You guys, my cousin passed away today

My cousin Lisa is in a coma in the hospital right now. She is brain dead. She was beat up real bad by her boyfriend to the point where she suffered internal bleeding. I just talked to my other cousin Sonya and she said that the doctors said her body is shutting down. On top of that she was pregnant when this happened.

Many of you know my experience with domestic abuse and this is hitting me really really hard. My cousin made all kinds of bad choices in this life. But like many people, she was running from her pain. She would run off and do her thing, we'd not hear from her for a while, she'd show back up and then run off again and we wouldn't hear from her for another while.

She went up north to try and make a better life for herself and got with another person who was going to hurt her. Many people just look at someone like my cousin and say well she made her choices and now she has to live with them and yes she made her choices, but she's still my family and I love her no matter how flawed she was. I just wish that she would have been able to heal herself instead of this.

My cousin said she was going to her mom's house to talk about making arrangements because they don't believe in keeping her body alive the way it is right now. I can't believe this is happening. Please pray for me and my family.





today is Wednesday 3/15/06....my cousin died today. Rest in peace Lisa

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[Edited 3/15/06 14:53pm]

You guys, my cousin passed away today

that is amazing about the possibility of the baby. I hope the man that did this is faced with a hard critical reckoning with justice.

ufoclub said:

So far they have not caught him. My aunt is in the process of moving out and my cousin was moving her clothes out of the house when he attacked her. A neighbor found her unconcious in the alley next to the house. I pray to God they catch this bastard and that he pays for killing my cousin.

the animal instinct is to want to beat him into nothingness, but hopefully things will work through the system and he will be punished. I have no idea if you can help or push to have him brought to justice, but I hope it happens... and happens quickly.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Supa, you have a lot to share with others who are currently struggling in the situation you escaped.

As you reflect on the healing you have done just know that so many of us here adore you.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your cousin and her baby.

And I have been thinking about her kids. All of them are wards of the state and I was thinkin last night how she will never have the chance to straighten out her life and that her children will never have the opportunity to seek her out later in their lives

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You know what? Make sure the state has your current address so her children can find SOMEBODY when they come to ask question, because they will sooner or later. Then you can truly be a light in their lives.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You know what? Make sure the state has your current address so her children can find SOMEBODY when they come to ask question, because they will sooner or later. Then you can truly be a light in their lives.

I have had so many questions and so many things have been going through my mind this last day. One thing that really keeps repeating over and over in my mind is just how important the issue of domestic abuse is to address in our society and how truly blessed I am to be one of the people who made it out and changed for the better.

Writing the domestic abuse thread was very healing for me. Recently I made the step to forgive my ex for the abuse and told him that I forgive him. It took me 11 years to reach that point but it was a bold step and a huge part of my growth away from my pain.

This whole experience is showing me that my voice is needed. I have something to say and I am committed to saying it. I am in the process of writing about my step of forgiveness. That is as much a part of the message as the pain. I am also looking into working with community centers to offer myself in whatever way I can, to make a difference and help other survivors of this.

I never got to share my thread with Lisa but I have printed out a copy and am going to place that in her casket at the funeral as a symbol for her eternal freedom and peace. Thank you everyone for loving me through this. I truly truly appreciate it