TMPletz said:

!!!!
This is more like it:

Ya'll are too much.

fantasyislander said:

yeah. Get it right.
this is Power Rangers:

and THIS is Sentai:

NOTICE the explosions. Ya'll are seriously aching for a sentai thread. But I know it would die faster than I could make it.

DynamicSavior said:

I see a picture of one guy wearing red making an X with his arms, and the other picture is of a red X.

Spare the rod and spoil the child.

Nothing wrong with using old skool discipline on kids, as long as you don't cross the line. My father didn't have to spank me that often. The fear of punishment kept my ass in line. Just seeing that leather belt hanging in the closet stopped me from doing too much dumb sh!t.

These days I see kids talking smack to their parents, and I'm like, WTF? If I talked like that to my parents(or any adult), I'd be in serious trouble.

Parenting rule #1 - You kids are not you. Always respect your kids for who they are. Your job is to help them be the best individual, not your clone, they can be.

uPtoWnNY said:

please dont misunderstand...

i have children, i have spanked them, i WILL spank them if they get beside themselves and we have exhausted all other options...

HOWEVER...

quotes like those i have highlighted earlier make me ill.

i could count on one hand the times that either one of my kids have gotten a spanking. it is a VERY rare thing in my house to have to do that. i dont like it at all, discipline is my least favorite part of parenting... although it IS a part of it no doubt.

TMPletz said:

Here you go!!

nakedpianoplayer said:

Discipline shouldnt be violent. It should be stern but enlightening. No child should have to be spooked into doing what they should because someone is threatening them with a belt. They should do it because it is the right thing to do. GOOD PARENTING does that. Lazy parenting takes the easy way out and taps that ass with the belt for immediate results. However, the latter usually does not bring enduring results.

Try not to make mistakes, but if you do (like shout or being unreasonable, impatient etc.), apologies (and mean it) after wards and make sure you let them know you love them and explain it had nothing to do with them.

Relax, use humor to solve things (sarcasm isn't humor )



Meditate.....

abierman said:

GOOOOOD ADVICE

Ow and one more thing, (this goes for all people, but with raising kids it's most important) Look at their strong points and enhance those, their weak points will flourish by it.

Kids will become what you expect them to be (not what you want them to be).

unlucky7 said:

I wasn't abused, but I was hit. I think it's bullshit that it's okay to hit a child as punishment, but if you hit an adult as punishment you can be arrested. Pure bullshit. Apparently it's okay to beat on someone who can't fight back, but not okay to beat on someone who can.

What don't you understand? How is trying to prevent males from becoming romantic sissy boys promoting gender roles? I don't think women should be romantic sissy's either. Even though it seems to be in them from birth.

Here's a few off the top of my head:


1. NEVER underestimate a child's intelligence. Kids are a hell of a lot smarter than most adults give them credit for.
2. Teach by example. Nothing's worse than "Do as I say, not as I do."
3. Show unconditional love. Even if they fuck up, make sure they know it's their actions you don't love, not them.
4. Get to know them as individuals, not as Mom Jr. and Dadette.
5. Respect their ideas and opinions.
6. Take it easy on little things like coming home from the mall at 16 with a pierced nose. In other words, don't sweat the petty things.

Spats said:

So much good advice. I wish some of you were my parents.

theAudience said:

Absolutely!

these work too

DynamicSavior said:

Yeah, but not as good as this;



..or THIS;

dreamfactory313 said:

How is spanking lazy parenting? Sometimes kids(especially boys) need tough love now & then. Worked for me & my brother, and it kept us off the tough South Bronx streets. I'm grateful I had a tough father. There were no softies in our family.

As I said earlier, my dad didn't spank me that mush. I knew from an early age there was a line I better not cross. As long as I respected my elders, behaved myself and did well in class, there was no problem.

PurpleJedi said:

that's child abuse.

uPtoWnNY said:

There are exceptions to every rule, but for the most part, people hit there kids when they dont know how or wont take the time to teach proper discipline. Its easier to just wack them upside the head or hit them a few times with a belt than it is to use skill to teach them discipline. There is immediate gratification for the parent because for the time being, the child is obedient. When u hit your kids, what youre really teaching them is "i had better not catch u doing this behavior" but when u get to the core of discipline, the message is " this the appropriate behavior and here is why this is the appropriate behavior". Teaching them through skill and example is what is going to stay with them into adulthood. Those are the people who will be more disciplined and hardworking adults. They do whats right because they should and not because someone is threatening them to do so.

I wouldn't recommend this for all situations, obviously, but sometimes you have to give into a kid and let him/her suffer their own consequences.

My 4-year-old just refuses to go to bed on time. She'll ask for drinks of water; trips to the potty; insist she's afraid of the dark, dinosaurs, spiders, etc; ask for hugs and kisses; say she's old enough to stay up all night; etc. Usually, we put the foot down, but last night we decided to let her win. We told her she had to stay up all night -- and she actually tried!

Her bedtime is 8 p.m., but at about midnight, she was still hangin'! Had her bed littered with books. Had her burned Faith Hill/Al Jarreau/Carole King CD going (She's got the funniest taste in music ). Had her little bedside lamp on. By 12:30ish, she was out like a light.

Anyway, this morning, she is a MESS -- and she knows exactly why! But we still made her abide by the day's routine. We told her preschool teacher of our little experiment, and she thought it was hilarious and pretty clever.

I bet tonight we have less of a fight with her.

(I think we got this one from the Cosby Show.)

Oh, yeah... and don't let your significant other teach your kid foreign phrases that you don't yet know!!!

I suspect I get conspired against all the time right to my face, and I don't know it.

Lammastide said:

i love it

i saw that episode as well... and i tried it once myself.. felt a lil guilty in the morning when my baby was acting like a complete fool, but in the end, she understood the reasons behind her bedtime and didnt argue with me again about it for, i'd say about a week oh how quickly they forget


great story, thanks

nakedpianoplayer said:

I see this coming, too.

nakedpianoplayer said:

I remember that episode too. Rudy wanted to stay up and watch Johnny Carson, but by the time Ed McMahon said "HERE'S JOHNNY", she was out for the count.

Lammastide said:

That's very tempting sometimes...