I'm sorry to hear about the breakup!!


I understand how strong love can be with someone. It happens to everyone and it doesn't come with a warning either. You are obsessed with this person because he's part of your life, he's the person you've turn to, a fate that brought you two together....you get the point I'm trying to make.

And for him to suddenly break up with you without a reason, it's just plain cruel. Then you try to think about it over and over in your head on what, when , why, and how it happened, like a tape playing the events in your head again and again, but it doesn't make you fell better...you only feel worse.

It's best to remember you did all you can and that you did your part, not him. If he truly loves you, he would have talked things out with you on the breakup and be straightforward about things concerning the relationship. Believe me...if he doesn't see eye to eye with you on things, and be honest for once, then he's not worth keeping. He's not worth your tears at all.

Dry those eyes and treat yourself to a treat or a gift for yourself. Buy nice things for yourself, treat yourself to a massage, a good comedy movie, a nice fudge sundae, whatever makes you feel better, and enjoy your single life. Be freinds with yourself, you deserve it. There are much better guys out there than you think. I hope this works and I hope you feel better.

thanks for the kind words, needed them badly. He's letting a good one get away

my head hurts

i wish breakup stuff wasn't so painful.

Six years for you, too huh?

My ex and I broke up in 1999. I have not been in a relationship since. Seems, since then, my tolerance for bullshit has gone way down. I can spot it a mile away.

The way we broke up: we had lunch one day and the next day, his punk ass called me on the phone to end things. Boy, was I fucking pissed. I stayed pissed for a very long time. Then one day, I decided to start trying to date again. Met someone I thought was nice, a lawyer. Older guy so I figured his days of playing were over. NOT! We had a lovely meal and then he tried with the 'let's go back to my place' bullshit.

Being in a place of loneliness, of low self esteem, I almost fell for it and for the longest time, I kept trying to figure out what was wrong with 'me'. But, I finally got it through my thick assed skull that sometimes, we just run across some fucked up individuals. I have been alone for seven years but never lonely. If I don't trust myself enoug to be able to tell the difference between an ass and an asset, I stay this way.

I don't know you but I do know enough to know this person does not deserve you.

Last night was a ruff one. After 6 years together, he wanted a break. Things have not been going so great but I am changing all of the utilities today and preparing to pack up and go. I can't love somebody who doesn't love me. Not anymore. Who do I turn to? My cyberspace friends. I am a wuss to the max, but can not stop crying. No sleep last night, thinking about everthing known to man. How do i get my stuff to another state, etc. When i think about anything, i well up, they start rolling down my face, you know the ugly tears. The ones that won't let you talk and kinda take your breath away.

Today i am just a puffy mess, with crusty eyes. Even writing this makes me well up. Please tell me it will get better. Please say the emotions of sadness, anger, confusion, and hurt will stop coming all a one time.

all for now

Six years for you, too huh?

My ex and I broke up in 1999. I have not been in a relationship since. Seems, since then, my tolerance for bullshit has gone way down. I can spot it a mile away.

The way we broke up: we had lunch one day and the next day, his punk ass called me on the phone to end things. Boy, was I fucking pissed. I stayed pissed for a very long time. Then one day, I decided to start trying to date again. Met someone I thought was nice, a lawyer. Older guy so I figured his days of playing were over. NOT! We had a lovely meal and then he tried with the 'let's go back to my place' bullshit.

Being in a place of loneliness, of low self esteem, I almost fell for it and for the longest time, I kept trying to figure out what was wrong with 'me'. But, I finally got it through my thick assed skull that sometimes, we just run across some fucked up individuals. I have been alone for seven years but never lonely. If I don't trust myself enoug to be able to tell the difference between an ass and an asset, I stay this way.

I don't know you but I do know enough to know this person does not deserve you.

Last night was a ruff one. After 6 years together, he wanted a break. Things have not been going so great but I am changing all of the utilities today and preparing to pack up and go. I can't love somebody who doesn't love me. Not anymore. Who do I turn to? My cyberspace friends. I am a wuss to the max, but can not stop crying. No sleep last night, thinking about everthing known to man. How do i get my stuff to another state, etc. When i think about anything, i well up, they start rolling down my face, you know the ugly tears. The ones that won't let you talk and kinda take your breath away.

Today i am just a puffy mess, with crusty eyes. Even writing this makes me well up. Please tell me it will get better. Please say the emotions of sadness, anger, confusion, and hurt will stop coming all a one time.

all for now

jthad1129 said:

He?...and you're a he?

love the edit. your sense of empowerment is just what you need right now.

cborgman said:

I love that post.

It's true.



Sorry I have just seen this, mr.
Big to ya. Go DO stuff. Let Borgman drag yer ass to MPLS in October!

HamsterHuey said:

you want this thread to end up in fan gatherings??

cborgman said:

In the end, that's where everything leads anyways.

HamsterHuey said:

does someone call out "DEAD THREAD WALKING" as the thread heads toward fan gatherings?