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Reply #30 posted 03/31/06 2:32am

Imago

Mach said:

someone .... that not matter what you share with them, be it joy in life or stressful things you may be going through ... a new movie, a new herb to try or a book that inspired you

they ALWAYS make your topic about them ? take what you are trying to express to them about something within you ... and turn it into them - ALL about them rolleyes

does it bother you ? do they exaust you ? do you tell them that not everything in life IS about THEM ?

hmmm

yup.

People do it all the time. ALot of times I just realize they're trying to feel validated. So I try to look at it from a sympathetic standpoint.

I'm guilty of it alot too. neutral

By the way Mach.

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Reply #31 posted 03/31/06 11:55am

Mach	jerseykrs said: Is this thread about me???
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Reply #32 posted 03/31/06 11:57am

Mach

Imago said:

Mach said:

does it bother you ? do they exaust you ? do you tell them that not everything in life IS about THEM ?

hmmm

yup.

People do it all the time. ALot of times I just realize they're trying to feel validated. So I try to look at it from a sympathetic standpoint.

I'm guilty of it alot too. neutral

By the way Mach.

I

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I try to be patient and sympathetic and understand too

just is happening A LOT with me lately hug

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Reply #33 posted 03/31/06 12:01pm

Heiress	i've got a friend like that, yeah... but she's a bit less self-centered now that she has a baby. and the baby's been sick, too... maybe folks just need something other than themselves to focus on...
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Reply #34 posted 03/31/06 12:02pm

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CarrieMpls said:

I do it all the time.
It's how I relate.
I don't think I go overboard and make it ALL about me, though. I just share my similar experiences.
hmmm

Just a way of empathising, really. Makes the conversation a two-way thing. Or helps me to understand where they're coming from; putting myself in the other person's shoes.

But I do know a few people like this and the worst offender was kicked to the kerb. It can be exhausting, sometimes.

Mach ---> rose

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Reply #35 posted 03/31/06 2:36pm

PREDOMINANT

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onenitealone said:

CarrieMpls said:

I do it all the time.
It's how I relate.
I don't think I go overboard and make it ALL about me, though. I just share my similar experiences.
hmmm

I agree, its more about letting them know you know what they are talking about by sharing one of your experiences. What I can't stand is when they turn it into a competion after half heartedly agreeing with you:

Person 1: I cried for what must have been 2 hours after we split up.....
Person 2: Yea, when I split up with X I cried for, like, days!
Person 1: ....and I felt like my heart was broken in two...
Person 2: I know, I felt like the guy had reached inside my mouth, pulled my heart out and stomped on it.

johnwoo

Person2

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Reply #36 posted 03/31/06 3:03pm

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PREDOMINANT said:

onenitealone said:

Person2

EXACTLY ... that too

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Reply #37 posted 03/31/06 4:27pm

butterfli25

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I have literally told someone " let me have this one please" because he would always compare and compete with anything I had to say. I have learned that he is not someone I should expect to listen for the sake of listening.

for instance

Me: wow my head hurts
him: yeah well my head has been hurting all day but I still finished my project,went to the meeting and got that memo done.
me: umm ok I'll take some tylenol I guess
him: yeah of course I never take anything for headaches those companies are just trying to get money from you.
me: NOW it hurts even more, damn.

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Reply #38 posted 03/31/06 4:30pm

Muse2NOPharaoh	mdiver said: I don't do women like that they are needy. Their mothers taught them that it's passed down from generation to generation!
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Reply #39 posted 03/31/06 4:32pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

SeattleInvasion said:

Mach said:

i do know we all do it at times ... relate our lives to/through each other

i just mean the ones that do it MOST all the time without touching back on your thoughts and or feelings

i have many people in my life right now like this and i am finding it somewhat exausting ...is all

rose

See, I'm gonna do it right now wink

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I called up a friend to talk last night. Was feeling in a funk, would have appreciated an ear. I almost never do this, mind you. . . I tend to deal with shit internally.
Well, it's probably good that I don't often ask her to listen to me, 'cause DAMN, she was having none of it. If it's not about her, she ain't interested. It IS exhausting.

Should have called me! hug