Especially if they won't leave you alone and they seem to be under some weird impression that you're "tight" with them, despite the fact that you make every indication to the contrary?

Is there a polite way of telling someone they creep you out? Are there greeting cards that can be purchased?

Thanks in advance.

make a card


stating simply


you creep me the fuck out ... please stay away from me

Anxiety said:

Thanks very much- an orgnote would have done it but I get the message now.... sheesh





And I thought we were tight too brother

Mach said:

JimmyNothing said:

truly spoken like a man who hasn't been served his restraining order yet!

Anxiety said:

The cold shoulder technique works beautifully. I knew a guy who suddenly thought I was his best friend...he even bought me a Christmas gift (!). After a while, he got the hint.

Just be honest and upfront but you don't have to be mean spirited.

Rhondab said:

so how can you be honest and upfront about this and still be nice?

Someone has a infatuated fixation of you? A stalker?

Anxiety said:

I think you need to be quite careful because from what you say initially, it sounds like they may be clingy with you because they haven't got many other friends or are lonely. You may be someone friendly who has shown some interest in the past or who is just a nice person that they feel comfortable being around.

Personally, I would try to set ground rules, for example make it quite clear that I prefer emails to phone calls, or do what I did in the past with one particularly needy friend and said I welcomed hearing from her but I am not the sort of person who needs lots of contact with someone to be friends; I like having friendships where I can pick up the phone if I need to but don't worry if you don't hear from me for a while because I need space too. Now we have a friendship that's more on my terms than hers. It sounds cruel but when we do meet up I feel recharged enough to deal with her problems again - it was getting me down being the person she called all the time to talk through the same things again and again.

I hope you can sort it out. I think you've ended up in this position because you're a genuine and nice person so in a way it's a compliment, even though it's difficult to deal with right now.

I don't like to beat around the bush. If someone is creeping me out I tell them. I have before and they were offended, but they left me alone! I mean if you care what this person thinks of you then be nice, but if not then fuck it. Let it be known!

CarrieLee said:

I would always try to be "nice" about it.....but if ya needs to be harsh....be harsh!

luv4u said:

luv4u said:

no...it's more like, someone i've noticed who makes a habit of preying on other people's sympathies, and they've been trying to chip at mine lately...and i'm trying to find a really nice way of saying 'we all have our problems, i really don't need to digest yours.'

Anxiety said:

Well there ya go.....say that maybe add a "beyatch" to the end...

I always find 'The Stare' works best.

Get the right balance, though.

Too much staring - you may look crazy.

Too little staring - they may think you're being coquettish.

Raise an eyebrow with it. And hiss out of the side of your mouth. They'll run.

onenitealone said:

onenitealone said:

Mach said:

I just laughed out loud at work at that

Natisse said:

i just told my dog that ...

she is staring at me while i try to eat

it's creepin me the fuck out

Mach said:

i actually used to work with someone who used to just sit and stare at me. i finally told her she reminded me of the dog from 'frazier' and she stopped.

Mach said:

awww...

Anxiety said:

there is a bagger boy at the food store who stares at me



come to think of it... that creeps me the fuck out too

Mach said:

Well what do you expect....you said sex is the best food of all...

Mach said:

Is this thread about creepiness or staring?

pardonme4livin said:

well i am NOT feeding him...that's fer ser

onenitealone said:

staring creeps

Anxiety said:

The best way is the most direct way. Just tell them. Is this about me?