Lizzy,

i agree with brownsugar, luv4u, natisse, and some of what Mick said. You have already said that "why do i believe the bullshit...and Actions speak louder then words so I know it's all bullshit and I should just move on... "

this statement alone already tells me that this what your instincts are telling you...and girlfriend, i'm gonna tell you that i was once in your position not too long ago and i didn't listen to my instincts. I thought i was just driving myself nuts and that i needed to change my way of thinking...but when shit came to a head, and reality set in, it was my instincts that were right all along. it wasn't me that needed to change, but that the other person just wasn't right for me because he couldn't give me what i deserved.

i know its very hard to do something, or to realize that something must be done that you don't want to do, especially when your emotions are involved so strongly with another person...but for yourself, you got to have peace of mind. And peace of mind is more important than the wishing, and hoping for things from another person who continue to say they will change or that they will give them to you and they keep coming up short.

don't do what i did, stay and believe that i was just being too hard on the person, listen to your heart, listen to your instinct because your instincts can never steer you wrong. Good Luck and Be Strong

missfee said:

Mind you, I am the one male, and one of the few if not singularly the only one that is in a relationship and has abilities to substain one. Please do not see that statement as a negitive mudslinging. It isn't, it is just my cradentials.

MickG said:

Mick, I didn't say your statement was negative, or did i think it was negative. How did you get this idea?

Lizzy7701 said:

Because it's true...

missfee said:

No you missunderstood my statement. What I ment was that what I said about being the only one in a long term relationship shouldn't make the other 3 people you mentioned feel unloveable.

MickG said:

OH!!!! of course!!