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I was wondering about the love a man has for his mom, compared to the love he has for his wife?

Is the love more for your wife or is it just a different kind of love?
Is mom still always, right!? Can do no wrong?

okay, I guess this is a stupid thread, and YES, I know it's hard to believe, but I AM NOT perfect!

Or, nobody loves moms

I think its probably a different kind of love, as you wouldn't divorce your ma would you?

LleeLlee said:

and if they are too attached divcorce them!

LleeLlee said:

Yes, different it would be

But I wonder what it's like to go from loving your first woman (mother) to loving another (wife) . Ya know!? Like there is no "breakup" with mother. I also wonder why some men put their mothers first over the wife. Not that I'm in this situation, just wondering.

AGCM said:

divorce their mother?

LleeLlee said:

why not?



a bitch is a bitch

not that i have any experience with that issue

AGCM said:

TheCatWoman said:

It depends how strong the bond with the mother is, some men idolise their mothers, Elvis Presley! Some have a not so intense relationship. It can be frustrating when a husband dismisses the wifes feelings in favour of the mothers...he needs a good talking to and should ideally, try to strike a good balance. If the mother is clingy and doesn't want to let him go, he should talk to her about it and how its affecting his relationship with his wife. I think a lot of it boils down to the sons attitude towards these two relationships. Nobody likes to be in the middle of a tug of war but things can be worked out if all parties are willing to reach a compromise.

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LleeLlee said:

Usually when a man loves his mother, (but not to the point of an Oedipus complex), he tends to treat women better. I say that because that is what I have personally experienced.

AGCM said:

on a serious note..i think 1sexymf is right...when a man appreciate his mother and respects her, he most likely will treat the woman he loves the same way he treats his mother...



but there are a lot of motherfuckers around that have bitches as a mum!







sorry!!!

1sexymf said:

Relationships can be complex, you can love somebody but sometimes it isnt reciprocated.

AGCM said:

True that!
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1sexymf said:

I've heard the same thing..




LleeLlee, Elvis, good example. He seemed to be happy and content with his mothers love. I think this made it easy for him to not "NEED" love, from woman, a certain "Woman".

TheCatWoman said:

When a guy respects his mother it bodes well. The companionship of a wife or husband is very different to that of the relationship with your parents. You may love your mother, but you might not share everything with her in the way you do with your wife etc. sometimes children are protective over their parents and dont tell them things they might tell a friend or partner.

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LleeLlee said:

Interesting!

i let anybody i become seriously involved with that i am a PROUD MAMA'S BOY!
my mom raised 5 kids by herself after my punk ass dad decided he decided he wanted to be with somebody else with less responsibilities. so from the nights at 1 am when i would go out on the corner and wait for her bus to come so i could walk her home after working 14 hours, to doing the grocery shopping while she was at work, my mom did everything to make a well rounded man, and for that i owe her everything. to this day, if she needs something, i do it (sometimes begrudgingly)...she's 65 and partly handicapped now.
so to answer your question...i can open my heart to any female, as long as she knows that she'll be a very close #2 as long as my mom is on this earth!

"i'll always love my mama, she's my favorite girl!"

meltwithu said:

meltwithu said:

How sweet!

I love this post

Just because I live with her doesn't mean we're close.

meltwithu .. this has to be one of my all time favorite posts REALLY!

Made my day.

Honesty and humbleness together makes one great man!

CaptainChaos said:

lmao!

TheCatWoman said:

aww shux...i'm just a regular ole guy (who happens to know how to cook, clean, shop for the best bargains and bargain with bill collectors )

but really, a few of the females i've met don't like that me and my mom are so close. i call her from work to find out the latest scores (she watches more sports than i do, and i'm a sports NUT!), and she'll call me and we'll talk about the terrible singers on american idol. last year, i took her to one of those 70's reviews shows, and one of The Persuaders came up to her (she was in her wheelchair) and gave her a kiss and thanked her for coming to the show. that's the kind of stuff that makes me a proud mama's boy. seeing the joy on her face when so many parents get shunned by their kids when they older. any day can be the last day for either of us, so i make a point to talk to her everyday, even if it's only for 5 minutes, but it usually goes on for 30

meltwithu said:

Thats awesome!


I would fall totally in love seeing a man with so much love and respect for his mother.


We need more men like you!

let's c. who comes first. the love for the mom and the woman is different.

y r is the woman so jealous if we say our mom comes first and her second???

we dont come first in her life, the kids do!!

my husband adores his mum (and sister). Although he is very firm with her when disagreeing. He will always take my side in an argument if she tries to tell us how to raise our kids he will set her straight. He thinks she can be a complete pain sometimes, but he treats her very respectfully, as he does me.

I reckon it does have an influence over relationships with other women if a man gets along well with his mum.

meltwithu said:

AWESOME!



It's not a dumb thread, there's definitely a relationship there. I'd be weary of a man w/ disregard for his mother. He may have his reasons but fucked up family situations lead to more fucked up family situations & I don't want that shit in my life if I can help it. It's hard to come out well adjusted sometimes, I want a man who loves his momma lots. As long as he ain't lookin' for me to BE his momma