Slave2daGroove said:

yeah thats really a deal breaker

charlottegelin said:

thats really gross.

Liars and cheats, without question, would be #1.
Baggage-laden, insecure women would have to be #2.

And, I would like to thank Spats for posting before me and making me appear all the more sensitive.

ThreadBare said:

mdiver said:

Big rumps are a deal breaker as well.

Spats said:

whew! i'm in the clear! i guess that crushes my wee bit crush

brownsugar said:

Spats said:

whew! i'm in the clear! i guess that crushes my wee bit crush

brownsugar said:

If you have a big butt why don't you get one of those Butt Masters or whatever they are called?

But even then, I think I keep those people on a certain level of friendship. For me, it's all about managing my expectations of people.
Of course, I've also been blessed with some pretty amazing friends.

CarrieMpls said:

Same Here. People sometimes take a long time hiding their faults


I've never heard another man say he wasn't interested in boobs.

I went out with someone and she didn't want me to go "downtown"! I tried to tell her she was missing out on something really great, to no avail. She thought it was gross and couldn't figure out why I'd want too?

Rev said:

give her spats number

charlottegelin said:

ugh! i can't stand a drunk ass man!
cheating
dishonesty
disloyalty
what would be even worse is not being there for me.

Why were my dealbreakers deleted?????

brownsugar said:

It sure is. And enemas are cheap too. That shit does not make any sense. Shit crumbs all in my damn bed. NASTY.

brownsugar said:

You're being a bit picky.

Shit crumbs all in my damn bed. NASTY.

I take more shit from friends than romantic partners, as they are easier to sort of "compartmentalize" in your life. Somebody can be really fun to hang out with, but not a reliable source of moral support. . . that kind of thing. One of my dearest friends is frequently late, a skilled white-liar, and can't keep a secret to save her life. So, I adjust my expectations accordingly, because there are lots of things I love about her. Another dear friend is the picture of integrity and I'd trust him with anything, and never tire of his company, but he's not a great at being a shoulder to cry on. And that's ok.

Romantic partnership dealbreakers: lack of integrity/honesty, no sense of humor, emotionally or physically abusive, lack of sexual interest or willingness, geography (no more long distance relationships for me), not affectionate, unwilling to accept me as I am, irrationality as a general mode of being (which will exlude most religious folks), being a workaholic, wanting children.

I used to put monogamy on that list, but hey, I'm giving it a try.


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[Edited 3/16/06 9:43am]

SeattleInvasion said:

damn, you've had quite the change of heart.

long distance relationsips are tricky. it's so easy to get carried away with this person who you communicate with mostly on the phone and internet and then you actually spend a large amount of face-to-face time and BAM, it's like a whole different person. some people can make them work.

JasmineFire said:

I don't know that I've had a change of heart, really. I still think polyamory is the ideal family structure for me, but it requires a chemistry that is hard to attain. I'll take it on a relationship-by-relationship basis.

And, actually, the relationship I'm in isn't necessarily monogamous. He doesn't care if I have sex with girls. But, in practice, I haven't since I've been with him, and I don't know that I will any time soon.

As for LDRs, I've been through a couple of them, and yeah, there are illusions that are easier to maintain with infrequent visits vs the reality of day-to-day life, but more than that, I just find the time spent apart to be too painful. Don't want to go through months/years of agony like that.

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SeattleInvasion said:

that's funny that he doesn't care if you have sex with girls. me are so silly sometimes.