shanti0608 said:

That's my anniversary too..... Hope yours is working out better than mine....

Something completely outrageous like a base jump or something.

pardonme4livin said:

R U serious- what a coincidence...

It's not just about not telling someone they can do soemthing or not. If you are in a serious relationhip or married you have to ask if it's okay with them and too consult with them , etc, etc. If you say you don't you are lying. And that is not being free to do whatever you want. it does not enhance your life at all. It limits you. It's the same if you have kids. You are limited.

Spats said:

Whereas you are simply limited by your own stupidity

You are not the one to judge who is smart and who is dumb. Look in the mirror.

I have never found myself limited in marriage. Its a team effort, a partnership, no manipulation, no outrageous demands, aside from the choice to be married---because we wanted to do so before God, as we are spiritual people. We do everything in partnership because we knew we can enhance each other's lives, we didn't want to be apart. My husband is my best friend.....I would rather spend time with him than anyone else, and as far as kids go, I love my kids. If my life is limited by the existence of children, than for me, and for my spouse, we are blessed. Because we love them, we want to be with them, and our family enhances our quality of life immensely. I thank God for all of them every day.

bluesbaby said:

If I wasn't all ready married this is the person i would marry, this is what its all about.

bless you bluesbaby

If you are doing everything in partnership then you you are proving my point. I don't have to to consult with anyone or have anyone involved with what i want and decide to do. I am free to do whatever i want with worrying how it will effect anybody and so on. People who are married cannot. And it's worse when kids are involved. It's like the whole ball and chain thing wrapped around your ankle. If you are happy being limited then good for you. But i could not live like that. I would be miserable.

oldpurple said:

OP

Spats said:

do you eat peas?

Spats said:

fair enough dude. limited, ball and chain, I feel free as a bird. If I were single, I would still worry about what I do effecting others, its just a part of who I am. We are all interconnected, in my opinion. But you get on with your bad self, do your thang.

Spats said:

Done.....and i still can call you an idiot with ease

Because you have experience.

Spats said:

Yes indeed i do have experience at calling you an idiot.....idiot

This id the dude who tattoed his back. No room to call anyone an idiot.

Spats said:

Its "is" and that is the best you can do?

The guy ruins his back with an ugly design and he says is that the best you can do?? Hopeless.

Spats said:

Your opinion on ugly is of no interest to me.....in fact the thought that you might like it is repellent to me.

You are entitled to not like it just as much as i am entitled to like it and so far the general consensus of opinion is that it is a great design so i guess that you are in the minority.....thank fuck.

Spats grow a spine, grow a life, give Betty a rest and when your life is in some remotely good order....come back and we will talk.

Yo, Spats, this is still not a thread about your opinion of marriage or women, it's a thread called "What do you plan to do on your next birthday", make your own thread to argue on.


I hope to be traveling on my birthday or maybe having a drink or both.

My birthday is 4 months away. I haven't even thought about it yet. But for the last 5 years or so I always have a joint birthday party with one of my best friends whose birthday is the day after mine and we usually go out to dinner with a big group of our friends and go dancing after. I've been trying to come up with something different the last few years and never seem to. So yeah, likely that'll be it this year.

Mdiver started it. Don't jump on me.

Spats said:

No asshole it was this one that started it!

Yeah but you got involved when i was not even talking to you and started insulting me.

Spats said:

"Mommy Mdiver is picking on me"

That's how all of our arguments happen. I say something and you insult. But everyone looks at me as the bad guy when you ALWAYS start our arguments.

Spats said:

Oh god boy you get better with every post.

Has it crossed your mind to ask WHY everone sees you as the bad guy?

It's because i don't kiss ass to anyone and i tell the brutal truth. When everyone seems to want Sweetness, Marriage, roses, flowers on pillows, plainess and all sorts of other stuff. I stick out because i don't want that.

Spats said:

Nope you stick out because you are an idiot

Spats said:

And yet you STILL don't have what you want to have. So basically, what you're saying is this: If you're committed to someone, you can't go out and fuck random people whenever you want. That's true. But, my life is twenty times better now that I am in a committed relationship based on true friendship and trust. My boyfriend is my best friend, and it doesn't matter that he is a man and I am a woman.

You're truly very limited in your thinking, and I feel bad for you. It seems that you don't have the "ball and chain", and you're still miserable. I guess you really can't blame anyone but yourself for that.