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PrintableNichola said: I had a long distance relationship for 5 months and it almost drove me crazy, it takes total trust.
Eventualy i moved from England to be with him in Portugal , before i missed him so much but now sometimes i just want to kill him. when you are appart for periods of time it makes you appreciate each other more. OR - it can mask the fact that maybe you guys aren't really a good match for each other and you find out after you guys move in with one another to truly see their bad habits. Works both ways. "Free yo mind and yo ass will follow" - George Clinton | |
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ChristopherTracyParade said: Nichola said: I had a long distance relationship for 5 months and it almost drove me crazy, it takes total trust.
Eventualy i moved from England to be with him in Portugal , before i missed him so much but now sometimes i just want to kill him. when you are appart for periods of time it makes you appreciate each other more. OR - it can mask the fact that maybe you guys aren't really a good match for each other and you find out after you guys move in with one another to truly see their bad habits. Works both ways. possibly Guess that I'll stay at home
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Ive had two and being away from them both was heartbreaking. I dont know if I could have another. | |
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enough with the hating alright?
i'm fucking tired of when someone is trying to be positive and it's beaten down with something negative if you can't do it - say it and that's it.  im getting sick of the negativity that's on the org lately
lighten the fuck up. thank you. | |
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SammiJ said: enough with the hating alright?
i'm fucking tired of when someone is trying to be positive and it's beaten down with something negative if you can't do it - say it and that's it. im getting sick of the negativity that's on the org lately
lighten the fuck up. thank you. Ooweee. One word. 2 syllables: De-caff.  "Free yo mind and yo ass will follow" - George Clinton | |
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ChristopherTracyParade said: SammiJ said: enough with the hating alright?
i'm fucking tired of when someone is trying to be positive and it's beaten down with something negative if you can't do it - say it and that's it. im getting sick of the negativity that's on the org lately
lighten the fuck up. thank you. Ooweee. One word. 2 syllables: De-caff.  | |
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relationships in general, whether long distance or local, stink to high heaven.
in long distance - you have to suffer the pain of not having the luxury of seeing each other like you want to. You have to have an extreme amount of trust between the two of you and loyalty. This is when the little things really count. But like someone said above, the time apart makes you appreciate how much you value one another. in local - you can see each other whenever you want, depending on your schedules, but sometimes, this can cause you to get on each other's nerves. The little things should be important, but may not be important since you guys see each other all the time. Trust and loyalty is an important factor too, but if someone cheats in long distance relationships, most likely they will cheat while in local ones too. It all depends on the person you are in a relationship with and making sure you both are on the same page. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Diva said: Byron said: Long distance relationships require a LOT of honesty, trust and communication. The things that are said silently when the person is physically present need to be communicated in other ways when there's distance involved. You can't see the other person's facial expressions or body language when you share your time together, and every attempt to replace that aspect of relationships with something else should be taken...if you're smiling like crazy over something they've said, tell them so...say "I'm smiling like an idiot right now"...lol...let them feel as if they really are standing there with you.
Be creative in how you share your time together so that the relationship feels as full and complete as possible. Watch a movie together and talk on the phone while you do...go out to dinner "together" by ordering the same type of pizza from the same place and eating it at the same time...lol (and while on the phone together...lol)...Send each other text messages as you both head into work. Connect on your lunch breaks...make sure you're the first voice your lover hears when they wake up, and the last one they hear when they go to bed. If there's also a time difference, then leave messages for them to read or hear when they wake up, or when they return home from work...(imagine coming home from a long day of work, and having a brand new photo of your love waiting for you when you do, taken especially for that reason...*smile*)... Stay emotionally honest at all times, no matter what. If, unfortunately, there are changes in how you feel about the person or the relationship, be upfront and let them know...hopefully if honest and constant communication was already taking place, then they will have already known about different thoughts and feelings you've been having. The distance makes it too easy to just back away from the relationship without doing the "dirty work" that is required when you're both living in the same city. It's a helluva lot easier to just keep saying things like "I've just been busy lately" while diminishing the amount of time you give to the other person...and not answering an email or responding to a text message is much easier than not answering your door. Don't take the easy way out, no matter how tempting...easiest is rarely best. Mostly, though, I think it comes down to how much the two people involved truly love, honor, respect and value each other as people...and not how much they love the relationship itself. You constantly remind me of why I think so highly of you. 
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SammiJ said: mrDespues said: I'm not trying to make it a competition or downplay your own problem, Threadbare, but TRY SEVEN YEARS... Sure, my now-fiance and I see each other for 3, to 6, to even 12 months stretches when we can, but we still haven't managed to SETTLE ON A COUNTRY (either US or Australia)!!! So I know the story of long-distance better than most people I've heard go through it who think the next State for a few months is hell... yeah right!
I'm not trying to show off or anything - don't get me wrong, 'cause most of the time it is very difficult. Though sometimes we both feel like we deserve a few medals or something, must admit! On the up side, we're tying the knot later this year after seven long years of sporadic bliss mixed with some pretty agonizing distance!! 
. [Edited 1/29/06 1:35am] wow...  that is amazing
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i wish you the best.  just practice patience and comittment. while long distance is difficult, i know that it can be done. love can do things we havent even heard of yet. if you both believe in love, then it will prevail. it will manifest when it can. 
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SammiJ said: enough with the hating alright?
i'm fucking tired of when someone is trying to be positive and it's beaten down with something negative if you can't do it - say it and that's it. im getting sick of the negativity that's on the org lately
lighten the fuck up. thank you. Just speaking the truth as I've lived it for the last six years, and it ain't a happy one. I will say however, that NO ONE could have ever talked me out of it at the time and it's something you have to live out for yourself. Long distance relationships can be very romantic. | |
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heartbeatocean said: SammiJ said: enough with the hating alright?
i'm fucking tired of when someone is trying to be positive and it's beaten down with something negative if you can't do it - say it and that's it. im getting sick of the negativity that's on the org lately
lighten the fuck up. thank you. Just speaking the truth as I've lived it for the last six years, and it ain't a happy one. I will say however, that NO ONE could have ever talked me out of it at the time and it's something you have to live out for yourself. Long distance relationships can be very romantic. oh wow you've been in one roughly the same length as me!! AND you're a serious musician, too, right?  must be some kind of disease we've got...
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mrDespues said: heartbeatocean said: Just speaking the truth as I've lived it for the last six years, and it ain't a happy one. I will say however, that NO ONE could have ever talked me out of it at the time and it's something you have to live out for yourself. Long distance relationships can be very romantic. oh wow you've been in one roughly the same length as me!! AND you're a serious musician, too, right? must be some kind of disease we've got...
Except mine stopped being long-distance 3 years ago. But the distance is comparable...US-Egypt for me.
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violett said: i wish you the best.
just practice patience and comittment. while long distance is difficult, i know that it can be done. love can do things we havent even heard of yet. if you both believe in love, then it will prevail. it will manifest when it can. OR - Just have some local ass on the side.  "Free yo mind and yo ass will follow" - George Clinton | |
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heartbeatocean said: mrDespues said: oh wow you've been in one roughly the same length as me!! AND you're a serious musician, too, right? must be some kind of disease we've got...
Except mine stopped being long-distance 3 years ago. But the distance is comparable...US-Egypt for me.
yikes eqypt! well you have a major culture difference there though .. Aus and US aren't all that different in comparison. yes, ===> <=== this emoticon certainly describes how it can feel at times!
Staying busy helps... but sometimes you can get workaholic when your loved one is away and burnout sucks. I suppose like everything else you gotta balance.. the worst thing I find about long-distance is that you have to be careful NOT to live a double life as a result.. I mean, nothing sinister or anything, but spending a few hours on the phone everyday can mess up your day to day life IF you're not careful.  to other long-distancers on this thread... it surely IS a bitch!
BUT if it really is RIGHT then the reward is WONDERFUL whichever State/Province/Country you finally settle on together. . [Edited 1/30/06 0:56am] | |
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Militant said: GangstaFam said: If the love is real, it's totally worth it.
Yep. I've been in a long distance relationship for a year and half now. It's difficult, but she's moving here in 6 months time, so that will make things hella easier. I find it amazing how quickly you can actually get to know someone when all you have is phone conversations. I know so many couples that have been together and just get caught up in having sex etc all the time, that they never really get to know each other that well, and i find that sad. I totally agree. I met my girly on the net by accident 11 or so years ago so we spent many years just typing and getting to know each other before we'd even thought about doing the deed. We eventually met up and 7 years later we're still enjoying just talking... although we're VERY sick of the phone and internet by now of course... but we definitely notice that we feel like maybe some couples don't know each other as deeply as we know each other. I guess that's the benefit from all of this... it's like anything you work at... you put some GOOD into the hours, you get out something great later on. It's what you put in that comes back to you. | |
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