Last night was a ruff one. After 6 years together, he wanted a break. Things have not been going so great but I am changing all of the utilities today and preparing to pack up and go. I can't love somebody who doesn't love me. Not anymore. Who do I turn to? My cyberspace friends. I am a wuss to the max, but can not stop crying. No sleep last night, thinking about everthing known to man. How do i get my stuff to another state, etc. When i think about anything, i well up, they start rolling down my face, you know the ugly tears. The ones that won't let you talk and kinda take your breath away.

Today i am just a puffy mess, with crusty eyes. Even writing this makes me well up. Please tell me it will get better. Please say the emotions of sadness, anger, confusion, and hurt will stop coming all a one time.

all for now


Had to edit this thread title after all of the help and support from my fellow orgers. I have stopped crying and now I feel empowered to take my life back. Start a new life, if you will. The road looks rough and rocky but I can't look at myself as a failure, sucker maybe, but no failure. Live and learn I say. As one orger helped me understand, I'm going to keep all the assets, and get rid of the ass. Hugs to all of you who helped in a time of true sadness. I hope I will be able to return the favor, under different circumstances.

love to all.
Thad
[Edited 4/6/06 7:18am]

jthad1129 said:

oh dear... just keep crying... let it all out.

Hey, I lived in Hoover, Alabama!


Well, 6 years is a long time to invest to anything, so I can't imagine it feeling very well. It sounds like you moved to Birmingham to be with this person, and now you have to move out of state.

Moving away physically from the situation may be the best thing to help you heal, so long as you have SOME kind of support mechanism where you are going.

jthad1129 said:

...one door closes..another door opens. you're grieving. let the pain take its toll...soon it will fade..replaced by...?...this is life. If you hadn't met him, you wouldn't have had all the good times. But you did..and now the down side. Perhaps...perhaps..there's another him out there. A better him..perhaps the past 6 years was an education, to make you a better person to be in a relationship with the one you haven't met yet. Things in life happen for a reason, we just can't read God's script for us, so we live life unrehearsed. It's okay..we're here for you

ITs very hard but as time goes on u realise u deserve to be treated better...I went through the same with my marriage etc..I feel for u , hope things get better for you.

it will get better and it will get easier for now though it is going to hurt like hell and in many ways it is good that it does. You will come out of it stronger. You will find someone who can love you back just as much as you love them.

Any relationship that ends really hurts, some people think that because you are not married the pain is not as much, but it is.

Don't try to do too much at once but yes you do have to move on.

thanks for the kind words, needed them badly. He's letting a good one get away

my head hurts

Sign up to new things,get things delivered catalogues, bit of post, things to occupy you.
Try things you would'nt have before.

Don't give yourself a time limit on when you should feel better.
You'll feel better when you feel better and not when someone else tells you to.
, and it is physically painful, so take care of yourself, pamper yourself.
Listen to your favourite songs, songs that are yours and yours alone, none of that our song shit!

And Dammit, you are beautiful loved and blessed repeat after tamar....

This is the worst feeling in the world, but understand you are a good person and life goes on.

jerseykrs said:

I've cried so hard it caused me to get physically ill, throwing up and everything. But it does get better.

i wish breakup stuff wasn't so painful.

i wish there was paracetamol for it.

I walked around feeling like my ribcage had caved in for weeks.

it's hard to weigh which would be more painful - having someone you very much love leave you and tell you they're not in love with you anymore, or staying with that person forever and gradually figuring out they don't love you and they've decided to "settle" for you. would you rather have all your pain dealt out at one time, or spread out over the rest of your life? i guess there are plusses and minuses either way.

maleeboo said:

feeling that now. its like a hit to the gut.

You shouldn't stay where you don't belong. Love is out there for you somewhere.....true love, and even though you are feeling like a train wreck now...you will put your life back on track, your way and under your terms. I think we all conform to the ones we are with, now you can conform to yourself. Will it get easier...not right away....will you still cry, somedays will be worse than others. You will always have your org friends to talk to. You have a sweet soul, you are a great person. She too needs to be happy and find who she belongs with. I feel for you...you are my friend...my prayers to you and yours.

it won't be easy at first, but it will get better.

on to bigger and better - a guy who can't live without you

I hope you can feel a little better every day. It does get easier, but you cant rush it. Dont try to force yourself to be over it, because it will come in time. And have faith that there is better out there for you in the future. In the meantime cry it out. You cant keep it all in.

Cant say anything else as eloquently as anyone else, but I hope you get there

jthad1129 said:

May your pain pass as the rain.
Keep heart little daughter for you shall be loved.

cborgman said:

exactly. i can feel your pain and understand exactly what you are going through. I'm still trying to get over a breakup, but just know that it hurts like hell now but it won't stay that way.

Eventually you will slowly start to feel a happiness that you didn't feel while you were in the relationship, and this happy feeling inside you will give you a sense of peace and little encouragement to move on and that you are better off without this person.

It takes time, these life lessons can be very painful, but in the end, you will reap the rewards.

Hang in there, summer is upon us, which means a lot of single guys are out here and ready for us!!!!
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cborgman said:

I totally agree....the operative point is "a guy who can't live without you"....we all deserve to be someone special.
Let the tears come, do not be ashamed of loving someone so much it hurts...let it out. Been there, still doing that....and yes, it feels like your chest has caved in.
But keep busy, make your life what YOU want it to be...this is your chance to soar....

cubic61052 said:

I am sorry jthad. You are such a nice guy..

For you

missfee said:

well, he's actually a "boyfriend"

The doctor is in!!!!!

Orgnote me and I help you get through this!! No one has been down as low as me! Everything was meant to happen for a reason and sitting around being all depress and crying about it will not help. GO OUT and meet otehr people, g owith friends, and etc. I was depress once over someone for a week and t this day I am still trying to figure out WHY? Maybe causse i had other things going o like New Orleans flooding and death in the family!! What state you moving to or trying too and write back if you want help?

We hates heartbreak, we hates it forever!

cubic61052 said:

Tears of pain, turning to tears of joy. You guys are making me weep again, IN A GOOD WAY. Reading your responses make me feel better, knowing some of you have gone through the same thing. A new day is dawning (but my head is still splitting)

just keep crying...it's a way for your soul to cleanse itself...

breakups are never an easy thing, and you're doing the best thing by moving


this too shall pass hun, you're strong, you can get thru this

jthad1129 said: