My boyfriend and I went to a strip club this past weekend,

It was the first time I'd been in a strip club. I was curious about what goes on there. It was fun, some of the girls we're really sexy - but...

We've only been together for about 2 months. We were in Vegas, and you know - you get caught up. It was fun, but now he's mentioned going again in "a few months". I actually bought him a lap dance!!! AND I was turned on by the whole thing. What's wrong with me? Did I make a huge mistake here?

Was this a mistake???

Ladies?

Men?


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gabeez said:

Unless he went home with the stripper instead of you, I think it's safe to say that you didn't make a mistake.

Why ? if you both enjoyed ?

virginie74 said:

i'm worried that he's going to want to make this a regular thing. Like anything else, after awhile, the lap dance won't be as arrousing and he may want more.
I'm wondering if this is considered "healthy" in a relationship? Especially early on.

Also, I'm curious how men generally look at strip clubs. I'm so curious about how men's minds work.I feel like this is early in the relationship for this sort of thing and not knowing him well enough makes me wonder and wonder....

Sounds like a great night!

He siad he wanted to go again in few months not next weekend.
I don't thik it's a big deal just something exciting to do.

Sweeny79 said:

I agree

It sounds like he's testing your limits a little bit (every new relationship goes through that phase), to see what you'll allow him to do. If you'll be okay with him getting lap dances in the future too, then you have nothing to worry about. Just make sure you draw the line if he does something you feel bad about or see as unacceptable in the long run.

And it's not strange to get turned on by the sight of your partner in a sexy situation with someone else. A lot of people dig that. Of course a lot of people don't as well, but tell me something that everybody likes?...

I wanna date you women.....

Sweeny79 said:

yea-it was a great night. We had fun, and I picked the girl. He was pretty good about it, didn't act like he was to into it, but just enough to make it fun. At moments I did feel jealous - yet turned on - which I guess is why I'm all confused or better yet, conflicted. I just feel like these thing often come back to bite you...


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gabeez said:

he didn't buy you a lap dance by one of the girls?

gabeez said:

If you're worried, you should talk with him and express what you want. Tell him it was fun but scary in a long-term. I am sure, according to your relationship, he will understand. Mine would, guys can have melted feelings about things too. It's up to you to define the bases of you relationship, and there's only one way to do it : talk !!!

You're open-minded, it will be ok...


"He siad he wanted to go again in few months not next weekend.
I don't thik it's a big deal just something exciting to do."

The first sentence is masculine, the other feminine, but you both mean the same. I think. Except if he booked her on his palm...

Mach said:

same
as long as when u get back home you're getting some, and no one else but u is on his mind?

i say why not

u can even show them hoes up and do a strip for him when u get home

I must add I would hate that.

Mach said:

I strongly disagree. It was cool as a onetime thing but if he comes to expect it, then it will turn into a pressure situation. I know first hand.

SammiJ said:

yeah but if he's horny when he gets back, isn't he horny because of the other girl?

Stymie said:

very true...


damn
now i know what not to do lol

gabeez said:

sounds like you feel like you may have opened up a can of worms....you have to tell him now what you makes you comfortable and uncomfortable. It's better when you explain early in the relationship, because later on, talking to guys after a year or so of being with them is like talking to a brick wall...

SammiJ said:

Why does it matter why he's horny? Shit I'd be horny too!

And I think he'd be more turned on by the situation of the stripper then the actual stripper.

SammiJ said:

Yep nothing to worry about. Of course he would like to go again,you both had a good time.

A woman...tee hee hee...at a strip club...tee hee hee


I now declare this the greatest thread of all time!

As a dancer I can say it takes alot of courage for a woman to come in with her boyfriend. I have to give you a big
for being open minded about the whole situation.

Dancing for women as oppossed to dancing for a man is different. It seems men take alot of your energy and women give alot of your energy. It can be very enjoyable dancing for a woman if she feels comfortable.

And no there is nothing wrong with watching you man get turned on by a lapdance. I totally understand!! Sometimes in the right situation with the right people I get turned on dancing for them.

I always can make alot of money off of couples. Alot of dancers can't and really dislike dancing for couples. One lady was like "Geez I can never dance for couples. Women hate me. It must be because I have fake boobs and you don't and I intimdate them"

I humored her to be poliet but I really was thinking
"Yeah..umm..no it's because I actually LIKE women and want them to feel comfortable" Sheesh alot of strippers can be so dumb sometimes!

But anyway, if you enjoyed it good for you. It definatly is not as bad as the media makes it out to be...and it can be downright fun!

SammiJ said:

just don't let it go to waste!

Just be careful if he suggest installing a pole in the middle of your bedroom...

Byron said:

That's good naughty...unless he wants to bring a stripper into the bedroom.

Now if he want his honey to be the stripper...that's cool.

Byron said:

you mean not everyone already has one of those?

charlottegelin said:

I need to get married again...lol

Byron said:

Byron said:

Whats wrong with that?

Love this thread!

Ahnold said:

he offered, but I was like whoa, whoa. I would have liked it, especially because I picked the girl and really liked her, she kiseed me when it was over.



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