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PrintableCarrieLee said: CalhounSq said: "I don't like confrontation" is SUCH a cop out  The truth is they need more time to think up excuses to try & cover up the fact that they're a shitty person doing a shitty thing to someone who probably doesn't deserve it. They simply don't want to get called on their bullshit & it's pathetic  Ya know...you're right. Your posts are helping me more than you know!!! 
It's trippy b/c (whether I should have or not) I've excused people who've done shitty things to me BUT you have to at least own up to it, you know? If you can't even do that & be honest about it, give me the fucking courtesy I deserve, then it's better to part ways b/c the shit WILL happen again - I'll be damned if I let a muthafucka do it to me twice 
Then they wait SO LONG that they know you're waiting to blast their ass, so they really stay out of dodge then! It's all so dumb & hurtful & could really be avoided & dealt with in a decent way if people would just be honest & have some fucking balls... I'm just'a RAMBLIN'! 
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CalhounSq said: CarrieLee said: Ya know...you're right. Your posts are helping me more than you know!!!
It's trippy b/c (whether I should have or not) I've excused people who've done shitty things to me BUT you have to at least own up to it, you know? If you can't even do that & be honest about it, give me the fucking courtesy I deserve, then it's better to part ways b/c the shit WILL happen again - I'll be damned if I let a muthafucka do it to me twice
Then they wait SO LONG that they know you're waiting to blast their ass, so they really stay out of dodge then! It's all so dumb & hurtful & could really be avoided & dealt with in a decent way if people would just be honest & have some fucking balls... I'm just'a RAMBLIN'!
Man, it's like you're telling my whole life story!!! | |
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Not wanting a confrontation is not a cop out all. It's best to end it quickly instead of having one last big tearful dramatic confrontation. Let's face it. Women love drama. Why do you think they love soap operas so much. They love drama in all aspects of their life. If a realationship of theirs is going perfect they get bored. Women love arguments and drama. Women will create drama in the smallest things. Why do you think they step over really nice guys for "challenging guys". They want the drama and the roller coaster ride.
SAVE THE DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA. [Edited 3/3/06 8:39am] | |
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Spats said: Not wanting a confrontation is not a cop out all. It's best to end it quickly instead of having one last big tearful dramatic confrontation. Let's face it. Women love drama. Why do you think they love soap operas so much. They love drama in all aspects of their life. If a realationship of theirs is going perfect they get bored. Women love arguments and drama. Women will create drama in the smallest things. Why do you think they step over really nice guys for "challenging guys". They want the drama and the roller coaster ride.
SAVE THE DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA. [Edited 3/3/06 8:39am] I hope in your last dramatic confrontaion you didnt cry too much.  | |
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I have never cried over a woman. Never gonna happen.  | |
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Spats said: Not wanting a confrontation is not a cop out all. It's best to end it quickly instead of having one last big tearful dramatic confrontation. Let's face it. Women love drama. Why do you think they love soap operas so much. They love drama in all aspects of their life. If a realationship of theirs is going perfect they get bored. Women love arguments and drama. Women will create drama in the smallest things. Why do you think they step over really nice guys for "challenging guys". They want the drama and the roller coaster ride.
SAVE THE DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA. [Edited 3/3/06 8:39am] Who the fuck would cry over ending it with YOU? 
And your generalizations are charming, they really are. You really know women Spats. Gosh, how do you do it - all this knowledge you have? You should set up a school to cultivate more turds like yourself, seriously... Believe it or not you freak, & I don't even know why I take the TIME to respond... some PEOPLE just like honesty - not drama, not fucking soap operas (I'm a woman, yet not a fan of either - can you imagine??)... there's a such thing as honesty & being a decent human being but I really don't expect you to know jack shit about either of those I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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Spats said: I have never cried over a woman. Never gonna happen.
good for you neanderthal boy 
grunt grunt... so you dont have to find the link yourself http://www.m-w.com/ it's under N | |
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Spats said: I have never cried over a woman. Never gonna happen.
and just because you said the word "never", this means that one day soon YOU will be crying over a woman!!! never say never [Edited 3/3/06 15:50pm] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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It's not gonna happen. The pretty Blonde is the only woman who has really, really turned me on lately. And even if it never happens with her (it's not likely gonna happnen) I am not going lose any sleep over it. Other than that there is no other woman that will affect me enough to blubber over and never has been in the past.
And as far as me making anybody cry. For the most part I didn't stick around long enough to know so i can't be sure. I did not want to stick around for the drama. One girlfriend was really upset though because i stopped keeping in touch. Called less and less, etc,. So it got a little messy at the end. But i avoided most of it. | |
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Spats said: It's not gonna happen. The pretty Blonde is the only woman who has really, really turned me on lately. And even if it never happens with her (it's not likely gonna happnen) I am not going lose any sleep over it. Other than that there is no other woman that will affect me enough to blubber over and never has been in the past.
And as far as me making anybody cry. For the most part I didn't stick around long enough to know so i can't be sure. I did not want to stick around for the drama. One girlfriend was really upset though because i stopped keeping in touch. Called less and less, etc,. So it got a little messy at the end. But i avoided most of it. You are just all heart ain't ya? | |
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mdiver said: Spats said: It's not gonna happen. The pretty Blonde is the only woman who has really, really turned me on lately. And even if it never happens with her (it's not likely gonna happnen) I am not going lose any sleep over it. Other than that there is no other woman that will affect me enough to blubber over and never has been in the past.
And as far as me making anybody cry. For the most part I didn't stick around long enough to know so i can't be sure. I did not want to stick around for the drama. One girlfriend was really upset though because i stopped keeping in touch. Called less and less, etc,. So it got a little messy at the end. But i avoided most of it. You are just all heart ain't ya? he's just all ass. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Spats said: It's not gonna happen. The pretty Blonde is the only woman who has really, really turned me on lately. And even if it never happens with her (it's not likely gonna happnen) I am not going lose any sleep over it. Other than that there is no other woman that will affect me enough to blubber over and never has been in the past.
And as far as me making anybody cry. For the most part I didn't stick around long enough to know so i can't be sure. I did not want to stick around for the drama. One girlfriend was really upset though because i stopped keeping in touch. Called less and less, etc,. So it got a little messy at the end. But i avoided most of it. 
...and that's all I'm going to say. | |
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Spats said: I think i will. My relationships usually last only a couple months because i get bored. So i am the one that does the abandoning. If they did it it would not matter because i would be bored anyways and not mind if they did it. It would save me doing it.
You know what, Spats? I actually think I understand you. I'm relating to something you're saying here, not proud of it, don't quite know what to do about it... But I get bored too and often feel the urge to abandon. It has something to do with closing off the heart to others, not giving oneself to others, being proud and distant. I've also gone out with guys like you who are extremely detached.  It's a pattern of protecting the ego, but you can wind up in a lonely place. Not that you seem to care, or want to admit it anyway. But I do need to work on it myself, so I don't detach too much. For me, it takes effort and intent to be open to love and to show love. It's a bit sad. | |
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Spats said: Not wanting a confrontation is not a cop out all. It's best to end it quickly instead of having one last big tearful dramatic confrontation. Let's face it. Women love drama. Why do you think they love soap operas so much. They love drama in all aspects of their life. If a realationship of theirs is going perfect they get bored. Women love arguments and drama. Women will create drama in the smallest things. Why do you think they step over really nice guys for "challenging guys". They want the drama and the roller coaster ride.
SAVE THE DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA. [Edited 3/3/06 8:39am] Spats, I have compassion for you and even identify and can sort of relate to your psyche. But when you start jumpin' all over Women with a capital W, I can't abide. It is extremely offensive and basically untrue. Plenty of guys are drama queens and plenty of gals are stoics like yourself. So turn it down on the mysogynist comments please and speak about specific people in your life or don't speak at all. | |
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heartbeatocean said: Spats said: I think i will. My relationships usually last only a couple months because i get bored. So i am the one that does the abandoning. If they did it it would not matter because i would be bored anyways and not mind if they did it. It would save me doing it.
You know what, Spats? I actually think I understand you. I'm relating to something you're saying here, not proud of it, don't quite know what to do about it... But I get bored too and often feel the urge to abandon. It has something to do with closing off the heart to others, not giving oneself to others, being proud and distant. I've also gone out with guys like you who are extremely detached. It's a pattern of protecting the ego, but you can wind up in a lonely place. Not that you seem to care, or want to admit it anyway. But I do need to work on it myself, so I don't detach too much. For me, it takes effort and intent to be open to love and to show love. It's a bit sad.I don't think it's that. I just get to the point where i feel and think "I have had enough of this person" or they do something that annoys or turns me off and I think to myself "Can i put up with this for a long time". And if the answer is no then i move on. Or i see and meet someone more attractive. I want variety in my life. I don't want to tie myself down or limit myself or close off posibilities and options. That is what you do when you commit long term. I have never met or known a single woman who i could imagine spending the rest of my life with. There is not much out there to choose from if you were to want that. | |
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Spats said: heartbeatocean said: You know what, Spats? I actually think I understand you. I'm relating to something you're saying here, not proud of it, don't quite know what to do about it... But I get bored too and often feel the urge to abandon. It has something to do with closing off the heart to others, not giving oneself to others, being proud and distant. I've also gone out with guys like you who are extremely detached. It's a pattern of protecting the ego, but you can wind up in a lonely place. Not that you seem to care, or want to admit it anyway. But I do need to work on it myself, so I don't detach too much. For me, it takes effort and intent to be open to love and to show love. It's a bit sad.I don't think it's that. I just get to the point where i feel and think "I have had enough of this person" or they do something that annoys or turns me off and I think to myself "Can i put up with this for a long time". And if the answer is no then i move on. Or i see and meet someone more attractive. I want variety in my life. I don't want to tie myself down or limit myself or close off posibilities and options. That is what you do when you commit long term. I have never met or known a single woman who i could imagine spending the rest of my life with. There is not much out there to choose from if you were to want that. But that's because nobody is perfect or ever will be. Everyone on this earth has flaws and irritations. I grapple with this too because I happen to be a perfectionist and a bit of a loner and I naturally glom onto people's faults, which makes it difficult for me to accept them. But finding LOVE is about loving despite people's faults. I haven't found a way to truly commit to someone long term for the same reason as you...it just doesn't come naturally to me. But I do keep an open mind about it and struggle with it. | |
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heartbeatocean said: Spats said: I don't think it's that. I just get to the point where i feel and think "I have had enough of this person" or they do something that annoys or turns me off and I think to myself "Can i put up with this for a long time". And if the answer is no then i move on. Or i see and meet someone more attractive. I want variety in my life. I don't want to tie myself down or limit myself or close off posibilities and options. That is what you do when you commit long term. I have never met or known a single woman who i could imagine spending the rest of my life with. There is not much out there to choose from if you were to want that. But that's because nobody is perfect or ever will be. Everyone on this earth has flaws and irritations. I grapple with this too because I happen to be a perfectionist and a bit of a loner and I naturally glom onto people's faults, which makes it difficult for me to accept them. But finding LOVE is about loving despite people's faults. I haven't found a way to truly commit to someone long term for the same reason as you...it just doesn't come naturally to me. But I do keep an open mind about it and struggle with it. Aww, your effort is really sweet  Totally wasted on Spats, but sweet nonetheless...
He's simply not interested in ANYTHING deeper/more meaningful than "hot blonde" - that's literally IT for him  It's amazing... I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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CalhounSq said: heartbeatocean said: But that's because nobody is perfect or ever will be. Everyone on this earth has flaws and irritations. I grapple with this too because I happen to be a perfectionist and a bit of a loner and I naturally glom onto people's faults, which makes it difficult for me to accept them. But finding LOVE is about loving despite people's faults. I haven't found a way to truly commit to someone long term for the same reason as you...it just doesn't come naturally to me. But I do keep an open mind about it and struggle with it. Aww, your effort is really sweet Totally wasted on Spats, but sweet nonetheless...
He's simply not interested in ANYTHING deeper/more meaningful than "hot blonde" - that's literally IT for him It's amazing...I know, I got reeled in again. He wants variety, but he wants a string of pretty blondes. That's cool. Whateva... | |
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Some people here make it out to be bad. But there is nothing wrong with wanting variety and freedom. Things you cannot have in a marriage or long term relationship. I want to be with other pretty women instead of just one single woman for a long time. That is a depressing thought to me. Life is too short to waste time and limit yourself there is too much out there to experience. I don't want to miss out. | |
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Spats said: Some people here make it out to be bad. But there is nothing wrong with wanting variety and freedom. Things you cannot have in a marriage or long term relationship. I want to be with other pretty women instead of just one single woman for a long time. That is a depressing thought to me. Life is too short to waste time and limit yourself there is too much out there to experience. I don't want to miss out.
Believe me, you will miss out in the biggest way possible
You'll never learn, never see it coming & it will be beautiful I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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I will miss out on boredoam and being handcuffed to someone. I have not missed out on the good stuff. | |
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Spats said: I will miss out on boredoam and being handcuffed to someone. I have not missed out on the good stuff.
too bad. handcuffs can be loads of fun. | |
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missfee said: Have you been abandoned before?
Yes...But, he'll never see it that way except in the context that he believes he's smarter than me. If you care to say, please explain how you dealt with it and moved on....
I've seen that I'm the only one who loves and truly wants the man; he chases/pursues other women, but, I understand that they only love the attention... He talks to them and/or treats them as if they feel and think of him the way that I feel and think of him. It confuses me, and it sure as hell does confuse them. He should know better...He should know the difference. He's just not that into me!
For me, it's like being in the presence of a beating...you want to stop it from happening, but it's none of your business...! However, he likes/loves where he's at 
But, let me say...I agree with everyone who has said that no contact between the two of us is best  ...( 1) If I were to get too close to him; the attention seekers/getters are like flies on shit, you know. 2) HIM and ALL THAT BAGGAGE!!! )...On the other hand, being able to witness his, "LOVE ME, LOVE ME, LOVE ME...PLEEEEEASE!!!", toward other women, behavior, is a turn off for me...so really, he has been the one to help me move on. He's a serial reject. 
And, after all, he'll NEVER have me either...  | |
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fantasyislander said: Spats said: I will miss out on boredoam and being handcuffed to someone. I have not missed out on the good stuff.
too bad. handcuffs can be loads of fun. 
Yes they can.  | |
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TMPletz said: fantasyislander said: too bad. handcuffs can be loads of fun.
Yes they can.  | |
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Spats said: I will miss out on boredoam and being handcuffed to someone. I have not missed out on the good stuff.
Which is? | |
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Hooking up with very pretty women who are not annoying for as long as I want. Having great sacktime with them. Being able to come and go as i please. Not having to answer to them, or consult with them on future plans. Being able to do whatever i want, whenever i want, wherever i want and for as long as i want. It's called freedom and independence. people in longterm realationships or who are married do not have that.
I don't want to end up like the guy here who said "We can't go to Hooters. The wife would not like that. I would be sleeping on the couch." There is no way in hell i would be sleeping on the couch in my home. She would be. I have had the power tell them when I would like them to leave my bed and home. | |
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Spats said: Hooking up with very pretty women who are not annoying for as long as I want. Having great sacktime with them. Being able to come and go as i please. Not having to answer to them, or consult with them on future plans. Being able to do whatever i want, whenever i want, wherever i want and for as long as i want. It's called freedom and independence. people in longterm realationships or who are married do not have that.
I don't want to end up like the guy here who said "We can't go to Hooters. The wife would not like that. I would be sleeping on the couch." There is no way in hell i would be sleeping on the couch in my home. She would be. I have had the power tell them when I would like them to leave my bed and home. Hey mate how was school today? | |
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mdiver said: Spats said: Hooking up with very pretty women who are not annoying for as long as I want. Having great sacktime with them. Being able to come and go as i please. Not having to answer to them, or consult with them on future plans. Being able to do whatever i want, whenever i want, wherever i want and for as long as i want. It's called freedom and independence. people in longterm realationships or who are married do not have that.
I don't want to end up like the guy here who said "We can't go to Hooters. The wife would not like that. I would be sleeping on the couch." There is no way in hell i would be sleeping on the couch in my home. She would be. I have had the power tell them when I would like them to leave my bed and home. Hey mate how was school today?  he cried at recess. one of the other kids pushed him off the monkey bars.  | |
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