Yes i'm talking about the ones who are in long term relationships, and they want out, but they don't come out and say it.

The ones who say that they "need space" or that they have some other problem that they can't handle at the time and they need time to figure out how they can "deal with it". Or that "it's not you, it's me. It's nothing you did wrong."

Why not be honest with your woman. Tell her that you don't think things are going to work out. Or that you think that she's a good person (that is if she is) and that you want to date other people.

Why be a coward about it? I can respect a man for being honest and up front with me even though the truth may still hurt, but at least i know that i was being told the truth and not some half-assed lame excuse that makes no sense what-so-ever and leaves me confused.

I would like to hear from men especially. The honest ones and the ones who have done this before in the past. What do guys gain by doing this to women who are sincere?

I have always been honest. It's the only way to be in my opinion. But I'm the minority.

Because a whole lot of guys need a back up plan. They are afraid to be alone so they twist some poor girl's heart around just so they can keep one eye on the field looking for something "better" and sadly when they get the "better" girl...they drop her like a hot potato.

jerseykrs said:

You are a really good man Chris. I don't know if that's the minority. I really hope it's not.

Sweeny79 said:

It's sad, but true.

CarrieMpls said:

Don't I know it. Girls are like this too though... I've been guilty of it.

Sweeny79 said:

it's funny that if they are the one's looking for something "better", they are really the low guys with internal issues with theirself and the girl/woman that they wronged is the one who will eventually end up with something "better"...

I used to do that alot.
Mostly to avoid unpleasent situations. Cowardly I admit.

missfee said:

Not sure I get what you are saying....

Sweeny79 said:

okay like u said that the guy dumps the girl for another girl who they think is "better"....

well i said its probably the girlfriend (the one who was dumped) that will probably find the better person in the long run.

Besides if the guy is that much of a coward he wasn't worth it from the beginning.
[Edited 3/27/06 17:55pm]

Imago said:

What made you change your ways?

Sweeny79 said:

And yet I'm still single.

missfee said:

Ahhh... I see we all get what we deserve

jerseykrs said:

When you are ready and willing to accept love it'll find you.

All men are pigs...there's no way around it.

applekisses said:

Not all, there are a few with honor.

Exactly missfee

Sweeny79 said:

That's the truth

luv4u said:

why is it that they don't care about the girl (who they are wronging) feelings? why is it that they just don't give a fuck when they tell them that they do?

applekisses said:

8fold path precept #4) Right action, to abstain from sexual misconduct. Meaning not to use sexual actions to harm a relationship or a person.

There, now you know I'm not always an ass.

missfee said:

Because they're pigs.
Most times it's because they don't want to hurt a gal's feelings...and most times it's actually worse in the long run.
[Edited 3/27/06 18:04pm]

applekisses said:

Imago said:

It's a good way.



(and I know you're not ALWAYS an ass )

applekisses said:

Just orgnote your boob shots to me on this account.

Imago said:

What boob shots?!?

Imago said:

What?

applekisses said:

Girls love us anyways. I've seen girls almost claw each others eyes out over a dude that could barely care.

Girl power does NOT exist before the age of 28, and even then, the right guy can tear that shit apart.

Imago said:

That's true.

Imago said:

Yes, I know...that's why the "power girl" in me wishes I could protect missfee. It's a horribly painful lesson to learn.

well u know this happened to me. And frankly i am very pissed off about it. I know in my heart that i'm a good person, i was nothing but good to that guy and this is how he repaid me. We were friends for like 3 years before we got into a relationship where i use to tell him how guys had wronged me before. Then when we got together and we were in this relationship for like 1 year and a few months, all of a sudden he needed this "space" from out of nowhere.

Then i eventually found out that it was because he wanted to date other people. And i found this out in the worst way. I feel personally betrayed by him because he didn't even respect me enough to tell me the truth, even after all this time that we had been close.

he just told me that he "loves me to death, but he needed space and that it wasn't anything that i did wrong". What kind of shit was this to tell me?

he's just a fuckin' coward. plain and simple. and now while i'm here crying and feeling like shit because of his betrayal, he's off somewhere laughing and joking and not even caring about he did me wrong. Why is this so?

You mean to tell me that he was looking for a better girl than me after i had dealt with so much shit from him? When he got laid off his job, i was there helping him with his resume and cover letter. when his grandfather was sick, i was the one who went with him to the hospital to see him because he was scared to go by himself. when he was trying to join a particular organization and he worried that he wasn't good enough, i was the one telling him that he could do it, that he was strong, that he could do anything. and this is the thanks i get?

well u know what, FUCK HIM!!! i hope he suffers with emotional pain for the rest of his fuckin life. I want him to feel the pain that i feel.
[Edited 3/27/06 18:21pm]