Some of my co-workers and I discussed topic. Most felt it was wrong. Some felt "love is where u find it."

demi and ashton, i think they really love each other
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Age should not matter. Love is love is love.

Older women date younger men. Same as older men dating younger women.

My wife is ten years older than me, so I'm ok with that


Older men with younger women sort of gives me the creeps

I think it's great as long as the age gap is respectable. But it kills me how some folks see nothing wrong w/ older men/younger women & FREAK when the situation is reversed

luv4u said:

Exactly! If I, I mean SHE can get away with it, why not?

somebody's got "mommy issues"

'Lost' star admits fathering child while separated from Barbara Hershey
NEW YORK (AP) — Naveen Andrews, who plays Iraqi soldier Sayid on the hit show Lost, has acknowledged that he fathered a child while briefly separated from his longtime girlfriend.

Andrews' publicist said that Andrews and actress Barbara Hershey were separated for a "brief period" last year, during which Andrews had an encounter with another woman. He recently learned that he is the father of her baby boy.

"I have every intention of assuming appropriate responsibility for the child," Andrews said Friday in a statement released to The Associated Press.

Andrews said he and Hershey have worked things out and remain committed to their relationship.

The British-born Andrews, 35, plays Sayid Jarrah, a former member of Iraq's Republican Guard, on ABC's Lost. He is currently nominated for a Golden Globe for supporting actor in a series, miniseries or movie.

Hershey, 57, has appeared in films including Lantana,Breakfast of Champions and Falling Down.

meltwithu said:

sayid! he is so fine!!

meltwithu said:

A 22 year age gap?? Something tells me he'll be falling into more strange pussies & fathering more babies in the future

shit i ain't heard barbara hershey's name since she was getting her back dug out by that ghost in "the entity"...i thought she was old back then

next think you'll tell me is nick lachey is banging margot kidder

meltwithu said:

Or fucking Fergie Oh wait, she just looks 50+

sinisterpentatonic said:

You ain't shit.

women should always date younger guys so they don't have to live the last 20 years on their own.

Actually by then, they probably want to

Never mind

I don't think it's wrong.

I do wonder sometimes what the relationship's really about though. Sometimes when there are huge age gaps I think there must be additional needs that are being met. It's not wrong; we each need to find people that are right for us but it sometimes seems from the outside that the person needs a mother or father figure in order to feel safe/loved.

it helped Stella get her groove back.

sinisterpentatonic said:

well, we see how THAT turned out

meltwithu said:

i didn't make it to the end. So she didn't get her groove back?

I don't care. Sometimes when there's a big gap I wonder if one of them's got some sort of issues, but mostly I don't care. If the people involved are happy, who am I to argue?

sinisterpentatonic said:

In a tale rich in lost love, closeted secrets and acrimonious divorce, it turns out that famed local writer Terry McMillan -- whose celebrated romance and subsequent marriage to a man 23 years her junior became the subject of her fictionized best-seller "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" --

actually got her groove back with a man who now says he's gay.

The story is spilling out in made-for-Hollywood detail in Contra Costa County Superior Court, where McMillan has filed for divorce from her Jamaican- born husband of six years, Jonathan Plummer.

McMillan, 53, said in court documents that the marriage was based on a "fraud'' because Plummer lied about his sexual orientation -- and married her only to gain U.S. citizenship.

"It was devastating to discover that a relationship I had publicized to the world as life-affirming and built on mutual love was actually based on deceit,'' she wrote in her declaration. "I was humiliated."

Plummer, 30, countered in court papers of his own that McMillan has turned on him with a "homophobic'' vengeance and is trying to force his return to an uncertain future in Jamaica. He wants to void the couple's prenuptial agreement that would keep from him most of the millions she's earned as a writer.

He also claims he was denied his full share of royalties, as spelled out in the prenup, from "How Stella Got Her Groove Back," the fictionalized account of a single mother's torrid relationship with a Jamaican young enough to be her son that very much parallels the lives of McMillan and Plummer.

Plummer's attorney, Dolores Sargent, said her client has no interest in embarrassing McMillan or extorting money from her.

"All I want to do is settle the case in a way that's fair to both parties ... and that allows Jonathan sufficient funds to re-establish himself,'' Sargent said. "And we have been blocked.''

In court papers, however, McMillan leaves little doubt that she believes Plummer was always motivated by money.

"Jonathan has manipulated me from the very beginning in his scheme to come to the United States, become a citizen and get rich through someone else's effort,'' McMillan wrote in one of her filings.

In fact, McMillan says Plummer zeroed in on her precisely because of her celebrity status as an author whose earlier books included "Waiting to Exhale, '' which sold some 4 million copies and was made into a movie.

In an interview, Plummer insisted that he didn't know he was gay when he met McMillan in June 1995 at a Jamaican resort. Nor, he says, did he seize on the author's fame.

"I was a 20-year-old kid when I met her and had no idea that she was anybody other than an attractive, older woman,'' he said in court papers.

For her part, McMillan, who was then 42, said she worried when she first met Plummer that he was interested only in her money. "But Jonathan was very charming and made me believe that he was crazy about me,'' she told the court.

The two eventually married in Maui on Sept. 8, 1998 -- but not before Plummer signed a prenup that waived his rights to everything should they ever part, including "temporary and permanent spousal support and attorney's fees, '' according to court papers filed by McMillan.

The couple settled in McMillan's $4 million Danville home and, at least according to Plummer, enjoyed a happy life -- until the last few years when the marriage started coming undone.

"He became less attentive, less charming, more distracted and absent from the home,'' McMillan wrote in her declaration.

Plummer said he was spending long hours with a dog-grooming business in Danville that McMillan had set up for him a couple of years ago in apparent anticipation of a split.

It wasn't until just before last Christmas, Plummer says, that the two finally split -- after he revealed he was gay.

"I was kicked out of the house in December right after I told her,'' he said in the interview.

In court records, however, McMillan says Plummer confessed to being gay only after she confronted him about all his hours of phone calls to a male friend living in Jamaica. She also says she later learned that Plummer was participating in online gay chat sites.

In any event, judging from the court filings, the disclosure quickly turned ugly. McMillan obtained a restraining order to keep Plummer from their house, and she claimed she recently discovered that Plummer had embezzled at least $200,000 from her bank accounts before and during their marriage. (He admits in court papers "a gross error of judgment" in taking $62,000 without her knowledge, but said that he was financially dependent on her during the marriage and that he intends to pay it back.)

Plummer obtained his own restraining order against the author, alleging that McMillan constantly harassed him for coming out of the closet, and at one point walked into his dog-grooming business and tossed a ceramic object across the room.

"She kept calling me, saying nasty things about me being gay, calling me a fag,'' Plummer said in an interview.

In a Jan. 14 letter written by McMillan and filed with the court, the author told Plummer, "The reason you're going to make a great fag is that most of you guys are just like dogs anyway. ... You do whatever with whomever pleases you and don't seem to care about the consequences."

Plummer also says McMillan came into the dog-grooming shop and left him a bottle of Jamaican hot pepper sauce on which she wrote, "Fag Juice Burn Baby Burn,'' and that she also scrawled "Jonathan's Fag boyfriend Fag'' on a photo of a friend.

"She is an extremely angry woman who is homophobic and is lashing out at me because I have learned I am gay,'' Plummer declared in a court filing last month.

McMillan's attorney, Jill Hersh -- a divorce lawyer who has handled civil rights cases involving gay couples and their children -- says her client "is anything but homophobic.''

"However, she feels betrayed and disappointed ... that her husband is gay, '' Hersh said. "And anything you have seen in the pleadings emanates from how she is experiencing the end of her marriage, and it doesn't have to do with anything else.''

Hersh also disputes Plummer's contention that McMillan was seeking an annulment as a way to get him deported, as he alleges. In pressing her claim of fraud, however, McMillan told the court that Plummer waited to tell her he was gay until he knew his application for citizenship was going to be approved.

Plummer says he understands that McMillan felt betrayed by his coming out. "But I was being truthful to myself, and didn't want to hurt her anymore,'' he said.

On June 17, a Superior Court judge handed Plummer a minor victory -- ordering McMillan to pay him $2,000 a month in spousal support, plus $25,000 in attorney's fees -- until a full trial on the validity of the prenuptial agreement and the annulment request is heard in October

damn!

It can be fun for a short while (it happened to me to have a crush on younger one) but it can't last.

I never did it with someone much older than me but as soon as I found him attractive, I guess it would be OK.

I date the elderly.

PlanetMe said:

HELL YES!! he's gorgeous Barbara is a lucky woman

I think it's awesome.....

Men wanted younger pussy for years.. makes sense that a woman wants a man that can still get it up.

Don't do it...

Byron said:

Older women seem to try to see if they can fuck me.