No I wouldn't...

Ocean said:

Why not? Honestly, look at this child and tell me they're not ugly:

WHOOOOO boy..when Whitney said "I believe the children are our future.." I hope she wasn't talking about a heavily polluted post-Apocalyptic nuclear one with all these fuckers running around.

I wouldn't say it to the kid's face (I try to adhere to the "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" adage), but if I was with my friends and we saw an ugly kid we might say something to each other. Same goes for ugly adults, etc.
Every kid gets picked on whether it's for being "ugly" or "fat" or "dumb". Not saying it's right, but that's the way it is. I did my fair share of picking on other kids, but my "so called friends" picked on me too, to no end...sometimes I felt like Veronica Sawyer in a sea of Heathers.
My friend's older brother made me cry on my first day of kindergarten b/c he gave me a nickname I didn't like...but after 25 years we laugh about it and are actually good friends....and all my close friends call me that nickname.

C'est la vie, c'est la guerre.

applekisses said:

Preach girl!

I think that my life would've been a lot easier if some of my cousins didn't call me ugly and fat. It's funny because now that I look at pictures when I was in elementary school I realize that I was a really cute little boy.

It hurts people. It slips into your subconscious and you carry it forever.


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PurpleJedi said:

...the Crypt Keeper!

I'd never say anything nasty to a child. But once the kid turns 18, he/she is fair game.

uPtoWnNY said:

18? Nigga please. You gotta get 'em while they're young.

besides, it may be hard to believe, but I was an "ugly" child myself. Fortunately for me, I grew into my looks. I remember one time when I was about 12, I asked my mom who looked better out of me and my best friend, and she said "Well....he's handsome." That shit hurt. But fuck her, and fuck him cuz now I'm a fucking bombshell.

SammiJ said:

Me too

I've always been cute.....and have gotten even cuter.....

ofcourse, if kids are ugly, why say they look cute??

Facts are this. Most kids, like most people of any age, are kind of average. There are some that are cute, and of course there are some ugly ones running around. I'd never say so to the kid or it's parents, but it's the truth. Where do you think all the ugly adults came from?

No, of course I wouldn't. What sort of asshole would do that??

DynamicSavior said:

abierman said:

I like your way of thinking!

DynamicSavior said:

...You go get uhm guy

most people i know are able to laugh about having been an ugly baby...how long does ugly-baby status last, anyway? the first month or so, all babies are pretty creepy looking - it's just that some are creepier than others.

clearly, i'm not a baby person.

but calling a kid ugly is another thing altogether. babies don't have a choice in how they look - they're babies. plus, they don't understand 'ugly' even if you tried to explain it to them. kids know what you're saying to them and they're trying to get acceptance. for a grown ass adult to call a kid ugly is pretty low.

Anxiety said:

Well being an attractive person, one word I have NEVER been called and I been called some names, is Ugly. That word don't fit/discribe me. But as far as how long does ugly-baby/child statues last? Sometimes and most of the time it lasts forever and into adulthood. I remember the "ugly" unattractive kids were always a bit jealous or resentful of the not so ugly kids (attractive ones). And same thing as adults. I have met so many woman who HATE physically attractive woman. Like it's their fault they were born with looks .. or you get the fat woman bitter to the Not so fat woman . But anyway, I think all babies are beautiful

TheCatWoman said:

you're cute as well.........how about that?

OH, and I don't have any pity for "ugly" adults .. the ones who drown themselfs in their own "ugly" sorrows

As adults we know what the true meaning of beauty is. And if you have not learned by now, (as an adult), than beauty never lived there.
And thus the reason they would STILL feel ugly.
Whats important is how we see ourself.
And being of a beautiful soul, the cloud of attractiveness surely hangs over your head. Thats for sure.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, I have met some "ugly" people who were so attractive because their beauty shined through on how they see themself and others. And they don't have a "feel sorry 4 me attitude". They truely know they are a beautiful human being..

abierman said:

I won't be after you read what I just posted above


but thanx

TheCatWoman said:

stop whining!

abierman said:

but i'm pretty

i have known the sexy and i have known the ugly - i grew up a short, fat, dumpy little ugly kid and when i hit puberty i started growing into my body and i honestly feel that the older i get, the better i look. i look a hell of a lot better at35 than i did at 25, and i looked better at 25 than i did at 15. i notice the trend, okay? what's more important is, i FEEL better the older i get, because i'm still figuring out how to take care of myself and i'm getting better at it the older i get.

Anxiety said:

And coming up next on America's Top Model...

onenitealone said:

damn right.

Anxiety said:

Sorry, I wasn't taking the piss. I agree - and co-sign - everything you say.

Just it sounds like something you hear in the commercials.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

That is the truth...and no matter how much self-talk...therapy...self-help or whatever you do it's still back there. Shit like that does deep damage. People need to check themselves before altering another person's self-perspective for life.

onenitealone said:

i should start my own infomercial. i could be rich, i tell you. RICH!

Anxiety said:

applekisses said:

I do agree with what you're both saying. I totally sympathise and empathise - that's why, when my mates have children, I'll do everything I can to make those kids feel loved, special, unique and individual. Careless talk can have long-standing effects on people.

But... and here's the hard/science bit - at some point you must take control of your own destiny. You must relinquish the past. And that invloves loving yourself. Cheese cheese cheese - I can hear people saying that somewhere - but it's true. It took me a long time to realise that if I didn't fully appreciate myself, why the hell should anybody else? Why should I give others the ammunition to attack me by doing it to myself first? That's crazy.

It's hard to eradicate the things that have almost been programmed into you over time. Especially when these things happen when you're young and impressionable. But it can be done.

Without even knowing you, I know that you're both good people. The org is full of them. And when it comes down to it, were you a good person or a bad person during your life? It's either yes or no. And I'm willing to bet that it'll be a 'yes' in both cases. That's all that matters. So celebrate yourselves, your good bits, your supposed bad bits - they all add up to make you you. That's the 'you', by the way, that your friends, family and Orgers love. And we wouldn't have it any other way.

onenitealone said:

this is part of why I love you