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How long before you move in with somebody? What's reasonable? What has worked for you people?
I've had an offer to move in with somebody whom I love dearly, but have only been with for a few months. There are some practical issues, but more than that, it just seems a little nuts. Is it? Seattle Org Invasion July 28th-30th http://www.prince.org/msg/2/177514
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Moderator | I would say at least 1 year b4 that happens Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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nah it is entirely dependant on the situation
some people could be married in that length of time but if it feels a little nuts then i guess you have to question if you are ready | |
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I would say that you are the only person who can answer that.
If you are in love then go with your gut feeling. Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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muirdo said: I would say that you are the only person who can answer that.
If you are in love then go with your gut feeling. | |
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emm said: muirdo said: I would say that you are the only person who can answer that.
If you are in love then go with your gut feeling. How....U....Do.....in....? Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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luv4u said: I would say at least 1 year b4 that happens
co-sign. It has been my experience that moving in with anyone in a romantic setting before you have the chance to see them in all seasons = heartache. I know that right now moving in together may sound wonderful and it does have its financial benefits, but it may not be worth it in the long run. If this isn't a "have to" situation, then i would recommend against it. | |
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alexnevermind319 said: luv4u said: I would say at least 1 year b4 that happens
co-sign. It has been my experience that moving in with anyone in a romantic setting before you have the chance to see them in all seasons = heartache. I know that right now moving in together may sound wonderful and it does have its financial benefits, but it may not be worth it in the long run. If this isn't a "have to" situation, then i would recommend against it. See, this seems like quality advice. Seattle Org Invasion July 28th-30th http://www.prince.org/msg/2/177514
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emm said: nah it is entirely dependant on the situation
some people could be married in that length of time but if it feels a little nuts then i guess you have to question if you are ready . . . but it doesn't really FEEL nuts. . . it just seems, intellectually, like a possibly unwise thing. . . edit [Edited 2/21/06 0:39am] Seattle Org Invasion July 28th-30th http://www.prince.org/msg/2/177514
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muirdo said: I would say that you are the only person who can answer that.
If you are in love then go with your gut feeling. And I am in love, but following my gut feelings has led me into absolute misery in the past, so I hesitate. I hate that! I want to be able to dive in like I've never been hurt. But I can't. Seattle Org Invasion July 28th-30th http://www.prince.org/msg/2/177514
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my boyfriend moved in with me after half a year.
absolutely no regrets. yes SIR! | |
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If you are wanting to move in with someone. Have them move in with you. The place you own. Because if it goes bad then you can kick their ass out and not the other way around. I have had no interest in moving in with anyone. I like my space. I don't need to see them every single day when i wake up and when i go to bed. | |
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Spats said: If you are wanting to move in with someone. Have them move in with you. The place you own. Because if it goes bad then you can kick their ass out and not the other way around. I have had no interest in moving in with anyone. I like my space. I don't need to see them every single day when i wake up and when i go to bed.
Well, in this case, I would prefer to have him move in with me, but he's tied to his job. The commute would be nasty. I like my space too, but it's exactly the waking up and going to bed that I enjoy sharing. Seattle Org Invasion July 28th-30th http://www.prince.org/msg/2/177514
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Depends, depends, depends, depends, depends, depends, depends, depends, depends
It really just depends, a day if it feels right, years if it feels wrong, but then if you have been together years and it still ain't workin' maybe it's time to call it a day. If you don't have dependants, fuck it! Give it a go what harm can it do. If you do have dependants, give it a bit more thought. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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Ex-Moderator | I've never lived with someone. I don't know that I ever will. Unless we could afford a really big place so I had my own room for getting away in. I need my alone time. But I need my cuddle time too. So I suppose it's not all bad.
In any case, do what you think is right. How's that for a generic answer? |
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I don't think I'll ever move in with someone. I'm too much of a heathen. | |
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SeattleInvasion said: muirdo said: I would say that you are the only person who can answer that.
If you are in love then go with your gut feeling. And I am in love, but following my gut feelings has led me into absolute misery in the past, so I hesitate. I hate that! I want to be able to dive in like I've never been hurt. But I can't. if you have any doubts don't do it. me personally i like my space if i see a person too much it will drive me crazy. sleepovers are good enough but not too damn much. | |
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I wouldn't move in with someone unless I was married. To me it takes all the romance out of seeing them on a date.
But that's just me. (btw very happily married this past december!) Good luck! | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: I don't think I'll ever move in with someone. I'm too much of a heathen.
isnt it about time you started to think about moving out of your parents house? Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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bizarre said: I wouldn't move in with someone unless I was married. To me it takes all the romance out of seeing them on a date.
But that's just me. (btw very happily married this past december!) Good luck! While I'm not planning on getting married (to anyone, ever ), I do know what you mean. We're still in that new, fun, happy, fluttery phase, and I'm aware that that's a transient thing, and I'm not anxious to speed its demise. Seattle Org Invasion July 28th-30th http://www.prince.org/msg/2/177514
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the first time i met my boyfriend i went back to his house and eleven months later i'm still there having a great time with him,so far it seems to have worked for me.i say go with your instinct,if it doesn't work out you leave, simple as that. | |
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my now-hubby and i moved in together after a year and a half. that felt like the right time for us, but of course everybody is different.
i'd recommend moving into a neutral space, though - seems like the less territorial choice. good luck! | |
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2 minutes! | |
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SeattleInvasion said: bizarre said: I wouldn't move in with someone unless I was married. To me it takes all the romance out of seeing them on a date.
But that's just me. (btw very happily married this past december!) Good luck! While I'm not planning on getting married (to anyone, ever ), I do know what you mean. We're still in that new, fun, happy, fluttery phase, and I'm aware that that's a transient thing, and I'm not anxious to speed its demise. sounds like way too soon then! the soonest I've moved in with someone was 2 years. Actually that's if you don't count this one guy I lived with once who I started going out with after having lived together 6 months as housemates, and that was a weird situation! hardly ever left the house! | |
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althom said: 2 minutes!
I hope you make that the best 2 minutes your wife has ever had.... | |
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Right after the wedding. | |
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I wouldn't ever marry someone without living with them first. But that's just me. I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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muirdo said: JDINTERACTIVE said: I don't think I'll ever move in with someone. I'm too much of a heathen.
isnt it about time you started to think about moving out of your parents house? I did three years ago because I was a heathen. | |
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SeattleInvasion said: What's reasonable? What has worked for you people?
I've had an offer to move in with somebody whom I love dearly, but have only been with for a few months. There are some practical issues, but more than that, it just seems a little nuts. Is it? Go with your own feeling, if it feels a bit much, wait. If it feels ok, go for ik. It's a good way to find out if this relationship is as good as you thought it would be. | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: muirdo said: isnt it about time you started to think about moving out of your parents house? I did three years ago because I was a heathen. If you were in heathen why did you move out? Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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