skipper said:

Spats said:

Love is when you can't go two days without feeling like shit for not talking to the person of your affections.

JPW said:

no dear that remorse..but yeah next time dont be coy approach me..

weepingwall said:

weepingwall said:

I don't think so.

And only love can break your heart.

Those are two good definitions.

Love nearly made me die! It's too scary.

JPW said:

are you perhaps by any chance happend to be morrissey?

skipper said:

yes... as far as I know it was and spats I'm 29

Unrequited love

CinisterCee said:

...all the time...

Love is a weird thing and is different with different people. I think I did once meet my true love but no matter how hard we tired circumstance stopped us from getting together.

I love my fiance in a different way to the way I loved the other guy. Some may say I don't love him as much, I say it is just in a different way

I've loved many girls and meant it. They are all lovely or at least I thought they were at the time. Ive been really in love with some people but I couldnt tell them. Thats real harsh I tell ya.

I haven't.

I've had unrequited love (who hasn't?), and been in situations where I thought I was in love, but I've realised later that I wasn't. And I haven't had a 'real' relationship, I guess. Not one that's lasted for more than a few months.

Various reasons...

onenitealone said:

one day it will happen, hon, when you least expect it for me, also, when I'm ready I guess

Cheek said:

Yanno... not to say that no one ever wanted to be with me, it's just that I didn't feel the same.

Love is very,very very hard to find. A lot of people think they are in love right now but it will turn out not to be love. That's one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high. As high as it's ever been. That one time was probably it for me.

Natisse said:

Thank you, hun. I appreciate that.

I don't yearn for it as such, though. I have in the past, if I'm honest but that was when I was younger, less sure of myself or what I wanted. As Anx said on another thread recently - which I totally agreed with - I think it said less about my desires and more about my own need for security. A dependancy issue, I guess. And perhaps I'm too comfortable in my own skin, maybe.

But you know my thoughts on this: as far as I am concerned, life is there to be experienced. Totally. Every single facet of it. What could be more thrilling, joyous and life-affirming than being in a loving relationship with someone?? It must be an incredible experience. I can't imagine the range and depth of feelings that one must go through. And I'd hate to think that I might leave this earth without ever having known that. But it's not the be-all and end-all of my existence. It would be very nice if it happened but I don't put my life on hold for it.

And that's one reason - as MickG says - why I don't try and give 'advice' to others about their love lives. Common sense or my opinion, maybe, but not advice. What qualifications do I have? The only things I know are what I've experienced or what I've seen my friends go through. But I (personally) have learned a lot that way.

So if it happens, it happens. And the man who 'finds' you, will be a very lucky man indeed.

onenitealone said:

very, very well put and indeed I do know you view on this and it's another view we happen to share

totally agree with everything you said hon

Nat ---->

Spats said:

You can still be in love/love someone but not be compatible or get along. Many divorced couples still love each other, it's just that they give each other hell. Divorce is extremely tragic and traumatic. Also, it's easy to be in love but much more difficult to love (action verb). Many people don't know how or are pretty lousy at it.

heartbeatocean said:

So deep...

CinisterCee said:

Are you laughing at me?

Spats said:

true, that

somtimes love forms with the one you hang out with the most and the longest...

heartbeatocean said:

No! It was actually thought provoking that I had a little moment.

CinisterCee said:

Aw...

I expected scorn or at the very least a bit of sarcasm for posting a thread like this but all your replies have been so honest and heartfelt-I am truly touched.

Love is the most wonderful and confusing thing. If you are lucky enough to find the ONE, don't let them get away.

it's been two years since the last time, which has left me kind of scarred.....since then it seems to be vey hard for me to fall in love....I am sure this is my problem and not someone else's.....hopefully I'll change someday!