My tips:


~ Time

~ Space

~ Perspective

~ Friends/Family

~ Hope


No matter what goes wrong in life, I always remember that - cheesy as it sounds - things usually do get better. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

What seems terrible at one point in time can seem totally insignificant at another.

You just have to deal with things as best as you can and never be afraid to ask for help.

Slave2daGroove said:

All of that. Panic, pity party, reflection, change. . . all of that. I have found that I have an inclination to run away. To want to just go, "fuck it all", and get on a bus or a plane, and start over. Thankfully, I'm too close to my family and friends to be able to actually do that. 'Cause I don't think it would really help.

The main thing, as onenitealone said, is just to remember that things always change. Always. When things are really bad, that thought is comforting.

Usually when I bottom out, I kinda settle in some melancholy coma, where I don't have any energy or focus to do what I need to, to get back on track.

I can't think straight when I'm frustrated like that, and usually have to chill out for a couple days till the fog clears.

Sometimes it's perfectly fine to walk away from things in your life. If you're wasting too much energy on something that's really not worth it...

Thanks for everyone's honest responses. Sometimes just reading things like these help people and that's why I started the thread.

go through it all. don't get distracted and/or blindsided by the badness. it all works out in the end.

Slave2daGroove said:

I agree. I never usually participate in "serious" threads in this forum, but I'm going through a really tough time at the moment, and just reading everyone's advice really does help.

Slave2daGroove said:

And thanks for the orgnote. I have to post this here because for some reason I am BLOCKED from sending you any!

It's happened before too when I have tried to orgnote you. Why have you blocked me?!

You should take comfort that when bottoming out the only place to go is up. There is hope. Hold on to it.



M

Slave2daGroove said:

Well i bottomed out last year with Hurricane Katrina, IRS, SAINTS/RAIDERS flopping in the NFL season, almost losing the Saints to San Antonio, and oh yeah some breakup that i am glad that happened now wit hsomeone i forgot their name, but anyway, Like New Orleans i slowly came back, day by day, lost 20 pounds and now better shape tha never been and stronger to wilp 3 people azzes at a later date, finances in the 5 digits, New Orleans coming back and property and May the house should be back and a new boy toy!! It'll get better!!

onenitealone said:

Slave2daGroove said:

I know but when you start to think about what can happen to your children "outside", you can become crazy.

I don't have anytinhg to add S2DG. I just wanted to give you this.

Slavedarling

Just look around the world. You could be living in a cold dark cave in Iran, you could be homeless in New Orleans, you could be fighting cancer/aids, you could be a junkie living in a cardboard box in tent city or alone and homeless and sick from nothing to eat; you could be on the front lines in war watching your buddies get killed or maimed, you could be lying in a coma brain dead, you could be, you could be, you could be....

But you're not. You're a very likeable guy with education and... talent; toys to play that allow you to create. You have friends to talk to who listen and care. You have a roof over your head; you have two arms, two legs and a brain that works and can create beautiful thoughts. You have a job that provides daily bread. You have faith. You have, you have, you have.

If you think about ALL the things that you have been blessed with, you will know...you have everything to celebrate. Bottoming out is just natures way of bringing it all back to the reality of how blessed most of us are. Pain is natures way of putting it all into perspective. CHANGE THE CONSCIOUSNESS AND THE FALSE CONDITION WILL DISAPPEAR.

xx

Red said:

Red, I'm fuckin speechless.

That's the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me in my life. Words can't begin to say what I'm feeling with this post but I'll use these two.

Thank you.

saintsation said:

Thx

Romera said:

minneapolisgenius said:

You're the last person I would block, how do I fix it?

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Precisely. Good advice.

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Hey Lovely Girl!

Slave2daGroove said:

I don't know actually. Well that's good to know it's not intentional then. I was thinking, "Geez, was it something I said?"