someone .... that not matter what you share with them, be it joy in life or stressful things you may be going through ... a new movie, a new herb to try or a book that inspired you


they ALWAYS make your topic about them ? take what you are trying to express to them about something within you ... and turn it into them - ALL about them




does it bother you ? do they exaust you ? do you tell them that not everything in life IS about THEM ?

Mach said:

yes

me actually


its a big problem


but im getting better





see i just did it again



and yet again






cant avoid it

shausler said:

i forgive you

Mach said:

you forgive me ?


its always bout you isnt it!







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I don't do women like that they are needy. Their mothers taught them that it's passed down from generation to generation!

shausler said:

damnit YES

mdiver said:

huh ??





SPATS ... is that you ?










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[Edited 3/30/06 10:15am]

I do know people like that.

But while we're talking about you, have I mentioned that I like you? You sould come to the summer and fall invasions.

I do it all the time.
It's how I relate.
I don't think I go overboard and make it ALL about me, though. I just share my similar experiences.

CarrieMpls said:

Well, right. It's part of normal conversation to go, "me too. . .". You don't go overboard at all.

But some people really, really do.

i do that to. lately i've been trying not to be like that.

oh, wait. you mean in real life.

i thought you meant on the org...

then, no, not me at all.

SeattleInvasion said:

i do know we all do it at times ... relate our lives to/through each other

i just mean the ones that do it MOST all the time without touching back on your thoughts and or feelings

i have many people in my life right now like this and i am finding it somewhat exausting ...is all

cborgman said:

mostly in REAL life yes... there are those here too though

Mach said:

See, I'm gonna do it right now :

I called up a friend to talk last night. Was feeling in a funk, would have appreciated an ear. I almost never do this, mind you. . . I tend to deal with shit internally.
Well, it's probably good that I don't often ask her to listen to me, 'cause DAMN, she was having none of it. If it's not about her, she ain't interested. It IS exhausting.

SeattleInvasion said:

i am SO tired about hearing about you


J/K


it can be exausting fer sure man

my one friend will go on and on about her her her and then say "so what do you think ? "

and i'll say something like


i cant ... because you wont stop talking


she never gets it ... she'll just pipe back up about her next topic

Mach said:

So, the question is, why do we tolerate this from our friends? Why do we HAVE friends like this (I mean, it's clear from their perspective whey they are friends with us -- we'll listen to them endlessly without expecing much in return -- but why do we keep them around)?

Mach said:

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ReturnofDOOK said:

i was sure it was gonna be the spins again

SeattleInvasion said:

i have been thinking along the same lines lately ... just looking at it from different perspectives

i mean i love them ... ya know

do they not realize that they do 80% or more of the talking each time... do they not realize that they didnt even ask how i was doing ...or

ya know





hmmm ... life is odd sometimes

ReturnofDOOK said:

WTF man ?

Mach said:

CarrieMpls said:

I *think* this is how I am, but my evil sister-in-law says that I have to be the center of attention and everything is always about me, me me. I try so hard not to do it now.

But Carrie, seriously this is the best way I've seen it put. I'm just trying to relate, or join in the conversation if it's not a one on one thing...

Mach said:

Life is LONELY sometimes.

CarrieMpls said:

yup that's hope I feel too. This is a community... not a one man show, we all put or 2 cents in, that's the whole point of the Gd isn't it?

ps. Is this thread about Althom?

Mach said:

oh well in real life.... yeah I know a few. GRRRRR!

Sweeny79 said:

yeah i was really meaning real life and people that do it to extremes ...

as i said we all do it in ways of relating

actually I DON'T know anyone like this, can't think of a single one my sister maybe? except she doesn't talk about herself, just all her acquaintances that I haven't met. I give up In real life I don't talk much

Is this thread about me???