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What's the most messed-up thing anyone's ever said to/about you? On occassion, I'm haunted by something a high school acquaintance once said while she was drunk out of her mind...
We all were on a class trip to New York, and about 10 of us were sitting around in a hotel room. Half the people there (not me) were piss drunk, and one girl just started bawling  . When we asked why, she explained she was thinking about where each of us would end up after graduation. When she got to me, she merely predicted I'd "have no future."   I dunno why, but that pissed me to no end! What the hell did THAT mean?!?! I'd have rather heard her say I'd end up with some exotic disease or on death row! I could have thrown her out of a friggin' window!
One of us got sick of her crap and kicked her out.  And, of course, when she sobered up the next day, she had no recollection of what had happened.
Anyway, it's more than 15 years later, and I'm happy to say she was dead wrong (aside from the fact I spend so much time on prince.org  ). But what she said STILL bugs me sometimes. It wasn't even a lucid statement -- wasn't even meant to be mean -- but it messed my head up for awhile.
Has anyone ever said something to you that was unusually hurtful or striking, and has bugged you for years? [Edited 4/7/06 22:51pm] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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C'mon, y'all. Quit being cowards!  Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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A drunk mind speaks sober thoughts...And, I'm glad she knows that she was wrong about her ideas of you, Lamm...
When I was a little girl another little girl told me that I "talk to property" to play with...I think that to this day I still try not to talk too proper because of that.   | |
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I have several things said to me that would qualify... 
By the way, I also had that said about me, Lammastide...told to my ex-wife a few years before we married by a friend of hers (a guy). He said I would never amount to anything or accomplish anything. For some reason she felt the need to tell me...lol | |
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SHANNA said: A drunk mind speaks sober thoughts...And, I'm glad she knows that she was wrong about her ideas of you, Lamm...
When I was a little girl another little girl told me that I "talk to property" to play with...I think that to this day I still try not to talk too proper because of that. Ooooh, have I heard THAT one!
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μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Byron said: I have several things said to me that would qualify...
By the way, I also had that said about me, Lammastide...told to my ex-wife a few years before we married by a friend of hers (a guy). He said I would never amount to anything or accomplish anything. For some reason she felt the need to tell me...lol Lemme guess: shortly before you were divorced? Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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althom called me a bitch | |
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In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resonate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....
One cannot opperate in a void. Stand strong be at peace let the hurt wash over you and away from you carry on do as little harm as possible while here never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you take responsibility for your actions In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to... Stand strong be at peace let the hurt wash over you and away from you carry on do as little harm as possible while here never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you take responsibility for your actions . [Edited 4/6/06 23:15pm] | |
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Lammastide said: Byron said: I have several things said to me that would qualify...
By the way, I also had that said about me, Lammastide...told to my ex-wife a few years before we married by a friend of hers (a guy). He said I would never amount to anything or accomplish anything. For some reason she felt the need to tell me...lol Lemme guess: shortly before you were divorced? ...Um, no, more like the next day after he said it..lol | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to... You'll never get over me drinking Coke, will you...  | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resignate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....
One cannot opperate in a void. Stand strong be at peace let the hurt wash over you and away from you carry on do as little harm as possible while here never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you take responsibility for your actions In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to... Stand strong be at peace let the hurt wash over you and away from you carry on do as little harm as possible while here never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you take responsibility for your actions . [Edited 4/6/06 22:58pm]  [Edited 4/6/06 23:10pm] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Byron said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to... You'll never get over me drinking Coke, will you... Well in fact NO! | |
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I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you. When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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bkw said: I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.
Definitely true. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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bkw said: I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.
Far more is said to do harm then to cause good however. | |
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Lammastide said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: In all truth...much was said over me when I was young and continued to this date... ( I am certain to many if not all of us...) I chose to let it fall away from me as it came past.... I kid you not... I made no record of the deeds...why allow false words to stick or resignate within my spirit. Even at 8 years old I knew they wanted me to be like them...empty...so lost.... certainly in pain. Some in recent time were looking for away out... just not understanding that by attempting bringing one down they wont recieve peace.... not even the reasurance that they are not so bad off by dragging you there.....
One cannot opperate in a void. Stand strong be at peace let the hurt wash over you and away from you carry on do as little harm as possible while here never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you take responsibility for your actions In recent times I had someone knock me flat on my ass with their behavior.... Took the wind out of me... Reminded me to guard my steps and know that you don't know where someone is at on the balance of life and to... Stand strong be at peace let the hurt wash over you and away from you carry on do as little harm as possible while here never sucker into believing its about you and others are expendable as part of the project of discovering you take responsibility for your actions . [Edited 4/6/06 22:58pm]
[Edited 4/6/06 23:10pm] Thats it I aint hanging out with AB anymore damn it! | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Lammastide said:
[Edited 4/6/06 23:10pm] Thats it I aint hanging out with AB anymore damn it!  Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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bkw said: I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.
“A remark generally hurts in proportion to its truth” ~Will Rogers | |
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Byron said: bkw said: I think the things that resonate get down to the deep held fears we hold about ourselves. Sometimes someone can say something that unintentionally cuts you to the quick because it relates to some fear that's deep within you.
“A remark generally hurts in proportion to its truth” ~Will Rogers Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then. But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it. I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow. [Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Lammastide said: Byron said: “A remark generally hurts in proportion to its truth” ~Will Rogers Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then. But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it. I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow.
[Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm] Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you! | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Lammastide said: Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then. But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it. I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow.
[Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm] Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you! Should I find her and kill her? Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Lammastide said: Wow. So I must've believed her on some level back then. But now that things have panned out differently, I wonder why I still think about it. I hope that doesn't suggest I still believe her somehow.
[Edited 4/6/06 23:26pm] Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you! That may have been why it was said...but why it effects the person it is said to is an entirely different matter. Will Rogers seemed to believe that we tend to react towards remarks with a level of hurt that somehow coincides with how true the remark is (or we believe it to be). I think there's validity to that. I've had remarks said to me that were "set to destroy" me...but my reaction was confusion (and sometimes anger) and a rather sincere "Huh?" afterwards, because I found no truth at all in what was being said. Hurt never entered into the equation. The only exception I think would be the feeling of hurt because of who is saying it moreso than what's being said. | |
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Lammastide said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you! Should I find her and kill her?  Yes I shall help you... | |
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Byron said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: Oh bullshit... that remark was set to destroy you.... Now it plays upon you! That may have been why it was said...but why it effects the person it is said to is an entirely different matter. Will Rogers seemed to believe that we tend to react towards remarks with a level of hurt that somehow coincides with how true the remark is (or we believe it to be). I think there's validity to that. I've had remarks said to me that were "set to destroy" me...but my reaction was confusion (and sometimes anger) and a rather sincere "Huh?" afterwards, because I found no truth at all in what was being said. Hurt never entered into the equation. The only exception I think would be the feeling of hurt because of who is saying it moreso than what's being said. I receive that, but also know that just being sought out to harm in that way is hurtful. It can be painful just to have someone go out of there way to attempt harm at all. Irregardless of what fell from their mouth. | |
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I can deal with all the punk/bitchy bs:
ur a total looser u've got no idea what ur talking about u lied 2 so & so u said that u would do so & so, u let me down why haven't u done that yet what makes u think u know more than me who's the guy u were hanging out with but what caught me off-guard was: send her 2 africa OMG WTF? | |
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twister6 said: I can deal with all the punk/bitchy bs:
ur a total looser u've got no idea what ur talking about u lied 2 so & so u said that u would do so & so, u let me down why haven't u done that yet what makes u think u know more than me who's the guy u were hanging out with but what caught me off-guard was: send her 2 africa OMG WTF? That tells me volumes about the speaker and little else..... | |
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yeah it sure does  | |
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Off hand I can not remember...but someone not to long ago called me a bitch...I told them thank you for the compliment...  | |
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When i was going through my divorce in '96 my ex accused me of rape.....not to me and not to the authorities but to some mutual friends. It was just a tactic to win people over and divide our friends. I confronted her and she said to my face that i had never done it and she just wanted to hurt me and win people over. The little snidey bitch didn't know i had a home made wire on... 
When i let everyone hear it she lost all credibility and all her friends.....karmas a bitch ain't it. | |
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mdiver said: When i was going through my divorce in '96 my ex accused me of rape.....not to me and not to the authorities but to some mutual friends. It was just a tactic to win people over and divide our friends. I confronted her and she said to my face that i had never done it and she just wanted to hurt me and win people over. The little snidey bitch didn't know i had a home made wire on...
When i let everyone hear it she lost all credibility and all her friends.....karmas a bitch ain't it. God you are evil as me...I  it... | |
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