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Thread started 04/06/06 10:25pm

Lammastide

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What's the most messed-up thing anyone's ever said to/about you?

On occassion, I'm haunted by something a high school acquaintance once said while she was drunk out of her mind...

We all were on a class trip to New York, and about 10 of us were sitting around in a hotel room. Half the people there (not me) were piss drunk, and one girl just started bawling bawl. When we asked why, she explained she was thinking about where each of us would end up after graduation. When she got to me, she merely predicted I'd "have no future." whofarted pissed I dunno why, but that pissed me to no end! What the hell did THAT mean?!?! I'd have rather heard her say I'd end up with some exotic disease or on death row! I could have thrown her out of a friggin' window!

One of us got sick of her crap and kicked her out. lol And, of course, when she sobered up the next day, she had no recollection of what had happened.

Anyway, it's more than 15 years later, and I'm happy to say she was dead wrong (aside from the fact I spend so much time on prince.org redface). But what she said STILL bugs me sometimes. It wasn't even a lucid statement -- wasn't even meant to be mean -- but it messed my head up for awhile.

Has anyone ever said something to you that was unusually hurtful or striking, and has bugged you for years?
[Edited 4/7/06 22:51pm]
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #1 posted 04/06/06 10:39pm

Lammastide

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C'mon, y'all. Quit being cowards! mad
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #2 posted 04/06/06 10:40pm

SHANNA

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A drunk mind speaks sober thoughts...And, I'm glad she knows that she was wrong about her ideas of you, Lamm...

When I was a little girl another little girl told me that I "talk to property" to play with...I think that to this day I still try not to talk too proper because of that.

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Reply #3 posted 04/06/06 10:43pm

Byron

I have several things said to me that would qualify... zipped

By the way, I also had that said about me, Lammastide...told to my ex-wife a few years before we married by a friend of hers (a guy). He said I would never amount to anything or accomplish anything. For some reason she felt the need to tell me...lol
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Reply #4 posted 04/06/06 10:44pm

Lammastide

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SHANNA said:

A drunk mind speaks sober thoughts...And, I'm glad she knows that she was wrong about her ideas of you, Lamm...

When I was a little girl another little girl told me that I "talk to property" to play with...I think that to this day I still try not to talk too proper because of that.

sad

Ooooh, have I heard THAT one! lol

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Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #5 posted 04/06/06 10:48pm

Lammastide

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Byron said:

I have several things said to me that would qualify... zipped

By the way, I also had that said about me, Lammastide...told to my ex-wife a few years before we married by a friend of hers (a guy). He said I would never amount to anything or accomplish anything. For some reason she felt the need to tell me...lol

Lemme guess: shortly before you were divorced? lol
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #6 posted 04/06/06 10:49pm

charlottegelin

althom called me a bitch mad
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Reply #7 posted 04/06/06 10:54pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resonate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....


One cannot opperate in a void.






Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions

In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to...



Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions






.
[Edited 4/6/06 23:15pm]
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Reply #8 posted 04/06/06 11:04pm

Byron

Lammastide said:

Byron said:

I have several things said to me that would qualify... zipped

By the way, I also had that said about me, Lammastide...told to my ex-wife a few years before we married by a friend of hers (a guy). He said I would never amount to anything or accomplish anything. For some reason she felt the need to tell me...lol

Lemme guess: shortly before you were divorced? lol

lol...Um, no, more like the next day after he said it..lol
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Reply #9 posted 04/06/06 11:04pm

Byron

Muse2NOPharaoh said:


In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to...

You'll never get over me drinking Coke, will you... confused
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Reply #10 posted 04/06/06 11:06pm

Lammastide

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Muse2NOPharaoh said:

In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resignate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....


One cannot opperate in a void.






Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions

In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to...



Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions






.
[Edited 4/6/06 22:58pm]

eek
[Edited 4/6/06 23:10pm]
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #11 posted 04/06/06 11:07pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

Byron said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:


In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to...

You'll never get over me drinking Coke, will you... confused



Well in fact


NO! whofarted
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Reply #12 posted 04/06/06 11:12pm

bkw

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I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.
When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading.
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Reply #13 posted 04/06/06 11:14pm

Lammastide

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bkw said:

I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.

Definitely true.
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #14 posted 04/06/06 11:15pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

bkw said:

I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.


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Far more is said to do harm then to cause good however.
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Reply #15 posted 04/06/06 11:17pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

Lammastide said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resignate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....


One cannot opperate in a void.






Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions

In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to...



Stand strong
be at peace
let the hurt wash over you and away from you
carry on
do as little harm as possible while here
never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you
take responsibility for your actions






.
[Edited 4/6/06 22:58pm]

eek
[Edited 4/6/06 23:10pm]


Thats it I aint hanging out with AB anymore damn it!
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Reply #16 posted 04/06/06 11:20pm

Lammastide

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Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Lammastide said:


eek
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Thats it I aint hanging out with AB anymore damn it!

smile
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #17 posted 04/06/06 11:21pm

Byron

bkw said:

I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.

“A remark generally hurts in proportion to its truth” ~Will Rogers
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Reply #18 posted 04/06/06 11:24pm

Lammastide

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Byron said:

bkw said:

I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.

“A remark generally hurts in proportion to its truth” ~Will Rogers

Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then.

But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it.

I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow. sad
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Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #19 posted 04/06/06 11:31pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

Lammastide said:

Byron said:


“A remark generally hurts in proportion to its truth” ~Will Rogers

Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then.

But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it.

I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow. sad
[Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm]



Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you!
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Reply #20 posted 04/06/06 11:32pm

Lammastide

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Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Lammastide said:


Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then.

But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it.

I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow. sad
[Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm]



Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you!

Should I find her and kill her? lol
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #21 posted 04/06/06 11:37pm

Byron

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Lammastide said:


Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then.

But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it.

I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow. sad
[Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm]



Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you!

That may have been why it was said...but why it effects the person it is said to is an entirely different matter. Will Rogers seemed to believe that we tend to react towards remarks with a level of hurt that somehow coincides with how true the remark is (or we believe it to be). I think there's validity to that. I've had remarks said to me that were "set to destroy" me...but my reaction was confusion (and sometimes anger) and a rather sincere "Huh?" afterwards, because I found no truth at all in what was being said. Hurt never entered into the equation.

The only exception I think would be the feeling of hurt because of who is saying it moreso than what's being said.
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Reply #22 posted 04/06/06 11:43pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

Lammastide said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:




Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you!

Should I find her and kill her? lol



stab Yes I shall help you...
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Reply #23 posted 04/06/06 11:45pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

Byron said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:




Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you!

That may have been why it was said...but why it effects the person it is said to is an entirely different matter. Will Rogers seemed to believe that we tend to react towards remarks with a level of hurt that somehow coincides with how true the remark is (or we believe it to be). I think there's validity to that. I've had remarks said to me that were "set to destroy" me...but my reaction was confusion (and sometimes anger) and a rather sincere "Huh?" afterwards, because I found no truth at all in what was being said. Hurt never entered into the equation.

The only exception I think would be the feeling of hurt because of who is saying it moreso than what's being said.



I receive that, but also know that just being sought out to harm in that way is hurtful. It can be painful just to have someone go out of there way to attempt harm at all. Irregardless of what fell from their mouth.
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Reply #24 posted 04/06/06 11:46pm

twister6

I can deal with all the punk/bitchy bs:
ur a total looser
u've got no idea what ur talking about
u lied 2 so & so
u said that u would do so & so, u let me down
why haven't u done that yet
what makes u think u know more than me
who's the guy u were hanging out with

but what caught me off-guard was:
send her 2 africa
OMG WTF?
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Reply #25 posted 04/06/06 11:54pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

twister6 said:

I can deal with all the punk/bitchy bs:
ur a total looser
u've got no idea what ur talking about
u lied 2 so & so
u said that u would do so & so, u let me down
why haven't u done that yet
what makes u think u know more than me
who's the guy u were hanging out with

but what caught me off-guard was:
send her 2 africa
OMG WTF?



That tells me volumes about the speaker and little else.....
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Reply #26 posted 04/07/06 12:27am

twister6

yeah it sure does cool
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Reply #27 posted 04/07/06 12:57am

TMBGITW

Off hand I can not remember...but someone not to long ago called me a bitch...I told them thank you for the compliment... biggrin
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Reply #28 posted 04/07/06 1:27am

mdiver

When i was going through my divorce in '96 my ex accused me of rape.....not to me and not to the authorities but to some mutual friends. It was just a tactic to win people over and divide our friends. I confronted her and she said to my face that i had never done it and she just wanted to hurt me and win people over. The little snidey bitch didn't know i had a home made wire on... falloff

When i let everyone hear it she lost all credibility and all her friends.....karmas a bitch ain't it.
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Reply #29 posted 04/07/06 1:30am

TMBGITW

mdiver said:

When i was going through my divorce in '96 my ex accused me of rape.....not to me and not to the authorities but to some mutual friends. It was just a tactic to win people over and divide our friends. I confronted her and she said to my face that i had never done it and she just wanted to hurt me and win people over. The little snidey bitch didn't know i had a home made wire on... falloff

When i let everyone hear it she lost all credibility and all her friends.....karmas a bitch ain't it.




God you are evil as me...I love it... lol
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