What's the deal breaker for you when it comes to relationships and friendships?

For me it would have to be disloyalty, dishonesty, and unreliability. There was this guy who wanted to date me but on our first date he was so hung over that he overslept and we never met up. He called like four hours later to apologize. I just figured I was done with him but for whatever reason he kept on sweating me for months afterwards and didn't get the picture when i didn;t return his calls. But he's unreliable and that's a deal breaker.

Some of my colleagues will say the most horrible things behind someone's back and then be super nice and sweet to them to that person's face. To me, that's being dishonest and disloyal and that's a deal breaker. I know that i can never be close to these people because of that.

whenever i encounter these traits a switch goes off and everything changes.

If she swallows....

Unreliability pisses me off. And on a first date, that's a no-no.
But I have friends who are fabulous in all other aspects, and I just know I can expect them to be late, or if I make plans with them to re-confirm, etc.

In general, I'm a pretty accepting person. Not that I'll put up with a lot of crap, but if you've proven yourself to me I'm not gonna get too bothered over the little things. You do have to prove yourself first, though.

Illustrator said:

you're easy to please.

I know!

I hate hippies!

I could never date a hippy.

CarrieMpls said:

i don't mind friends who are late as much as friends who aren't there for you when you need them to be.

JasmineFire said:

Very true.

But even then, I think I keep those people on a certain level of friendship. I just wouldn't ever 'need' them. For me, it's all about managing my expectations of people.
Of course, I've also been blessed with some pretty amazing friends.

CarrieMpls said:

GangstaFam said:

It's so true, though.

JasmineFire said:

You'd be surprised how many gals won't
...even if I tell 'em it's my birthday.

for a relationship: cheating and lying...if they cheat they're gone and that's IT.

for friendships: lying, scheming, gossiping, spreading rumours
stuff that would make it obvious for me to end a friendship.

Illustrator said:

then that's the deal maker not the deal breaker

unmaneagable temper, any hint of violence. and all of the above

charlottegelin said:

ooh!! That's a good one. That's on my list too.

ugh! i can't stand a drunk ass man!
cheating
dishonesty
disloyalty
what would be even worse is not being there for me.

CarrieMpls said:

yeah, uncontrollable sacry tempers are no good. everyone gets mad but there's a way to deal with it that doesn't alienate and scare people.

CarrieMpls said:

if I saw any punching walls or anything, I would not even consider going out with them.

- not liking little kids or animals is another one,
- not wanting to go downtown then it's all over before it began!

Lies about anything, lack of integrity as a whole, lack of a sense of humor, hypocritical actions, people who run their mouth more than they actually do anything, users, negative energy drainers, racists/bigots and Nazi's (not necessarily in that order)

charlottegelin said:

no sacktime for them!

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CarrieMpls said:

They still make men like this? I thought that model was discontinued?




seriously

JasmineFire said:

that's right

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charlottegelin said:

yeah thats really a deal breaker

brownsugar said:

Pretty much, yes.

I once went out with a guy who I suspect was afraid of my ample bosom - he did not touch them once during sex and that was the end of that.

UNCLEAN BOTTOMS.

charlottegelin said:

many are intimidated!
but yeah he definately has to like boobs if he wants to get with me

emm said:

This is why I love the Org, one can find out shit they had no idea happened in the world. It's really a mad, mad, mad, world.

Intimidated by beautiful breasts?
Not going down?

I have heard of a guy who wouldn't kiss his woman on the mouth, just on her body. That WAS the weakest thing I had ever heard until tonight.

emm said:

well I never met anyone else like that thank goodness. you cannot ignore the boobs and get away with it!

DynamicSavior said:

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charlottegelin said:

thats really gross.