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Reply #30 posted 01/30/06 7:58am

Novabreaker

sataninas said:


I'm a female.


Then I don't understand. Why wouldn't you want to have sex with another woman? wink
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Reply #31 posted 01/30/06 1:11pm

Whateva

abierman said:

Yeah, GlamSlamKid.....nod


However, you do have issues, either you just can't seem to get a enough or you're just in need of a good lay.....I suspect the latter!

What is this shit? I am sure a lot of homosexuals will agree with this: if I am right, a gay man wants to be treated like any other man in society....just another man, like me. Yet whenever I read your posts I get the feeling that you want us, hetero's, to believe you are some kind of freak of nature.....
Whenever I see friends who are gay, like for instance HamsterHuey from the org, I expect things just to be normal and you know what? Things are pretty damn normal, not much different than meeting up with my straight friends! Sure, different topics are talked about but we always end up making fun of eachother like I like to do with all my friends.....
Sure, I would never claim that I know what it's like to be gay, neither would I claim to fully understand what you guys are are confronted with in everyday life....but really, you guys aren't that special, believe me! So please, don't try us (hetero's) make believe you are and that we don't know how to go about!


Just sayin'.....

thumbs up!


Heee, I do like you eek Well at least this comment (just stickpoke wink )
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Reply #32 posted 01/30/06 1:23pm

mdiver

DynamicSavior said:

onenitealone said:

It's just as well all my straight friends are rational human beings. They don't need advice like this. confused
[Edited 1/30/06 4:15am]

I'm cool with shitloads of straighties but still.
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For some reason that makes me think of "I can't be a racist i have loads of black friends!" lol
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Reply #33 posted 01/30/06 1:29pm

Anx

abierman said:



I am sure a lot of homosexuals will agree with this: if I am right, a gay man wants to be treated like any other man in society....
Just sayin'.....

thumbs up!



i disagree. i want to be treated like the supreme ruler of the universe, and i want to be addressed in the third person at all times, even if i'm standing right next to you, and i want an enormous pyramid of fancy feast cans erected on the white house lawn as a testament to my intergalactic superiority.

otherwise, okay, i agree with your statement for the most part.
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Reply #34 posted 01/30/06 1:42pm

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mdiver said:

DynamicSavior said:


I'm cool with shitloads of straighties but still.
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For some reason that makes me think of "I can't be a racist i have loads of black friends!" lol



Or the one I always love: 'You're gay/lesbian??? You GOTTA meet this guy/girl I know!'.

Yeah - we all shag each other, regardless of physical attraction/compatibility. rolleyes


wink
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Reply #35 posted 01/30/06 1:43pm

mdiver

onenitealone said:

mdiver said:



For some reason that makes me think of "I can't be a racist i have loads of black friends!" lol



Or the one I always love: 'You're gay/lesbian??? You GOTTA meet this guy/girl I know!'.

Yeah - we all shag each other, regardless of physical attraction/compatibility. rolleyes


wink


falloff
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Reply #36 posted 01/30/06 2:25pm

JediMaster

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DynamicSavior said:



1. Do not run screaming from the room. This is rude.

What if a GIANT FRIGGIN' SPIDER is about to attack us? Can I run then?

2. If you must back away, do so slowly and with discretion.

What, gay people are like a T-Rex?

3. Do not assume they are attracted to you.

Why the hell not? I'm a sexy beast!

4. Do not assume they are not attracted to you.

They damn well should be! Once again, I'm sexy!!

5. Do not expect them to be excited about meeting a heterosexual as you may be about meeting a gay person.

I've been in theater way too long to get excited about meeting gay people. It would be like a vet getting excited about meeting a cat.

6. Do not immediately start talking abut your boy/girlfried or husband/wife
in order to make it clear that you are straight.

A"girlfried"? That would only apply if I was dating Courtney Love.

7. Do not ask them how they "got that way". Instead ask yourself how you got the way you are.

Sexy as hell? Hmmm, how DID I get that way???

8. Do not assume they are dying to talk about being gay.

Are they dying to talk about comics? I know I am!

9. Do not expect them to refrain from talking about being gay.

Okay, but can they refrain from talking about lima beans? That just makes for boring discussion.

10. Do not trivialize their experience by assuming it is a bedroom issue. They are gay 24 hours a day.

Wow! Gay people are like IHoP!!!! I'll take an omlette with bacon and mushrooms, please.

jedi

Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended, for the taking of offense is what rests in the bosom of the stupid ones. (Ecclesiastes 7:9)
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Reply #37 posted 01/30/06 2:57pm

HamsterHuey

onenitealone said:

mdiver said:



For some reason that makes me think of "I can't be a racist i have loads of black friends!" lol



Or the one I always love: 'You're gay/lesbian??? You GOTTA meet this guy/girl I know!'.

Yeah - we all shag each other, regardless of physical attraction/compatibility. rolleyes


wink


"You're gay? OOH! I know such a sweet gay guy! You GOT to meet him!"

Then I say; "No I don't"

Cuz I dont do blind dates set up by my friends. It's horrid to find out what kind of man they wish for you... their opinion of 'sweet' is often raving homosexual, the kind of bottom boys I do not find attractive at all...
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Reply #38 posted 01/30/06 3:01pm

Anx

HamsterHuey said:

onenitealone said:




Or the one I always love: 'You're gay/lesbian??? You GOTTA meet this guy/girl I know!'.

Yeah - we all shag each other, regardless of physical attraction/compatibility. rolleyes


wink


"You're gay? OOH! I know such a sweet gay guy! You GOT to meet him!"

Then I say; "No I don't"

Cuz I dont do blind dates set up by my friends. It's horrid to find out what kind of man they wish for you... their opinion of 'sweet' is often raving homosexual, the kind of bottom boys I do not find attractive at all...


that's always happened to me, too. my friends would set me up with someone who they thought would be "perfect", and i'd wind up meeting some buttoned-down right brained culturally conservative person who was perfectly nice, though we didn't have a single thing to talk about. sometimes i would question my friends' sanity.
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Reply #39 posted 01/30/06 3:03pm

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Anx said:

HamsterHuey said:



"You're gay? OOH! I know such a sweet gay guy! You GOT to meet him!"

Then I say; "No I don't"

Cuz I dont do blind dates set up by my friends. It's horrid to find out what kind of man they wish for you... their opinion of 'sweet' is often raving homosexual, the kind of bottom boys I do not find attractive at all...


that's always happened to me, too. my friends would set me up with someone who they thought would be "perfect", and i'd wind up meeting some buttoned-down right brained culturally conservative person who was perfectly nice, though we didn't have a single thing to talk about. sometimes i would question my friends' sanity.



Ditto to both of you! clapping
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Reply #40 posted 01/30/06 3:05pm

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As i have mentioned before, this gay guy at work (still) keeps on flirting with me. He ain't flamboyently gay (thank goodness), but he would tough my hand and i'd just laugh. I find it funny. confused lol
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Reply #41 posted 01/30/06 3:07pm

HamsterHuey

"You're gay? So is my hairdresser! You must know him! His name is Stephen and he works at the Sheila Hair Salon!"
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Reply #42 posted 01/30/06 3:08pm

HamsterHuey

thesexofit said:

As i have mentioned before, this gay guy at work (still) keeps on flirting with me. He ain't flamboyently gay (thank goodness), but he would tough my hand and i'd just laugh. I find it funny. confused lol


So you are gay. So what?
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Reply #43 posted 01/30/06 3:57pm

3121

DynamicSavior said:

1. Do not run screaming from the room. This is rude.
2. If you must back away, do so slowly and with discretion.
3. Do not assume they are attracted to you.
4. Do not assume they are not attracted to you.
5. Do not expect them to be excited about meeting a heterosexual as you may be about meeting a gay person.
6. Do not immediately start talking abut your boy/girlfried or husband/wife
in order to make it clear that you are straight.
7. Do not ask them how they "got that way". Instead ask yourself how you got the way you are.
8. Do not assume they are dying to talk about being gay.
9. Do not expect them to refrain from talking about being gay.
10. Do not trivialize their experience by assuming it is a bedroom issue. They are gay 24 hours a day.

This has been another GSK PSA.
Thank You.


Tips for thread makers

1) Don't subscribe to the idea that heterosexual men are dumb as fuck cavemen devoid of any intelligence, feeling or decorum.

2) see above
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Reply #44 posted 01/30/06 4:04pm

DynamicSavior

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3121 said:

DynamicSavior said:

1. Do not run screaming from the room. This is rude.
2. If you must back away, do so slowly and with discretion.
3. Do not assume they are attracted to you.
4. Do not assume they are not attracted to you.
5. Do not expect them to be excited about meeting a heterosexual as you may be about meeting a gay person.
6. Do not immediately start talking abut your boy/girlfried or husband/wife
in order to make it clear that you are straight.
7. Do not ask them how they "got that way". Instead ask yourself how you got the way you are.
8. Do not assume they are dying to talk about being gay.
9. Do not expect them to refrain from talking about being gay.
10. Do not trivialize their experience by assuming it is a bedroom issue. They are gay 24 hours a day.

This has been another GSK PSA.
Thank You.


Tips for thread makers

1) Don't subscribe to the idea that heterosexual men are dumb as fuck cavemen devoid of any intelligence, feeling or decorum.

2) see above


1) Heterosexuals leave us no choice but to think that.

2) see above

3) Kiss my gay ass.
One of Dansa's org hornies woot!
Supa is my gay messiah and he eats homeless dandruff sammitches on the bus.
mad HULK NEED LAID, HULK SMASH!! mad
The reigning queen of GD. All bitches step down.
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Reply #45 posted 01/30/06 4:06pm

thesexofit

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HamsterHuey said:

thesexofit said:

As i have mentioned before, this gay guy at work (still) keeps on flirting with me. He ain't flamboyently gay (thank goodness), but he would tough my hand and i'd just laugh. I find it funny. confused lol


So you are gay. So what?



No iam not gay. I proved it to myself today by sitting through the whole "macho man" video by village people, without the slightest bit being turned on.
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Reply #46 posted 01/30/06 4:11pm

3121

DynamicSavior said:

3121 said:



Tips for thread makers

1) Don't subscribe to the idea that heterosexual men are dumb as fuck cavemen devoid of any intelligence, feeling or decorum.

2) see above


1) Heterosexuals leave us no choice but to think that.

2) see above

3) Kiss my gay ass.



such a blinkered view, but you keep throwing it back on the heterosexual. perpetuate the fallacy...keep us apart. Im heterosexual, I have friends who are gay, its not even an issue. should it be? Are heterosexuals and their opinions, beliefs and actions all the same? is your problem REALLY with heterosexuals or maybe just ignorant people?
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Reply #47 posted 01/30/06 4:11pm

DynamicSavior

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3121 said:

DynamicSavior said:



1) Heterosexuals leave us no choice but to think that.

2) see above

3) Kiss my gay ass.



such a blinkered view, but you keep throwing it back on the heterosexual. perpetuate the fallacy...keep us apart. Im heterosexual, I have friends who are gay, its not even an issue. should it be? Are heterosexuals and their opinions, beliefs and actions all the same? is your problem REALLY with heterosexuals or maybe just ignorant people?


I really hope you don't think I was serious when I typed those "hints".
One of Dansa's org hornies woot!
Supa is my gay messiah and he eats homeless dandruff sammitches on the bus.
mad HULK NEED LAID, HULK SMASH!! mad
The reigning queen of GD. All bitches step down.
Prince.org: Where's Mani?
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Reply #48 posted 01/30/06 4:12pm

Anx

thesexofit said:

HamsterHuey said:



So you are gay. So what?



No iam not gay. I proved it to myself today by sitting through the whole "macho man" video by village people, without the slightest bit being turned on.
[Edited 1/30/06 16:07pm]


me either! wanna go out? batting eyes
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Reply #49 posted 01/30/06 4:13pm

HamsterHuey

Anx said:

thesexofit said:




No iam not gay. I proved it to myself today by sitting through the whole "macho man" video by village people, without the slightest bit being turned on.



me either! wanna go out? batting eyes


Throw in me and Cinister and we got a party!

Woohooooo!
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Reply #50 posted 01/30/06 4:15pm

Anx

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Reply #51 posted 01/30/06 4:16pm

3121

DynamicSavior said:

3121 said:




such a blinkered view, but you keep throwing it back on the heterosexual. perpetuate the fallacy...keep us apart. Im heterosexual, I have friends who are gay, its not even an issue. should it be? Are heterosexuals and their opinions, beliefs and actions all the same? is your problem REALLY with heterosexuals or maybe just ignorant people?


I really hope you don't think I was serious when I typed those "hints".



Perhaps? how would i know for sure? Comedey is often used as an accetable form of discrimination. Regardless, you are welcome to post what u desire, as i am free to respond.
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Reply #52 posted 01/30/06 4:21pm

Anx

when will the persecution of heterosexual men end? haven't they been brutalized enough???

ROCK'N'ROLL
STOP THE TRAFFIC

mad
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Reply #53 posted 01/30/06 4:24pm

Ahnold

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DynamicSavior said:

3121 said:




such a blinkered view, but you keep throwing it back on the heterosexual. perpetuate the fallacy...keep us apart. Im heterosexual, I have friends who are gay, its not even an issue. should it be? Are heterosexuals and their opinions, beliefs and actions all the same? is your problem REALLY with heterosexuals or maybe just ignorant people?


I really hope you don't think I was serious when I typed those "hints".



well voila.....that's the whole thing with you, every goddamn post of yours is 'gay this, gay that....', people might or might not take you too seriously..., that's how you get reactions like these! I kinda understand where 3121 is coming from..... If you're so gay, why don't you go out and manage to get some piece of ass instead of just whining about it over here, how the ugly get more sex than you, how the hetero's don't understand gays.....it's getting tired, just like with GlamSlamKid in the past.....
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Reply #54 posted 01/30/06 4:27pm

Anx

Ahnold said:

DynamicSavior said:



I really hope you don't think I was serious when I typed those "hints".



well voila.....that's the whole thing with you, every goddamn post of yours is 'gay this, gay that....', people might or might not take you too seriously..., that's how you get reactions like these! I kinda understand where 3121 is coming from..... If you're so gay, why don't you go out and manage to get some piece of ass instead of just whining about it over here, how the ugly get more sex than you, how the hetero's don't understand gays.....it's getting tired, just like with GlamSlamKid in the past.....
[Edited 1/30/06 16:25pm]


dang, i know he's a republican and all, but that's way out of character for ahnold. eek
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Reply #55 posted 01/30/06 4:31pm

Ahnold

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Anx said:

Ahnold said:




well voila.....that's the whole thing with you, every goddamn post of yours is 'gay this, gay that....', people might or might not take you too seriously..., that's how you get reactions like these! I kinda understand where 3121 is coming from..... If you're so gay, why don't you go out and manage to get some piece of ass instead of just whining about it over here, how the ugly get more sex than you, how the hetero's don't understand gays.....it's getting tired, just like with GlamSlamKid in the past.....
[Edited 1/30/06 16:25pm]


dang, i know he's a republican and all, but that's way out of character for ahnold. eek


lol nana
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Reply #56 posted 01/30/06 4:31pm

3121

Anx said:

when will the persecution of heterosexual men end? haven't they been brutalized enough???

ROCK'N'ROLL
STOP THE TRAFFIC

mad



Am i wrong to ask to be looked at and judged as an individual? Certainly homosexual men have been persecuted throughout the ages. However, does that mean that all hetersexual men are homophobic and should be sneered at as the brutal caveman? can i not sympathise with disrimnation? All HUMANS can face discrimination of soughts. Can i not stand apart from homophobics because simply because i share their sexual orientation. If i can't then i am being persecuted by both parties involved.
[Edited 1/30/06 16:33pm]


Just preparing my new thread 'Tips for Cracka's when talkin' to N****rs'

Dont take it to heart though coz its just for laughs...real friendly like.
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Reply #57 posted 01/30/06 4:37pm

Anx

3121 said:

Anx said:

when will the persecution of heterosexual men end? haven't they been brutalized enough???

ROCK'N'ROLL
STOP THE TRAFFIC

mad



Am i wrong to ask to be looked at and judged as an individual? Certainly homosexual men have been persecuted throughout the ages. However, does that mean that all hetersexual men are homophobic and should be sneered at as the brutal caveman? can i not sympathise with disrimnation? All HUMANS can face discrimination of soughts. Can i not stand apart from homophobics because simply because i share their sexual orientation. If i can't then i am being persecuted by both parties involved.
[Edited 1/30/06 16:32pm]


of course not all heterosexual men are homophobic. some of the most supportive, gay-positive people i know are straight men...some are even more healthy in their views of gay life than some gay men i know! (wrap THAT around your head.)

i think, though, when you're in a group that is characterized by its history of persecuting another group, it doesn't hurt to be aware that you could be identified that way, and proceed with a sensitivity to that. it doesn't mean that you're taking on the blame for what other people have done, and it doesn't "victimize" you in any way...i think it's just a matter of simple tact and insight, neither of which virtue you are necessarily expected to uphold, of course.
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Reply #58 posted 01/30/06 4:39pm

3121

Anx said:

3121 said:




Am i wrong to ask to be looked at and judged as an individual? Certainly homosexual men have been persecuted throughout the ages. However, does that mean that all hetersexual men are homophobic and should be sneered at as the brutal caveman? can i not sympathise with disrimnation? All HUMANS can face discrimination of soughts. Can i not stand apart from homophobics because simply because i share their sexual orientation. If i can't then i am being persecuted by both parties involved.
[Edited 1/30/06 16:32pm]


of course not all heterosexual men are homophobic. some of the most supportive, gay-positive people i know are straight men...some are even more healthy in their views of gay life than some gay men i know! (wrap THAT around your head.)

i think, though, when you're in a group that is characterized by its history of persecuting another group, it doesn't hurt to be aware that you could be identified that way, and proceed with a sensitivity to that. it doesn't mean that you're taking on the blame for what other people have done, and it doesn't "victimize" you in any way...i think it's just a matter of simple tact and insight, neither of which virtue you are necessarily expected to uphold, of course.
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I'm well aware i could be identified that way. That is what i am responding to. Also, if people regard me as something because of the past then of course thats discrimination.
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Reply #59 posted 01/30/06 4:42pm

Anx

3121 said:




I'm well aware i could be identified that way. That is what i am responding to.


i think there's a point where you are able to carry yourself in a way that erases any kind of threat or awkwardness in social situations like what we're discussing...and i think that's the result of a man who is confident and comfortable with his sexuality, and who isn't threatened by a gay man because of what it makes him confront with regards to his own identity.

now, if you're that kind of person and you're around a gay guy who's still wigging out at you and calling you a gaybasher just because you have the nerve to be heterosexual in his presense, well, that's HIS problem.
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