brownsugar said:

I was told that also!! My mother always told me I was incredibly book smart but that I had no common sense. And that's a load of hooey!!

Some guy once told me that he liked me better when he thought I was a slut.

CarrieMpls said:

yeah i know. but when i think about it it does bother me. i don't think she was trying to hurt me. she doesn't even know. btw

biological mother once said:

"i wish i never had kids"

she had a load of other issues going on too.

i've lost respect for her later in life not because of what she went through,but HOW she chose to deal with her problems.

she's dead now. and my life is SOOO much better .

My ex telling me as I was leaving that nobody would ever love me again

mdiver said:

See, this brings tears to my eyes, and it shouldn't, becaue I DO know. . . but obviously there's still hurt there.

Thank you.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Why do people who claim to love us try to damage us? Dammit.

SeattleInvasion said:

It was at one of my lowest points too. I still haven't found that love like I really think is out there but I've caught glimpses of it which is certainly way better than his fucked up lie.

Mercedes73 said:

Wow...

Byron said:

Thanks Byron.

And mdiver, the home-made wire action was badass. Remind me not to mess with you.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Why do people who claim to love us try to damage us? Dammit.

SHANNA said:

Ooooh, have I heard THAT one!

In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resonate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....


One cannot opperate in a void.






Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions

In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to...



Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions

I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.

Mercedes73 said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

That may have been why it was said...but why it effects the person it is said to is an entirely different matter. Will Rogers seemed to believe that we tend to react towards remarks with a level of hurt that somehow coincides with how true the remark is (or we believe it to be). I think there's validity to that. I've had remarks said to me that were "set to destroy" me...but my reaction was confusion (and sometimes anger) and a rather sincere "Huh?" afterwards, because I found no truth at all in what was being said. Hurt never entered into the equation.

The only exception I think would be the feeling of hurt because of who is saying it moreso than what's being said.

some idiot guy said about me to another guy "esa hillary, ya sabes para que sirve ella"

translation: "that hillary, you know what she's good for."

ironic thing was, i'd never even KISSED a guy at that time!!

fantasyislander said:

Is it true?

biological mother once said:

"i wish i never had kids"

she had a load of other issues going on too.

i've lost respect for her later in life not because of what she went through,but HOW she chose to deal with her problems.

she's dead now. and my life is SOOO much better .

Mercedes73 said:

mom once said to dad (about my older sister..) when that first baby died, we shouldn't have had any more kids

dunno and don't care.