he be avoiding calling me? He's never, since I've met him, been so bust that he couldn't talk for a few minutes...

I think I will just listen to what he has to say when we finally do talk. Maybe he has something going on, and I feel like we have good communication. Hopefully, he cares enough about me to try and talk things through...or something.



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gabeez said:

Girl get out of yourself!

It is so clear.

sag10 said:

stop that..

Now do you see the irony in your telling him never to call you again and you're waiting for him to call?

gabeez said:

heres the deal...what does any of this frustration, concern or anxiety do for you? you cant control what he is doing or how he feels..so just go with it....

if ne never calls, it wasnt meant to be...if he calls back tomorrow and is happy then so be it...either way, your wasting your energy worrying about it all...

just "be".

sosgemini said:

This is the best advice ,listen to sos

try not to keep calling him too ,wait until he calls you

thanks, I needed to hear I was crazy. Maybe I'm just in love...? I haven't heard from him so I'm starting to think maybe there is some validity to my feelings. I don't think I'll call him anymore tho



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thanks, I needed to hear I was crazy. Maybe I'm just in love...? I haven't heard from him so I'm starting to think maybe there is some validity to my feelings. I don't think I'll call him anymore tho

gabeez said:

reading all this has made me want to hear Wendy & Lisa's "Dont Try To Tell Me".

sosgemini said:

Reading all this made me happy that I'm not that crazy

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Reading all this has made me for Supa

TMPletz said:

Well! I had no idea



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thanks, I needed to hear I was crazy. Maybe I'm just in love...? I haven't heard from him so I'm starting to think maybe there is some validity to my feelings. I don't think I'll call him anymore tho



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gabeez said:

you said you asked him not to call you ... right

Mach said:

Yes, in a moment of frustration, I told him not to call. God, imagine if everyone took everything you said as written in stone! Day 2 - he still hasn't called, but I haven't called either. I'm not mad, just disappointed that he would handle it this way.

I guess I'd rather this happen now instead of later, I'm an emotional person, always have been - and I guess I need someone who can handle my outbursts. Not cause I want anyone to get used to it, just someone who can handle it/me?


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I told him not to call. God, imagine if everyone took everything you said as written in stone!

hhhmmm..maybe you're blowing hot and cold and he's confused and doesn't know how to handle it. In these situations some (not all) men tend to withdraw.



also if it happens continuously, he's not going to know when you are genuinely upset and think you're just having one of your turns again.

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LleeLlee said:

thing is, we talked a lot. I remember telling him that sometimes I get hot and say things I don't mean. Not terrible things, like I don't scream or curse, just say things if I'm pissed enough. He literally said "it would take more than words to get rid of him". So, maybe I took that (unconsiously) as permission to act a fool...? I think he said something that wasn't exactly true, who knows. I feel so powerless over the situation. It is, I will say, a learning lesson. I think most of the men I've been with have never reacted this way towards me. It's a first...hopefully a last.


Thanks for your comments...


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CarrieMpls said:

Yeah I was with you Carrie, but then when I read the second bit I changed my mind.. he isnt acting right..

somebody help me!! I'm acting like a typical, whiny, self-centered, irrational, unreasonable paranoid woman. And I can't stop myself!! It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion, and I can't turn away.

I met this great guy a couple of months ago. Things have moved pretty fast...we see each other everyother day or so. We're both busy, but we make time. Everything was pretty great.

This morning, I told him never to call me again!

Why?

Simply, because he did not return my call. We talk everyday, if he doesn't call me, I call him, vice versa. So I call him yesterday around noon to say hi. Never called back. I called him before I went to bed, no answer. I felt bad because it only takes a minute. Then I thought, what if something happened. So I called him again this morning. He answered, said he tried calling. I thought he was lying. I received plenty of calls yesterday-I thought the worst. So I flipped out and told him not to call me anymore. It's been 3 hours, he hasn't called....



what should I do? I don't want to call, I feel like I'm in high school and just overall stupid and and ridiculous....



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