does it bother you when someone refers to you as "the baby" of the family? Don't know about you, but it really gets on my last nerve, especially when you're grown up and haven't lived at home in the last 17 years. In a way, it's almost condescending, like you're still walking around in diapers, needing mommy and daddy to cater to your every need. When people call me "the baby", I find myself saying to them, "Well, I'm 43 years old now, that's HARDLY a baby by ANY means!". Stupid people need to get a clue! What about you? Does it bother you when someone labels you like this, or are you able to just ignore it and not let it bother you?
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SammiJ said:

Hey sammi

mmmkay...im the youngest of 6 kids
im turning 20 in about 2 weeks or so...

and i couldn't be more depressed...i'm still referred to as the baby, im still "cute" i haven't become the beautiful woman that i always wanted to be referred to as...

and it sucks... no one takes me seriously... when i'll be achieving more than any of my other siblings...they still baby me and think i can't think for myself... and well

i'm sick of it...

my mom still wants to dress me, she wants to tell me what to eat and how to act...and i think reality might be finally catching up with her based on what's been going on in my life currently...i in no way mean to hurt her, but she should've realized that by the time she had me i'd grow up just as fast as all the others...i'll always be her baby no doubt - however, i dont want to be babied anymore.... @least all the time
it's nice being hugged and cuddled by my mom when i need to be consoled (which almost never happens..) but she can't be controlling me so much anymore...
and i know she's scared...but the only way im going to learn anything is if i experience it and know for myself...

i dont even know if i'm making sense...but yes... it bugs me being the baby..

psychodelicide said:

i am the youngest of four daughters

and i get called the baby sometimes
but not by members of my own family

it's usually a friend of relative that hasn't seen you since you were knee high to a grasshopper and exclaims "this can't be your baby!!"

well, yeah... it can - that's what a 33 year old looks like


and yeah, i know i am spoiled

doesnt bother me what anyone of them would say...since ive surpassed them in looks and intelligence

psychodelicide said:

I think you are being nitpicky, and I think it is all in your head. I USE to be "the baby" . The Baby is the one they all focus on. The Baby is the one that got away with the most shit. The Baby was the esteamed position in the sibling chain.

My wife too is "the baby" and she agrees with me on that. We are two brats. Unfortuanlly, my wife is also one year younger then I am. Thus, she is now the baby and I am not. Even my mother calls her "my baby".

they all want me to settle down.....I'm 35.....meanwhile they are all jealous!

psychodelicide said:

You're a sweet baby tho'...

A baba even...

A baaabaaay baba!!!

abierman said:

Same here. Only I'm 30.

psychodelicide said:

awww


and NO i am not bothered by it at all... never even thought about it in a negitive way til now

great THANX alot man

I'm youngest, have always been referred to as the baby and it bothered me when I was young, but now? Nah.

I dont have any brothers or sisters but I have an enormous family fo cousins, all of whom im close to, as well as their parents. Im 3rd youngest but somehow Ive always been, and will always be to most of them, "the wean" (Scottish for child) I dont mind it cause its true, affectionate and it makes me more special than the rest of them who dont have a name!

susannah said:

i love it!!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Im glad! Pronounced like "wayne" by the way!!



i sould get another account called TheWean

i'm the youngest here too. even after my mom got remarried, my stepbrother (who was the baby) is now the oldest and i'm still "the baby". it doesn't really bother me being called baby. and i think my mom is FINALLY realizing that i'm a grown woman. fer pete's sake, i'm on my own, head of my own household, raising a child, and not relying on them for anything!! it's about stinkin time she realizes it!

what always annoyed me when i was younger was how my sister and i didn't have names. when my mom was a single mom, anytime we got an invitation somewhere it was addressed to "anita and the girls".

susannah said:

i've been doing some grant writing for the local Scottish heritage society, and one thing i've learned - nothing is pronounced the way i think it should!

"TheWean" is a great handle!!

Never really bothered me, to be honest.

In fact, I used to like it as a kid. Always wound my brother and sister up.

I'm the baby!!!!

I am the youngest and I'm perfectly fine with my Mom calling me her 'baby'....she has respect for me as an adult, so if she wants to still remember me as a wee little tyke, that is fine. At 80 years old and putting up with me all this time, she deserves it! I am really OK with anyone calling me baby, as long as I see that the person saying it treats me with dignity and respect as an adult. I accept it as an endearment.

I'm the yougest of four. I never really minded being called the baby of the family. My brothers and sister are much older than I am and what bothers me at family get togethers is they always want to talk about things they did before I was born. Once in a while I wouldn't mind, but they always do it. We care about each other, but we're really not close at all.
The thing I liked best was having my parents to myself after everyone else left home. I was always Daddy's girl and I'm much closer to my Mom than the rest of them.It was almost like being an only child growing up.

Sometimes it bothers me...sometimes it doesn't. I guess it depends on the context. If they're talking about how spoiled I was then it bothers me...if they're talking about how much they love me, then it doesn't at all

Nah, it used to bother me that nothing I did was as important or interesting as my older siblings (especially my brother), but now I've reached the age where everyone wants to be younger!

MickG said:

my youungest turned 6 3/18 he is spoiled and he does get away with stuff his older brothers dont get away with. i put my foot down when it comes to serious stuff. but when he asks for more juice or a toy in the store and then puts on that face...

SammiJ said:

I feel ya on that one, Sammi!

I'm the youngest in my family and even though I'm 30, I'm still treated sometimes as though I am a child who knows nothing about anything. It's very frustrating and a good reason 2 not speak 2 family members on a regular basis.

npgmaverick said:

true...(before all you family oriented people jump down my throat...)which is why i moved off to university instead of going to the one there in my town...
i in no way want to distance myself from my family, but i think what they need is to see me from a distance growing up and doing things that i prolly wouldn't be able to do if i were still home
plus - it's good for my sanity

I will always be the GOT DANG BABAY!!!!!

Thanks to all who posted, I appreciate your input. Seems like most of you don't have a problem with being called the "baby of your family", which is a good thing.