ThreadBare said:

I know what you mean, I work for the government.

But I was not blaming the media, like i wrote: "It seems we like bad behaviour of others than our own family."

i try to be nice and friendly as a rule. even if i'm addressed by
people in situations where others (like perhaps friend i might be
with at the time) think i shouldn't or should just say "fuck off"

just because it's so much easier to be nice to people and to give
everyone the time of day or a friendly word than it is to be rude
and to act selfish or 'better' than others.

usually i get duped by this behaviour tho but i don't care, id
rather be in a bit of a sticky because i was too friendly than it
be the other way around.


however, this also means that i don't call strangers on rude acts
or words. i usually tolerate *everything*, discarding another's
actions as 'nothing i should judge anyway'. which is kinda week i
guess in a way. but i'd rather mind my own bussiness and just try
to be 'good' to others instead of trying to change the behaviour
of someone who isn't. besides, i've tried to break down every bit
of ego i have/had over the years in becoming completely blank to
whatever someone else might do to me or say about me. i've my own
goals and ideals and the rest just slides of. i don't get offended
easily, especially not by strangers or their behaviour. because i
don't want to be liked or loved or agreed with. i just want to be
comfortable with my own behaviour and be able to sleep at night,
knowing that i've tried to do the right thing and not hurt others
just for the sake of it.

so that makes it easier to let things slide when they happen to me
than when i see them happening to say, a child on the street being
hit repeatedly and vehemently by it's mother or father. those are
instances when i do feel like screaming out at the injustice and
often do. however, in today's society you have to be carefull.

besides, the papers are filled every day with stories of people
who tried to confront bad behaviour in others and got smacked into
hospital -or worse- for it. it's a shame but this world today is
one where trying to do the right thing and helping someone is an
act that could even get you killed with a bit of bad luck.

i know that's probably weak and pathetic but, eventho i try to
stick up for the underdogs as much as possible and wherever i
can, i just won't get into the middle of something that is too
big in my opinion. i'd rather be safe than sorry i guess.


[Edited 1/1/06 7:22am]

Chico and Milty,

At the original time of post it was directly referencing events occurring ala org in the moment. The individual and I discussed it. It remains a question I have here and for the world at large. It can take many directions as has this conversation.

What I have noticed for bullying or unkind evil behavior to occur here there or anywhere is one major component. For those around the situation to say nothing about the behavior at all. Often a well placed knock it off would suffice. Its like yeast, when ignored it grows. I understand the multitude of causes that are present in humans to cause them to act out but I will never understand why good people all around them say nothing and chalk it off when questioned as awwwww that's just so and so.