missfee said:

A man whose father and uncle cheated would likely do the same thing also. This is learned behaviour and to the cheating man is normal in his thinking.

luv4u said:

oh gosh, this is really bad then...for me at least..oh god....
[Edited 1/23/06 18:24pm]

purpleizpassion said:

Natisse said:

Sinister said:

i agree....

No. I know I don't, for one.

Well 2 cents time....Here is what I think....All people not just men can cheat...It is not just a gender, race or whatever thing. People cheat for many reasons. Let's examine why "some" men cheat....A good majority of them cheat because growing up for some odd reason it is considered "cool" or "being a man" to screw as many women as possible.

Regardless of if your in a relationship or not that mentality is there. This does not mean all men think this way cause I don't believe in generalizing. But that is a prime reason why some men cheat. Some people don't think..."people" not just men but women as well...And some men are just out to fuck...period...its pretty easy to tell...regardless of the "game" some may put on you...Most of them are pretty transparent in what their intentions are. It's up to the women they are pursing to choose to fall for it or not.

Sinister said:

i agree. what you are saying makes a whole lot of sense. i think my thing is, its not so much of me being able to forgive that person, who would cheat on me, its me who i wouldn't forgive for letting it happen. I hate being made a fool out of..sometimes its not your fault if you are being played for a fool, some of those players out there are really good at what they do. But still, it doesn't make it right...in my mind, while being in a relationship, the worst thing in the world is being cheated on, or betrayed...

missfee said:

The thing is I don't feel bad for those who against their better judgement and hook up with a dog of a man. If you go in thinking you are going to "change" somebody then you are doomed from day 1....If you go in thinking "he wont treat me like that" Then I got no love for ya.

It's the people that have been together for a while and the man goes against his judgement and thinks with his johnson and cheats....And even though he was a model citizen the whole time until then that is when I feel bad for the woman or man that was cheated on. That mistake is just that... a mistake...but the damage is tremendous. You can't predict that kind of situation....that has to do with time and chance....You beat yourself up when your taking the guy from the club home that is no good....you don't do it when you did all your homework on the guy and he makes a mistake. You can't predict everything. Im not saying the guy or girl should be forgiven, but in that case it's them not you that messed up.

Sinister said:

this is what i'm extremely afraid of...

missfee said:

yes

I'd confidently predict that about 50% do.

bkw said:

And which side do you fall?

i mean all in all, in my experience, i'd have to say, NO, all men don't cheat, just because i had proof living in my house. and i think that sometimes, guys who grow up with fathers who cheat on their mothers, yeah they are subject to be cheaters as well, but they are also subject to not do it seeing how it affected their mother. That would give them reason to not cause that much pain on another woman.

i think most men cheat, but if you have to cheat, to me it's the cowardly way out. don't get me wrong, i know all relationships have their issues, but if you can't be honest with the person from the jump then that says something about you. and if you are caught up in one of those "heat of the moment" situations, thats the time to think about if what you have is worth losing over one hot moment with somebody else....and yes it goes for women too, because i've seen plenty of "nice" guys who have been cheated on by their girlfriends...it hurts guys just as much as women when they are betrayed....

missfee said:

Well, I think it's more likley for a man to cheat if that is what was observed in his household growing up or if it was viewed as an "acceptable" practice. But I'm sure there are cases where men who grew up in that environment will do just the opposite. Usually it's one or the other: a vicious cycle that keeps going or the individual who vows not to live his life like that.
I have also found in my own experiences that the ones I thought most likley not to cheat did and the ones i thought would be dogs were not. It's always devasting and makes it hard to trust again. it can breed insecurity, bittnerness and distrustfulness. If you are in a relationship, try not to think the worst and it's probably best not to voice these fears to the one you're dating. Sometimes, it can become s self-fullfilling prophecy.
[Edited 1/24/06 6:45am]

jerseykrs said:

Hey look!! IT'S BILL CLINTON!!

My friends husband is jerk. A real jerk. More like her child than a husband. Everytime they get into an arguement he throws that shit in her face, "at least I don't cheat" ..

He is not attractive at all and very introverted. She believes if he COULD [cheat] he would. We know he looks at other woman in THAT way. He ain't foolin nobody

DexMSR said:

I believe many do. Not ALL, but many...

DexMSR said:

CalhounSq said:

I believe many do, and if half of the "not all" could, they would.

bluesbaby said:

I know, that cute sound it has doesn't quite fit its meaning. It's more like somthing you would call a baby or a duckling. But I guess some of them might actually be snarky too.

Illustrator said:

Do you place your carrier partially off of the grid and then stack all of the rest of your boats on the part of the carrier that's unreachable by your opponent?

Not that I do this on a regular basis or anything...

I honestly believe only one I would be cheating would be myself. If for no other reason, as a old man I plan to look back and marvel at how much of a good man I was in my life.

a little poem:

We can't control every thought in our heads
Or where our eyes may happen to glance

But we can control advances made
And we control the removal of our pants.

andyman91 said:

I like it

I never have.

TRON said:

that's cuz you are awesome.

Not all men cheat, but I'm of the opinion that "if they cheat on ya once, they'll do it again." Same goes for women. Of course there are always exceptions, but for the most part, I think it's true.

I cheated once in retaliation to being cheated on b/c I wanted my boyfriend to hurt as much as he hurt me. In retrospect I realize that is faulty reasoning b/c the 'cheater' obviously doesn't care that much about you or they wouldn't cheat and therefore, their feelings probably won't be that hurt if you do it to them. I foolishly gave the ex too many chances and he took advantage of them all...which is why I now have a strict one strike & you're out rule when it comes to cheating. But anyway... I KNOW I'll never cheat on anyone again or even knowingly be the "other woman" with a guy who has a girlfriend because I would never want to hurt anyone like that.