origmnd said:

i don't see why anybody would. you can't make someone change their mind. if it isn't there it just isn't there. all you can do is tell them how you feel. if that doesn't work then you have to give yourself time to get over it.

After someone you love breaks up with you and leaves, I think it's a common, natural response to try to come up with ways to try to 'win them back'.

But in the end, doing that only intensifies and prolongs your pain because if the other person really isn't happy and doesn't want to be with you anymore, no scheme or plan or promise or ANYTHING you do will "make them" love you the way you want them to.

It's better to just accept that you and that other person weren't meant to be, and to move on so that you are open to connecting with that one who is meant for you. Invest your emotions in yourself, instead of wasting them in an emotional black hole of attempting to make someone love you (again) - you'll heal faster.

heyduckie said:

The duct tape would have been the only next possible step.

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It's a shame when two people split and they both wait for the other to really fight for the relationship. I've seen this happen the last few months. They just can't get it together. Seems like now it may be for the best though, so who knows?

Fauxie said:

That's just the thing. You have to put your own effort into it. You can't expect your spouse to do it all for you. There has to be willingness and effort on both sides. Commitment and honor for both, from both.

Eternaldragon said:

Yes, but in the situation I am/was in the middle of, the communication just wasn't there. Each was waiting for the other to make an effort to fight for the relationship. I guess it was just pride. I think if things had been different and someone had stuck their neck out things may have turned out differently, but as it is it looks like it may turn out better this way for both people.

Mach said:

See, that´s what it is....and that´s what I did...only to find out that they ended up being much unhappier than before.

The difference between the two mentioned situations is that in the first, the person who wanted the split is now fighting to stop it. The wife, who was asked to leave, still loves him.

The second situation is that the person who wants the split is not fighting at all to stop it and is doing everything to leave the relationship, whereas the person that doesn't want it has been willing, patient, loving and understanding to no avail.

The answer to the post is, it's a reverse situation where the person who wanted the split in the first case is having a change of heart and the person wanting the split in the second case is not.

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well its like this...if a person tells you that they aren't happy and that it would be best for the two of you to part ways..then that is your decision, and I should respect it and move on (easier said than done, i know cuz i'm going through it now)

but its another thing when a person tells you that they love you but they need space and keeps contacting you in some form indirectly (whether it's texting you or sending you flowers with messages that have guilty undertones to them.) This usually means that they are full of it and will pay the price for leaving someone just because they want to date other people but can't say it straight out to this person that they "supposedly" love.

missfee said:

WillyWonka said:

I don't know who you are...but, you're just awesome

applekisses said:

I've noticed that too...

Nothing!

I couldn't do that to myself...

Just kiss and say goodbye!

Not a damn thing. I hope my friends would tie me up in a basement and beat some sense into me if I made any such attempts.

Sigh god its hard...but i think after a while it comes down to self respect, if u try and communicate but are getting nothing back, the only thing u can do is move on cause at the end of the day theres no point in wasting energy with someone if they obviously dont feel the same.

I love the line from the Prince song style...is loving urself till everyone else does too...

When things go wrong i tell myself that everything happens for a reason so when one door closes another on eventually opens. Having said that four bottles of cava and watching Under the cherry moon continually doesnt help ur perspective..trust me. Everyone deserves to be happy and sometimes u have to just let them be free.

heyduckie said:

Man there are well over 1 billion single honeys on Earth. Are you kidding me?

applekisses said:

Dear lady, that is the nicest compliment I've received lately. Thank you.

I think you're quite awesome yourself.

(and I still intend to name a candy after you. )

CarrieMpls said:

zaara said:

I really hope you mean all that and that you honestly see it You'll be fine chicken

Graycap23 said:

Yeah but how many of them are good looking?

Anyways, don't lose any sleep over losing the woman. There will always be another one. Just hope she is good looking.

Spats said:

At least 250,000,000 of them.....

She isn't really worth fighting over anymore. The last time I accidentally saw her when I was visiting my old hometown... some four years ago was it? She looked totally fucked over. And she most likely was anyway. There's no chance winning her back, because she doesn't bring herself back anyway.

Novabreaker said:

Sometimes you just gotta let 'em make like birdies and fly.

A Klondike bar, on the other hand, I would kill a man for.

brownsugar said:

How was your birthday...

Lizzy7701 said:

it was lovely. i smoked some weed. ate some white castles and i got to talk to someone that i hadn't talked to in awhile but really missed.

brownsugar said:

good

Imago said:

co sign but from my view it would be "nothing. fuck him".