So I have a friend of an ex who I went to have lunch with this past vday. He has a "fiance" who is sperminated with his kid. Anyway...we use to go to school together. He wanted to have lunch because he was bored. I wanted to have lunch to find out the truth about my ex. Cool. we went and had a blast. Hung around. But I noticed and got the vibes he digs me. Not cool. Anyway...he wanted to hang out again on friday. Today. Though...during the previous days my ex...his....friend....foudn out he hung out with me and fliped out and made up stories about me blah blah...But I go...wait....hm....They still talk to eachother...when he told me....they...didnt. Sketchy. Neway...I get a text saying he had a surprise for me for tomorrow - Today - Tonight. I go what? We had a in depth convo of me trying to get it out of him. Now...I already knew what the surprise even before i came online. When I was talking to my ex when he wanted to get back together with me he told me he wanted to take me to this place on the beach out where by I live (mind you this place is really dark at night and ummm its the middle of winter). Now I'm not stupid I know why these guys go to these places....to a. Hook up with girls. B. to try to seduce. C. I dont know what other bad thing. But anyway...for those who are still with me. I had a feeling that this surprise was that place and I was right. Anyway...I asked why we were going to this mystery spot and this was his exact answer "just b/c i like 2 go there 2 think 2 myself, & i have a lot on my mind that i want 2 talk 2 u abt since we can talk 2 each other so easily & i'll feel more comfortable talkin abt it @ this place" (I saved the convo) AS soon as he said this I freaked out...I started getting bad thoughts and really really bad vibes. I have a good sixth sense and I started saying crazy shit in my head. My friend who sees things too begged me not to go cause she had a nightmare about beaches a few days earlier. Anyway....I think...that him and my ex are up to something and nothing good. He wants to go tonight...I'm not going but...who and why would you go to the beach where its 20degrees....to get there its the darkest part of LI i could say...its retarted.....what are your opinions or advice?

go do something different... not anywhere near or around these people

listen to your own gut feeling ...


back the fuck away and find something more valuable to invest yourself in

Stay away from these creeps. Listen to your gut

Thanks everyone has said the same thing....and I have to call him later on to let him know I'm not going cause something came up...I just thought it was weird

Are u gonna talk to this guy (the friend) anymore? I wouldn't

ThreadCula said:

i agree
you dont need that mess in your life...you don't, you're better than all that drama

glad you're not going, cuz i really feel you shouldn't...especially if you and your friend have both been having strange/bad feelings about this

SammiJ said:

yea eveyrone is telling me to avoid him and not really talk to him that hes up to no good. I agree...i just worry that i'm maybe over reacting?

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

No,if he has something "deep" to say or if he wants to talk to someone...he can say it over a voicemail

ThreadCula said:

thats why i thought..i'm like i just saw you the other day....and...ummmm.....yea...its not like we've been friends for like many years cause i hadnt seen him in six years prior to last month. and all of the sudden he feels so open with me?

and i figured also u can tell me in the car no one is around u can be open with me there.....wtf u need waves to distract your thoughts or something?
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BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

no you're not
wednesday i had woken up with this horrible feeling that if i took the public transit bus something would happen...and i had plans too...and cancelled them! nothing bad happened - but i trusted my gut, and felt better

and to me THAT was overreacting...you're not overreacting because there's more than one person that can see the evil in this...

stay safe trust your instinct, you're a woman, so your instinct is automatically right

SammiJ said:

Thank you you are the best
Threadcula you too

Stay away from both these assholes hon.

Sweeny79 said:

Sounds highly suspicious. You have gut feelings for a reason, and you should trust them. Sorry, but as a guy, I know most of them can't be trusted. Even if they're not out to hurt you, it sounds like they're up for something you're not, and it's best not to give them any encouragement, especially if there's a fiance/child involved somewhere.

It also sounds like a very entertaining episode of the O.C.

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

Prine never offered to take me to the beach. He made me get ass naked and jump in some pissy ass lake. Bastard.

Bucket,..... me!!!!!

Stay away from those guys. God gave you those instincts for a reason.
You're a smart girl,you don't need guys like these to ruin your life.
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Avoid them two at all costs.
If your gut says they are up to no good, they probably are.
Don't put yourself into a potentially dangerous situtation.
You would tell us the same thing if we were ones telling you this, right?

andyman91 said:

yea my life is an entire soap opera its pretty funny at times

1sexymf said:

he was making you uncomfortable with his unsolicited "digging you" vibes at lunch
that is enough of a reason to maintain more distance from him
let alone let him take you to a dark secluded place on a friday night
best case senario? you would be feeding his inappropriate advances
worst case senario? let's not go there

You need advice?

I guess the situation is clear enough. Get away real quick!

I did i took everyones advice and said something came up and that I couldnt go...he wanted to know what was going on and I said that I was at the drs with my mom. He wrote back "ok call me if you need anything. hope everythings ok" I'm definitely not calling him. I just went out shopping. Thanks everyone.

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

did you by me a t-shirt??

abierman said:

lol nopeeeee

jesus elaine, you know what my response is to this right???

jerseykrs said:

yes

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

hahahahahahahahah!!!!