Imago said:Next:

1)
When you let your beard grow out, you mentioned in a thread that it was a bad time in your life. How do you crawl out of these "Bad times?". Is it just letting time do it's usual healing through numbing pain and forgetting. Or were you sick of feeling bad? or both?

oh, this one is easy to answer. I don't think I ever really crawl out of the feeling. It's more of a ebb and tide type thing. I'm a master at hating myself, been at it for a good twenty something years now. So, it kind of just lingers, then I'll feel better for a bit. It always returns though

Imago said:Next:

1)
When you let your beard grow out, you mentioned in a thread that it was a bad time in your life. How do you crawl out of these "Bad times?". Is it just letting time do it's usual healing through numbing pain and forgetting. Or were you sick of feeling bad? or both?

oh, this one is easy to answer. I don't think I ever really crawl out of the feeling. It's more of a ebb and tide type thing. I'm a master at hating myself, been at it for a good twenty something years now. So, it kind of just lingers, then I'll feel better for a bit. It always returns though

Not for me to say, perhaps, but I really admire your honesty with these answers, Chris.

Especially your answer to no 3, in the last set of questions. You must be breaking that cycle already. And - whatever stage you're at - the fact that you're aware of it and feel the need to do it says you must be a great dad as it is.

My question: what would shock your mates most about the 'you' that they know and the 'you' that we know?

My question: what would shock your mates most about the 'you' that they know and the 'you' that we know?

I don't think much. My constant jokes and self depricating humor are present in my everyday real life, not just in my org message board posts. Also, I think it seems that I drink heavily from my posts here, but actually, it's nowhere near as often in real life. The weekends I don't have my children, I do like to go out with my friends (too keep my mind occupied as I stated before), but I don't get drunk off my ass all the time.

I don't think much. My constant jokes and self depricating humor are present in my everyday real life, not just in my org message board posts. Also, I think it seems that I drink heavily from my posts here, but actually, it's nowhere near as often in real life. The weekends I don't have my children, I do like to go out with my friends (too keep my mind occupied as I stated before), but I don't get drunk off my ass all the time.

See? That's why I really admire both your honesty and the approach you've taken with your kids. What more can they ask for? For you ---->

Your children are lucky to have a dad that cares about these things so strongly. I think that's awesome.

excactly!
I wish he was my daddy.

You just HAVE to steer the thread downhill, don't you???

great thread imago!

I was explaining this exact thing to my therapist last time I was there... I know exactly what you're talking about. No matter how much it seems to ebb or go away, it always, always comes back.

1) Do you think that he world is generally headed in the wrong direction or the right direction?
I think we're further from believing in the creator and there's less racial/religious tolerance

2) What childhood memory do you treasure the most?
hanging with my grandmother and sharing pizza with her

3) What are you biggest regrets about your experience as a parent? How do you think you could have changed that?
not spending more time with my oldest daughter when she was younger. I was too busy playing on the internet and almost lost my family

4) You’ve said the org has helped you deal with your homophobia. Could you see yourself being friends with a gay man? explain
I have friends who are in same sex relationships. I wasn't taught to hate based on skin color or orientation, and I'm not teaching it either

5) What are your primary goals for this year? Are you on the path to achieving them? Getting a better job to provide better for my family. I'm working on it

6) What does the org do for you? provide a pressure valve release from work tensions. I also have learned alot about an artist I adore, Prince






Jersey..has it been hard to break the cycle of addiction that your mom and dad had?