Problem 1: I let my best old friend from high school move in with me to help with bills and I am freaking out! I met her man of the week and he is this old guy that I consider to be unattractive and am freaking out! The last thing I want to hear are them having sex! How out of line would I be to tell her no kinky activities within earshot or my presence in the house allowed? Would I be wrong to tell her now?


Problem 2: A man that I am/was attracted to, is asking me and my rug rat to move to Florida with him. I would never jump on a move like that with my lil knucklehead unless I am sure of my feelings. I have never told my son of any of my boyfriends. This guy is the first. I can't tell if I am tripping because I am getting older and never have been married, or what?

I need opinions over here! The crazier the better! They will make me feel more sane! I need a sounding board to tell you the truth.

(Had to add the "Breeders" in there! I want all to feel welcomed!)

Okay, GD Forum, I need help!
[Edited 4/4/06 1:34am]

Do what I did.....Wait three years...then realize the love of your life was right in front of your face....be there for him during a tough time, congrats him as he finds a new life and a new love in a new city....let him move away and ignore the words in the back of your head still....then be there for him when he goes through tough times, as he will be there for you shortly after when you get tossed out in to the OC airport...then you see him over the holidays and party with him,,,there are those voices in the back of your mind again...then 2 months later you visit him at his home.., then you both realize it was right in front of your face all these years....you then proceed to pick up your life and move across the United States...before hand trip out over the fact of what you are doing is crazy as hell....why put yourself through this mess again....but when you get there...fall more in love...get married and live happily ever after..... That is what I did


PS I am still trippin though...

notoriousj said:

you got married!

ShySlantedEye1 said:

would number 1. disturb you so much if your friend's boyfriend was a hunk?

notoriousj said:

Okay...That is question number 2 out of the way! What about the other one?

My answer to question 1....Tell her to keep it down you have a child in the house...he don't need to be hearing that. Simple as that.

charlottegelin said:

Actually, the sounds of anyone but me having sex freaks me out! It is a whole other thread I am not ready to get into right now. Walked/heard my mother and I have never been right since!

charlottegelin said:

Fuck I would be pissed...that means her friend is gettin it on with the hot guy in the next room and she's not.

TMBGITW said:

Oh God no! My young one is not here! That is some bullshit that I don't even do in his presence. My son is in boot camp until summer.

TMBGITW said:

You do have a point there!

charlottegelin said:

That's what I'm sayin'!


I am sooo out of the loop around here

ShySlantedEye1 said:

If this "case senero" is yet to take place, the sex sounds, you are being a little obsesive compulsive worring about a problem that DOES'T EXIST. Try doing something better with your time and mind. Yes it would be "wrong" to tell her now of a problem that doesn't exist. I must question your loose use of the term "friend". My idealism of the term friend also includes respect. If your "friend" has shown you no disrespect yet, then it is disrespectful, and creepy, to be obsessing about her sexuallity.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

I would hope your son would be aware of this "boyfriend" of yours several months before you move your son. The psychological damage of him not "seeing" his mother with male "friends" pryor to his introduction to this one male figure and then an upheavel of a move, would leave deep rooted psychological scars on his psychie.

TMBGITW said:

This should go without asking.

MickG said:

You would think....but some people just don't think about that stuff.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Maybe you should speciphy the age of your "son". Bootcamp like the army? Like a grown man? If that is the case you should disregard my pryor statements about "Psychological Damage" on your son, because that was aimmed at your son being like in a development stage.

TMBGITW said:

In that case, although it isn't the case now, one would have to question the loose morality of calling a unrespectful person a "friend".

MickG said:

I told my son the first moment I felt my feelings getting strong. Secondly, they have not met just yet on the mom's dating him level. He met him once but my son does not remember jack other than his score on a video game. It is just the thought of it all. Moving and being with this man. I am trying to figure out if I just enjoy the fact of being with a man or being asked at all. This is weird for me. I have been taking care of stuff so long.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

I would say if you knew the guy a couple of years, and you had feeling for him, and felt you could trust him, then moving would be good. EXECPT nothing ever good comes from Florida. Well I am sure there are execptions to the rule, however Florida is a pit. You two would be better moving somewheres else.

MickG said:

Yes he is still in the warped teenage mind stage. He is 14. I do not drop bomb shells on him like his father. I call it boot camp but it is a boarding school type deal with counselling and stuff. It was either kill him for doing dumb shit, send him to juvenille hall or to his father so that he can be as twisted as him. The boarding school is better for him. It is helping him deal with his demons and me on mine. We are both stubborn. He got it honestly.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Yes, but you are doing something to help him how to hopefully learn to act right...and keep his mind right...so that is being a good mother in my book.

MickG said:

Oh my God! I thought I was the only person who thought that way about the place! I moved from there five years ago. It sucked for me because it was not child friendly and I couldn't even take my baby to the beach! It was full of naked old men! Horrible! Right now the thought of Hurricane season is the worst part!

ShySlantedEye1 said:

It's like the highest crime rate of rapes, and murders that go unsolved or some shit like that. it isn't a good place. Stay away.

When my wife and I first got together, we thought we would move to Fla, and we were almost killed. Lucky for me I am a crazy person with a deathly stare.

TMBGITW said:

For me it is about him doing the right thing. For some reason he think he can get away with anything no matter what it is. And why he thinks his prison guard/Army Veteran/Gun toting mother is a soft touch is beyond me. I will not be disrespect by anyone much less a non-bill paying little person who depends on me for food. I am assuming he got that from his other relatives telling him he was perfect even if he is hurting other folks. Wrong answer on my side of the family. If you are wrong, then you are wrong. We love everyone but will check you quick if you are tripping.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

mama's gotta do what mama's gotta do....the way I see it is...if little mans ass needs checked then check it...cause my girl Crystal is going through the same thing with her son....17 years old...he's running away from home, skipping school (she caught him walking down the street one day while she was going to work and he should of been in school.) Ma girl is a retired marine...he done pushed her to far....All I can say is...glad she aint my mom...shit..I would be runnin.

[qoute]mama's gotta do what mama's gotta do....the way I see it is...if little mans ass needs checked then check it...cause my girl Crystal is going through the same thing with her son....17 years old...he's running away from home, skipping school (she caught him walking down the street one day while she was going to work and he should of been in school.) Ma girl is a retired marine...he done pushed her to far....All I can say is...glad she aint my mom...shit..I would be runnin. [/quote]

This is his last shot with me. After a certain age, he is on his own. If he doesn't want to educate himself, I can't help him. The cold part is, I have cousins twice my size that WILL NOT FUCK WITH ME!! All of the men/boys in my family younger than me I have fought or destroyed. They have all tried to save him from me. They have told me that he can take a serious punch with his young ass! I don't think my Kempo will put fear in him. He does know that if he ever puts a finger on me or anyone woman he is a dead man/boy. And that is just not from me.

Shit glad I don't have a little ones runnin around....lord help us all if I did...

TMBGITW said:

Roller coaster yes. Would I birth another one? Hell fucking no! I was going to adopt a child until the boy began to loose his mind! This teenage shit is no joke. Pray for me and his narrow little ass.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

My point exactly...I think back and remember what I was like when I was a teenager, and I ask myself...do I want to put myself through the shit I put my parents through...and I answer myself...HELL FUCKING NO!

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MickG posted in a girl's thread

TMBGITW said:

I was a good kid. My sister fucked up enough for the both of us. Mom's beat the fuck out of us. When one did shit, both of us got it. Trust me, I was doing everything I can to stay in her good graces and out of her back hand range. All I did was work and go to school. Hell, my mom thought I was a virgin up until I called her from Germany to tell her I was pregnant. Shit, I was grown and out of the house and still scared. It took a bottle of alcohol on the eighteen hour flight to calm my nerves. I thought she was going to kill me when me and the baby came through the door.