Awwww supa

I am a survivor of domestic violence.

Being beaten by a man is NOT love, it's hate, anger, power and control, etc. You are not losing one person, but 2 people - Lisa and the unborn child. I hope that boyfriend goes to jail for a very long time. Karma will take care of him in due course.


My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this most difficult time.

We are having the wake on Tuedsay night and the Funeral is next Wednesday. The family has decided to bury the baby with my cousin

Last night I found something that reminded me of a very very special day. My aunt Bell (Lisa's Mom) planned a surprise birthday party for my grandmother's 80th. And she told my grandma that she was taking her out to lunch. So my grandmother shows up to a pretty deserted restaurant and my aunt took her to the back where there was a banquet room and our family and her friends were there and my grandmother was so surprised and she cried.

Well as I have said before, my cousin would disappear at times and the family would not know where she was. Right before my grandmothers birthday, Lisa contacted her sister and she convinced her that she needed to be at the party. So not only was the birthday a surprise but one of the surprises for my grandmother was that Lisa showed up

Well last night I found the pictures from that party. This was the last time I saw Lisa. And she was happy that day, which makes me happy to remember her by. I have one picture that is of the grandkids and my grandmother. All of us surrounding her and in the picture Lisa is standing right next to me and I have my arm around her.

I am going to make copies of this picture for the family and along with my domestic abuse thread, I am placing this picture in the casket. The thread to represent her eternal freedom and peace and the picture to represent the love that the family had for her. Again, thank you to everyone who has reached out to me at this time. I have never lost someone like this before. It seems like it would make more sense if it was an accident or something natural, but murder?

This event didn't change my course of direction as far as what I consider my mission in this life, but it has galvanized me in the most amazing way. It's wonderful how god just confirms things at times like this. People have been saying almost the same exact things to me in how this is affecting me and what I am going to do with my life. The best way I can honor her is to focus and to bring peace to others. I know this is my calling. Thank you Lisa for giving me a beautiful gift, even in your death. I could never have imagined that could be so.

I love you.



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[Edited 3/17/06 11:27am]

I have had so many questions and so many things have been going through my mind this last day. One thing that really keeps repeating over and over in my mind is just how important the issue of domestic abuse is to address in our society and how truly blessed I am to be one of the people who made it out and changed for the better.

Writing the domestic abuse thread was very healing for me. Recently I made the step to forgive my ex for the abuse and told him that I forgive him. It took me 11 years to reach that point but it was a bold step and a huge part of my growth away from my pain.

This whole experience is showing me that my voice is needed. I have something to say and I am committed to saying it. I am in the process of writing about my step of forgiveness. That is as much a part of the message as the pain. I am also looking into working with community centers to offer myself in whatever way I can, to make a difference and help other survivors of this.

I never got to share my thread with Lisa but I have printed out a copy and am going to place that in her casket at the funeral as a symbol for her eternal freedom and peace. Thank you everyone for loving me through this. I truly truly appreciate it

I love you Richard!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I love you and think you are very brave. Maybe you can one day explane how you can forgive, I am still angry, I try but I can't find a way to forgive

Whateva said:

I'm writing about this experience and the forgiveness I extended to my own abuser. I will share it with the org when I'm done

Again, thank you to everyone who has put their thoughts here or in orgnotes. The wake and funeral were a mix of all kinds of things. 2 very emotional days and some parts were upsetting and some were very wonderful. I feel the need to incorporate my experience and the things I'm learning in the forgiveness thread. I will be posting that soon. Thank you everyone for your prayers and thoughts. Lisa will be honored. I will see to that

It is a matter of choices, but that doesn't mean in the end one can't feel compassion.

Saturday I went to Bingo with my Grandma, Grandpa and cousin and my grandmother told us that my cousins killer called her at the house

She said she answered the phone:

Hello?

Yes, I'm looking for Lisa Corona

Who is this???

My name is Stephen King and we have an arrest warrant for Miss Corona. Is she living there?

An arrest warrant?

Yes.

Well you're going to have to go to the cemetary to find her.

Cemetary? What do you mean?

What do you think people at the cemetary are doing?

Oh, I'm sorry! *click*


My stomach sank and I had the darkest feeling after hearing this Who knows what the hell this asshole was doing by calling my grandmother's house. Maybe he was trying to see if he could pull Lisa back into his fucked up grip. My grandmother thinks he just wanted to make sure she was dead. His reaction at the end of the call makes me think he was not really sure what his assault did to her. Well now he knows he killed her. I hope he's afraid and I hope the cops catch his ass so he can pay for what he did to Lisa.

It's weird because I have been on the verge of busting into tears since hearing this story. And I didn't know why I was feeling this way. How strange that I was able to disconnect the two. Last night as I was listening to music, I realized....*hello!* The reason you feel on the verge of crying at all times the last few days is because of this.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

oh sweetheart this is horrible!
Isn't there anything that can be done abt him calling? Can't your grandma turn him in or something?

Saturday I went to Bingo with my Grandma, Grandpa and cousin and my grandmother told us that my cousins killer called her at the house

She said she answered the phone:

Hello?

Yes, I'm looking for Lisa Corona

Who is this???

My name is Stephen King and we have an arrest warrant for Miss Corona. Is she living there?

An arrest warrant?

Yes.

Well you're going to have to go to the cemetary to find her.

Cemetary? What do you mean?

What do you think people at the cemetary are doing?

Oh, I'm sorry! *click*


My stomach sank and I had the darkest feeling after hearing this Who knows what the hell this asshole was doing by calling my grandmother's house. Maybe he was trying to see if he could pull Lisa back into his fucked up grip. My grandmother thinks he just wanted to make sure she was dead. His reaction at the end of the call makes me think he was not really sure what his assault did to her. Well now he knows he killed her. I hope he's afraid and I hope the cops catch his ass so he can pay for what he did to Lisa.

It's weird because I have been on the verge of busting into tears since hearing this story. And I didn't know why I was feeling this way. How strange that I was able to disconnect the two. Last night as I was listening to music, I realized....*hello!* The reason you feel on the verge of crying at all times the last few days is because of this.

i have been wondering if the police have been doing anything
i hope you feel you can call them and relay this information
hopefully they would contact your cousin and your grandma for more information

they should at least take the bastard in and question him