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PrintableIllustrator said: I've engaged in some pretty pitiful sex lately.
Does this apply in any way to the subject...? pity edit [Edited 3/10/06 2:31am] No it is not pitiful sex at all.!!!! | |
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onenitealone said: WillyWonka said: No. Why insult someone, and their intelligence and their dignity by pity dating them? If I wouldn't want someone doing something to me, I wouldn't do it to someone else.
There's my answer. No. Absolutely not. Why put them AND yourself through that? i know that is a good answer and i wouldn't won't that either, but the situation is much more complicated as that!! He likes this person a lot but never thought it would come to a point of dating em and beyond. This person has a lot of problems and everytime you look into their innocent eyes all u do is feel sorry for them. Thats what i am talkin about what my friend says!! | |
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saintsation said: onenitealone said: There's my answer. No. Absolutely not. Why put them AND yourself through that? i know that is a good answer and i wouldn't won't that either, but the situation is much more complicated as that!! He likes this person a lot but never thought it would come to a point of dating em and beyond. This person has a lot of problems and everytime you look into their innocent eyes all u do is feel sorry for them. Thats what i am talkin about what my friend says!! Well, you asked a question and I gave an answer.  You didn't give any background.
But STILL... your friend just needs to be upfront and honest to the other person. Then the ball's in the other person's court. It's for them to decide whether they want to go out with someone who has little interest, then. (Why they'd do that I have no idea but...  ).
Besides, using the 'innocent eyes' reason is a cop-out. Your friend must have very little self-control if that's all it takes for him to start going out/sleeping with someone. Again, back to being honest.  | |
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onenitealone said: saintsation said: i know that is a good answer and i wouldn't won't that either, but the situation is much more complicated as that!! He likes this person a lot but never thought it would come to a point of dating em and beyond. This person has a lot of problems and everytime you look into their innocent eyes all u do is feel sorry for them. Thats what i am talkin about what my friend says!! Well, you asked a question and I gave an answer. You didn't give any background.
But STILL... your friend just needs to be upfront and honest to the other person. Then the ball's in the other person's court. It's for them to decide whether they want to go out with someone who has little interest, then. (Why they'd do that I have no idea but... ).
Besides, using the 'innocent eyes' reason is a cop-out. Your friend must have very little self-control if that's all it takes for him to start going out/sleeping with someone. Again, back to being honest. Background here it is: Person a non US citizen my friend found out like 3 months into their thing. Its not his fault he one, its his daddy's, and other things too. My friend says the person is mad in love with em now and if he leave he would feel like he abandoned em. i TOL MY FRIEND U ALWAYS GET CAUGHT UP IN THINGS LIKE this!!! | |
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saintsation said: onenitealone said: Well, you asked a question and I gave an answer. You didn't give any background.
But STILL... your friend just needs to be upfront and honest to the other person. Then the ball's in the other person's court. It's for them to decide whether they want to go out with someone who has little interest, then. (Why they'd do that I have no idea but... ).
Besides, using the 'innocent eyes' reason is a cop-out. Your friend must have very little self-control if that's all it takes for him to start going out/sleeping with someone. Again, back to being honest. Background here it is: Person a non US citizen my friend found out like 3 months into their thing. Its not his fault he one, its his daddy's, and other things too. My friend says the person is mad in love with em now and if he leave he would feel like he abandoned em. i TOL MY FRIEND U ALWAYS GET CAUGHT UP IN THINGS LIKE this!!! That is sad. But is it your friend's responsibility? I don't mean it to sound harsh but it isn't your friend's responsibility, tough as it is. And going out with someone solely for that reason is a recipe for disaster, if you ask me. I'd be well pissed off if I was going out with someone and found out that was the reason they were seeing me. It is flawed from the start.
I think your friend needs to be there as much as he can be. But that doesn't necessarily mean sleeping/going out with this other guy. Just my  | |
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If I was in the dating arena ...
that reason would not even be on the bottom of my list what an insult to the other person | |
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onenitealone said: saintsation said: Background here it is: Person a non US citizen my friend found out like 3 months into their thing. Its not his fault he one, its his daddy's, and other things too. My friend says the person is mad in love with em now and if he leave he would feel like he abandoned em. i TOL MY FRIEND U ALWAYS GET CAUGHT UP IN THINGS LIKE this!!! That is sad. But is it your friend's responsibility? I don't mean it to sound harsh but it isn't your friend's responsibility, tough as it is. And going out with someone solely for that reason is a recipe for disaster, if you ask me. I'd be well pissed off if I was going out with someone and found out that was the reason they were seeing me. It is flawed from the start.
I think your friend needs to be there as much as he can be. But that doesn't necessarily mean sleeping/going out with this other guy. Just my Appreciate your response, really do, but they were already doing all that like sleeping with each other way before he found out about that. The person told him cause he started to trust him and fell for him. SO now he hoping the immigration doesn't come after him now for harboring one cause the socail security people are stalking him now!! [Edited 3/10/06 9:28am] | |
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I did date a guy who at first i thought was so sexy ,he was kinda rough looking and seemed like a real hard guy. I soon found out he had issues with his Dad ,he was a nasty MF to him ,i stayed with him for a while just out of pity ..i even ended up not being attracted to him anymore as it was a drain on me he was so clingy and possesive with me..so i broke up with him and he cried 
I felt really bad at the time ,i still feel guilty now actually! | |
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saintsation said: onenitealone said: That is sad. But is it your friend's responsibility? I don't mean it to sound harsh but it isn't your friend's responsibility, tough as it is. And going out with someone solely for that reason is a recipe for disaster, if you ask me. I'd be well pissed off if I was going out with someone and found out that was the reason they were seeing me. It is flawed from the start.
I think your friend needs to be there as much as he can be. But that doesn't necessarily mean sleeping/going out with this other guy. Just my Appreciate your response, really do, but they were already doing all that like sleeping with each other way before he found out about that. The person told him cause he started to trust him and fell for him. SO now he hoping the immigration doesn't come after him now for harboring one cause the socail security people are stalking him now!! [Edited 3/10/06 9:28am] Whew, it's a difficult one. But I still think your friend must be honest with this guy. For the other guy's sake. And your friend might feel less pressure as a result.
I hope it sorts itself out.  | |
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onenitealone said: saintsation said: Appreciate your response, really do, but they were already doing all that like sleeping with each other way before he found out about that. The person told him cause he started to trust him and fell for him. SO now he hoping the immigration doesn't come after him now for harboring one cause the socail security people are stalking him now!! [Edited 3/10/06 9:28am] Whew, it's a difficult one. But I still think your friend must be honest with this guy. For the other guy's sake. And your friend might feel less pressure as a result.
I hope it sorts itself out. Yeah ans with him being 21, young, and cute doesn't help neither my friend said/. Oh well!!! | |
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Nikki23 said: I did date a guy who at first i thought was so sexy ,he was kinda rough looking and seemed like a real hard guy. I soon found out he had issues with his Dad ,he was a nasty MF to him ,i stayed with him for a while just out of pity ..i even ended up not being attracted to him anymore as it was a drain on me he was so clingy and possesive with me..so i broke up with him and he cried
I felt really bad at the time ,i still feel guilty now actually! You just like breaking people hearts after you get them in mad love wit hyou hah. Hello, still waiting on response to orgnote i sent yah | |
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saintsation said: onenitealone said: Well, you asked a question and I gave an answer. You didn't give any background.
But STILL... your friend just needs to be upfront and honest to the other person. Then the ball's in the other person's court. It's for them to decide whether they want to go out with someone who has little interest, then. (Why they'd do that I have no idea but... ).
Besides, using the 'innocent eyes' reason is a cop-out. Your friend must have very little self-control if that's all it takes for him to start going out/sleeping with someone. Again, back to being honest. Background here it is: Person a non US citizen my friend found out like 3 months into their thing. Its not his fault he one, its his daddy's, and other things too. My friend says the person is mad in love with em now and if he leave he would feel like he abandoned em. i TOL MY FRIEND U ALWAYS GET CAUGHT UP IN THINGS LIKE this!!!  how old are your friends? 13 and shit?One of Dansa's org hornies 
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DynamicSavior said: saintsation said: Background here it is: Person a non US citizen my friend found out like 3 months into their thing. Its not his fault he one, its his daddy's, and other things too. My friend says the person is mad in love with em now and if he leave he would feel like he abandoned em. i TOL MY FRIEND U ALWAYS GET CAUGHT UP IN THINGS LIKE this!!! how old are your friends? 13 and shit?No he is 21!!! | |
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