i'm black, and i like to eat watermelon and chicken. but when i'm around other people, i get hesitant about what i'm doing, as not to have somebody give me that "SEE!" look. anybody else ever catch themselves doing this (not necessarily in a racial way, but just in a general kind of way)

meltwithu said:

sounds like you care about what people think about the "real" you. The answer to your question, no i don't really have to "watch" what I do around other people because i just don't give a fuck. I'm gonna be me no matter what!!!!

I try not to sway in public unless I am holding a baby - I sometimes do it without the baby just out of habit

I TRY really hard not to talk about kids all the time with people who don't have any, it's really f*@#ing hard

If i am hanging out with a female who I don't find physically attractive i make it clear with my body language for people who are around that we are not a couple.

Spats said:

Its ok spats...I am sure they are thinking thank god I am not attached to this idiot next to me.

Spats said:

sounds very insecure

Well...considering that the majority of my family has no clue that i'm gay, yeah, i watch how i act around them. Case in point, my mother came to visit a couple of weeks ago and wanted to go to the mall. Well the first big strike against me is that i have dated half the people who work at the mall. And I'm still on "huggin" basis with 98% of them. But anyway, one of my "friends" came up to me in Hollister and acted like he wanted to give me a hug and ask how i was, thankfully he got the message when i started pointing and shaking my head behind my mothers back. It turned out to be just a handshake & a "How u doin?" Oh & did I ever tell ya about the time my parents made a "suprise" visit and I had to hide my bf at the time in my bedroom? I should just come out and say fuck it.

alexnevermind319 said:

yeah you really should

nilegettolrahc said:

Eh, momma's dealing with breast cancer right now **however she is cancer free, just finishing up the chemo** and my father just put his mother in a nursing home, probably not the best time to drop the cawksuckin bomb.

alexnevermind319 said:

no. probably give them all heart attacks - but you reckon they never suspected already?

Not insecure. I just don't want people to think i am dating an ugo or Plain Jane. I have overheard other people make fun of situations like that and i have friends who have done that and i even have to admit that i have done it. And i don't want people doing it to me. it's another example for the topic of the thread.

Spats said:

I bet all your dates wear this on their shirts....

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JediTodd said:

nilegettolrahc said:

Well, my mother called today and told me her computer had crashed and needed my password. Sad 2 say, when I lived at home, I had quiet the collection of "Adult" material on there....So I'm guessin when they finally hack my password they will see more than they ever wanted to. But my entire family knows that I do not have very many str8 friends and my mother loves my best friend. who knows. I do go & pick out my mothers clothing and she DOES refuse to get her hair cut without me. Maybe the not having a girlfriend thing since like 96 tips 'em off also. who knows.

alexnevermind319 said:

If I was your mum I would know for sure, and I wouldn't mind at all

nilegettolrahc said:

Awww...spanks...I do have an aunt & uncle & 4 redneck cousins who know. They all accept me, but I just think it would be harder for my parents to take. And I would never dream of taking home one of my dates. That would just tear London, KY all 2 hell & back.

Spats said:

How exactly do you do that? Shove her in the face if a cute girl walks in?

CalhounSq said:

he just waits till they get to the mo-mo before regconizing the prosty???

j/k i dunno lol

IrresistibleB1tch said:

wow, i never tied all that to being german...especially not the nose-picking etiquette!

i do have different "masks" for different situations or environments, mainly because i'm very protective of my "real" self and i don't feel the need to constantly explain my behavior, sense of humor, cultural references, etc. - so if i'm in a setting where i don't think i'll be understood or accepted, i will tend to go into a bit of a "blank" mode, where i only express myself in ways that are useful to the environment. it just makes life easier, even though it kinda sucks.

Of course. We all play roles according to who we're around and talking to. The rules of conversation and behaviour change quite radically, I've found. I tend not to whip my penis out in front of my family, whereas when I'm with my wife that's a regular occurance.