so either your gf or your bf is going through something right now and its putting a strain on your relationship. You know the other seems quite distant, doesn't really want to talk about whats bothering them, even though you know what it is, just not the whole story...for example, family problems.

What do you do to help your significant other??

What if you have tried to support him or her, its seems like they are open to your support but they act like they have their mind made up that you and no one can solve their problems and are dealing with it in way that is sought of making you feel uneasy with your relationship?

Do you:

A) Stand by them no matter if it seems like most of the time, the attitudes and smart remarks are geared toward you, but really just their frustration about their issues.

B) Don't really say anything, give them time to deal with the situation even though it seems like the situation isn't gonna go way anytime soon.

C) Support them anyway, even when they act as if they don't need, or want it.

D) Let them go because no matter what you say or do, it seems like you can't say the right thing at this moment to help them cope. (if you really care about someone, i don't recommend it, although i can understand there's only so much a person can take, but this just seems like it's too easy to do when things go wrong but people still do it)

Your thoughts?
[Edited 2/3/06 4:06am]

give them S P A C E

give them D I C K








Bubba!

this is exactly what im going through. An old flame....my first love came back into my life and it tore everything apart. Ive been so upset etc etc....and my current boyfriend....he took it like a man and was there for me. All my friends dont understand what im going through but him. Not only do I love him he is also my best friend and he knows me best. So I was going through a hard time just closing everyone out because I couldnt explain how I felt about this other guy. He took the time and sat with me and was on the phone with me till four am. Listening and accepting the fact of who was the other guy and how he made me feel. Needless to say he was there for me every step of the way...he gave me my space yet....he took it like a real man. And I respect him for being there and taking care of me and showing me what real love is.

Let them go. I have enough things to deal with in my own life.

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

So you've decided to stay with the current man?

Anx said:

ditto...give him a hug,then give him space

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

thats how it is...the minute I got engaged a friend who I had feelings for came back into my life,with his fine ass!

I make them a cup of coco and give them a cuddle. Then I do what they want me to afterwards.
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JDINTERACTIVE said:

Awww aren't you cute

ThreadCula said:

Maybe. I haven't got a girlfriend to tell me so.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

I'll tell u so

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

Bet you dump him and go back to your old flame

thedude said:

That's what I'm saying!

Tell us who you chose!

Anx said:

exactly

a & c for me.
because in the end it's going to result in giving space anyway...

thedude said:

i dumped my own flame because he was hurting me...he broke my heart way too many times

Try to talk about whatever it is and don't judge the person. Be open minded.