my brother and his family have been staying with me since Fri feb 14 (his wife's grandfather passed, in town for the funeral). my nephew is 6'5", 300 lbs and only 16 years old. oh, and by the way, has a bladder problem and stone cold pissed a thunderstorm on my king size bed (i had no idea he was even on it!) and this isn't little boy urine, my entire third floor smells like a hamster cage now!...so, my leather duvet cover and featherbed have to be dry-cleaned, my fleece sheets and my heated mattress pad have to be washed, and i had to throw my egg-crate mattress pad away. what really pisses me off (pun intended) is that both he and my brother haven't said JACK SHIT about the incident, even though i stripped the bed and put on some different sheets (with a vinyl cover underneath). i really want to bring this up, but with the stress of the funeral and the fact that they're hopefully leaving tomorrow, i might just grit my teeth and chalk this up as an expensive lesson on hospitality

we don't chose our relatives...with our friends there is a choice. taking you brother and family in was a blessing for them. sounds like you have a beautiful home and keep it very much to your liking. and yes, family is the ones who seem take things for granite in that "everything" is okay no matter what. (and that "you should understand junior's bladder problem...never mind offering any money to help with replacement or cleaning...sigh)
you were a blessing for them...that's what matters to most. next time..maybe...keep some cots and xtra blankets on hand for up-coming, unexpected guest...

buy a futon bed, very uncomfortable and hastens the visit into a short one.(they also fold away for easy storage).
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awww...

hmmm so how does one make it clear that no one is allowed to sleep in your bed when you aren't home??
btw... lets get rid of the egg crate thing and then nice bed

i once had a room mate have sex in my bed and then she didn't even have the decency to change the sheets!!

i understand accidents happen, but it's the total lack of accountability by a 16 year old and 42 year old that angers me. if either one just came to me and said "this happened, i'm sorry" i would be in a much better frame of mind right now. that and the fact that my nephew actually had the nerve to ask me for one of my ps2 games AFTER he r-kelly'd my bed just makes me

so if no one mentioned it did you just come home to find your bed soaking wet??

they got in very late, but have keys to my house. my nephew NEVER sleeps on the third floor, so of course i had no reason "proof" that bed (as it has always been off limits)...but the next morning, he walked past me non-chalantly and i could smell the urine on him. i went upstairs and yup, he had done the unthinkable! that was at 10 am. i went to work a coupla hours later, thinking that they would try to correct this accident--put the sheets in the washing machine, put new ones on, etc.--so i come home at 11 pm that night, and everything was still on the bed, and the jeans he slept in were just sitting by my television--wet and foul! my brother had to know because that's the floor they take their showers on.

that's nasty

good lord any kid half his age would have been able to clean themselves up better.
have they not acknowledged that junior pees his pants?? like you said they would have had to have smelled it... i am at a loss there mwu...

i guess you will have to say that he needs to respect you and your home by handling the situation properly in the first place.

a 16 year old peeing the bed? Oh HELL naw. I don't care how big or young he is. We would've went AT IT. There would've been some furniture movin in that bitch.

emm said:

mine did that too! Only when I went to go to bed, they were still at it!

I had the same experience with an elderly aunt this summer. I called her daughter, she says 'Oh, well Mom only does that OCCASSIONALY.' Occassionaly turned out to be every other night. I put a rubber sheet on the sofabed and had a chat with my aunt tell her to let me know if she has an accident, she was hiding it until I 'caught wind' of it.

Ain't family great?

meltwithu said:

I'm sorry, but that's too funny. Brings back memories