Do you have too much baggage that you can't possibly substain a stable relationship?

You know how there are some people who just have too much mental drama?

Are you one of those?

Do you know someone like that?

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I never said my relationship was stable...

The baggage I have is all on my ass...

I stay away from women with baggage or "issues" or who are into drama. Life is too short for that crap.

REDFEATHERS said:

That sounds nice.

Do you have a picture you could send to me?

HA! That's all I have to say, is HA!!!

I am one of very few people I know of that is actually able to substain a stable relationship.

People should really learn to take advice from where sucess can be measured.

I have seen several people take advice from losers in love on the topic of love. That's insane.

face it man, we are old .... sorry to say it, but we are


when you get to be our age, there IS baggage. the key is to find someone that can deal with your bags and you theirs ....

I once went out with a girl with an ass like a horse.
That 'stable' relationship lasted 'bout 2 weeks.

I agree. What a woman's ass looks like is important. You don't want too much junk in the trunk.

nakedpianoplayer said:

Yeah everyone has a little baggage, but it's the good ones that know how to deal with it and not hurt others because of it.

CarrieLee said:

I have my own personal emotional bellboy to take care of mine...

I'll get back to you in 45 minutes with the answer

nakedpianoplayer said:

Actually, I've found that the older I get, the less baggage I have... ...comes from learning and growth due to experience.

Byron said:

I agree. I find that the older I get the more I realize what works and what doesnt work for my life. I've actually purged a lot of unproductive shit from my life. I feel like we are all works in progress.

Byron said:

ok, thats understandable, and with age come emotional growth (or so it should).... however, when i was younger, i didnt have children to worry about, i didnt have issues that i do now with housing concerns, i wasnt responsible for a lot of the things that i am becomming responsible for now that i am older.... when i see a man who has 4 or 5 kids from 4 or 5 women, i know hes carrying baggage that im not going to deal with. im interested in someone who has a firm grasp on their life and are emotionally grounded, yet responsible... but who can still kick up their heels and pretend if nothing more than for one night that they dont have these things to look after and have fun without some woman chasing him around because he refuses to do what he needs to do.


am i confused on the baggage issue ?

nakedpianoplayer said:

Exactly.

No matter if the experiences we have had are mostly good or mostly bad they have certainly taught us what we want and what we don't want and in that sense made us more picky. Our personalities have become more complex and specific and we share fewer common denominators with those around us. All this makes it very tricky to find a partner that is a good match. At the same time we've (usually) learned to take ourselves a bit less seriously and to see beyond the surface in another person. So I guess in the end the positive and the negative cancel each other out and make it just as difficult to find a partner as it's always been.

nakedpianoplayer said:

I guess I don't consider kids and housing concerns to be baggage...just responsibilities. (My daughter is not even a "responsibility", but a ridiculously beautiful addition to Life... )...The guy who has 4 kids with 4 different women definitely has baggage, though...lol...but it's not the children that are baggage, it's what-the-hell-ever it is that resides in him to be so indiscriminant and irresponsible that's the real baggage in my eyes.

unkemptpueblo said:

Exactly... ...I'm thankful that I'm not just adding more issues on top of older ones, but ridding myself of those older ones thru growth while also keeping newer ones from developing. I'd make a better partner in a relationship now than I would have 10 years ago...

I have a huge amount of baggage but I wouldn't dream of inflicting it on anyone else and I certainly wouldn't let it jeopardise any chance of finding happiness.Once you're over a certain age theres bound to be some kind of history but the key is to learn from it and chalk it up as lessons learned.

Ok my baggage is Ipod baggage


Is that a problem?

Every1 has baggage 2 a certain degree, but I think if U can't have a relationship without xpecting your mate 2 deal with all of your bullsh*t, then U probably need 2 work on yourself before U involve somebody else in that mess.

I am not always stable...how the fuck am I supposed to have a stable relationship....

everybody has some kind of baggage its just a matter of how you handle it.

Byron said:

i knew someone would say that about calling my kids 'baggage'...

now, you know how i feel about my babies, so you know they are the single most important aspect of my life.. however, i think when a man looks at a woman with kids, he sees so much more responsibility. its not a bad thing, because, its true... we are a lot of responsibility

Spats said:

Ha!! Good luck with that

I know. I am finding most women have issues and are in love with drama.

Spats said:

Spats said:

Not this women...

I hate the drama- there are women out there that do not get caught up in it.