... I'm not talking sexual do's and don'ts here ... but what, in a new relationship turns you on or off? What do you hope your man or woman will do and what will make you turn and run?

What are you looking for and what annoys you about new partners?

Bad manners and rudeness are definite no no's

REDFEATHERS said:

Yes but slimy sucking up is also a turn off You know who I'm talking about here

Teacher said:

Which one of many????

DON'T
answer yes without listening to the question
actually, not listening in general.
DO
give your partner your undivided attention when they talk. Please guys.
and do what she asks, then she won't have to nag.

Teacher said:

SO true!

whiny nagging tantrums are a NO-NO. i'm breaking up with somebody because rather than appreciate the fact that she has a man who works 60 hours a week, pays his own bills, lives alone and has his own car, she'd rather focus on why she can't see me 5 times a week i've been on vacation since saturday and haven't called her once--just to enjoy some peace and quiet and not hear a bunch of nagging--"there are TWO of us in this relationship"--blah blah blah--well you know what--i haven't been off for two days in the same work week since AUGUST--so shut your damn pie hole

REDFEATHERS said:

You know the one, calling all women his Queen, The Love of His Life and assorted slimy shit...

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Like "yes my love, what would you have of me? You know I do anything for you my Queen" !!!

Teacher said:

It still could be one of many..

do's: appreciation of the small things
respects my passions and shares his own
is patient
is in touch with @least SOME emotions

don'ts: impatience
ignorance
shovanism
wont hug or hold my hand in public
or is afraid to show others he loves me

meltwithu said:

why be with someone you don't like? Don't make excuses, set her free today and tell her she deserves someone better!

REDFEATHERS said:

Not that I have dated!

Don't be a fool thinking you can take some emotional baggage shit out on your other half and thinking they will be able to turn it around and give you back love as change.

Do give Love, Suport, Acceptance, Touching, Cutenss, Sweetness, Kindness, freely and fully not expecting anything back but knowing that you get what you give.

Teacher said:

Oh..

Yes, I know who you mean.

Violence, arrogance, unpredictability and dishonesty, misers and bad hygiene

REDFEATHERS said:

you get what you give in this world.

charlottegelin said:

i deserve better! it'll be over by the weekend--this has been going sone a slippery slope fast for about 3 months now

REDFEATHERS said:

bad hygiene B.O.

meltwithu said:

I'm sure you do, so why keep flogging this dead horse!!!

charlottegelin said:

i didn't want to break up with her at christmas

meltwithu said:

Oh God

MickG said:

[Edited 1/9/06 14:56pm]

meltwithu said:

wow...that was blunt

BUT WHAT ABOUT NEW RELATIONSHIPS...

If a man takes your advice and simply 'does what she asks'... what's the point? If a guy is gonna immediately start doing as you ask where's the challenge in that? You want a 'real' man or some dick you can control with the remote?

Tough call huh?

charlottegelin said:

But what new girlfriend starts nagging straight away? How about that?

papaa said:

LADIES... A SHOW OF HANDS.

And please be honest.

charlottegelin said:

papaa said:

how about starting a new thread? Ladies: How long into the relationship do you wait before you start to nag him?

nilegettolrahc said:

But do we ever really nag? Men have that perception. But to be honest, if they did what we ask them to do first time round, we wouldn't need to ask again ... and again ... and again. Right?