Just admitting that you would not go back into the coffee shop if you told her no says that you are intimidated by people as it is. Maybe, as you work on your self esteem, you could try to do it in a genuine manner as opposed to this facade that you present here, that we all can see through quite plainly. Maybe she can teach you how to appreciate yourself, be honest with your fears of people not liking you for who you really are, and then you will be the better for it, not because of ego, but that you grew up.


made for tv movie edit

ThreadBare said:

i love how you use spanish.

ThreadBare said:

why, threadbare, we are of like minds!

2the9s said:

No, don't ask Shanti, she still does not understand what the hell he is talking about either!!!

Spats said:

you're going to brag to your friends about how you turned her down too.

JasmineFire said:

Chimichonga.

U ever hear of .....





can turn into a.....

Lleena said:

yep, don't be surprised if the chocolate starts to taste more like pieces of ass and shit.....

ThreadBare said:

cocobananas!!!!!

JasmineFire said:

Lleena said:

Bluesbaby, I don't think i lack self esteem. How is that? It's just that i like going to the coffee shop and if she is not as friendly after i say no then it could ruin a good thing. I would feel uncomfortable. Now That i think about it I am sort of pissed that she would put be in that position.

Threadbare, i realize that no one will be beautiful forever but i would rather be with someone who was beautiful at one time than not at all. And i know women appreciate it when men make the first move. They could make a career on appreciating that. They have devoted most of their lives to appreciating that. I don't approach anymore because i am tired of playing that game. Not because I don't believe in myself. I am just tired of risking my ass all the time. It's my turn to sit back and enjoy being approached. Men appreciate that risk as well.

Purplekisses, i know about the whole story about the ugly duckling turning into a beauty. But this girl is in her early to mid twenties. I think this is as good as she is ever going to look. Besides, she is not ugly. She is just plain.

Lleena, why would you think i would brag to my buddies about this?

The pretty blondes never ask anyone out.

Spats said:

next year send EVERY girl you know a christmas card to keep your fingers in the pie.

I was asked out by the guy in the fish and chips shop by the beach I used to go to every friday night during the summer. I had broken up with my boyfriend and this guy knew it. It made me uncomfortable. It was also an invitation to a New Years Eve party where I would not know anyone come to think of it
I told him it was too soon for me (after the break up) and I told him very honestly that I would be spending the night sulking on my own in my apartment. He was obvoiusly disappointed and I did not go back there, it made me feel weird.

Novabreaker said:

they don't have time! they are too busy deciding which one to choose - out of the guys that have asked them out.

U should be flattered that she had the courage and was interested enough to ask u out .....

Spats said:

Good Lord, you disgust me

Do the girl a favor... DON'T GO

missfee said:

charlottegelin said:

I'm not sure he's into that - that's where we go to the bathroom you know

CalhounSq said:

Downtown, things'll be great when you're
Downtown, no finer place for sure,
Downtown, everything's waiting for you
(Downtown)

I went out with a not-so-pretty girl one New Years Eve. I had a good time. I was drunk by 7:00 pm however,

charlottegelin said:

LMAO!!!



that is too perfect!!!

one minute you say you don't approach anymore, you want to be approached and that you actually liked it...then you say your mad at her for putting you in that position. it's one or the other bub? either that or it's you and your buddy harry palmer!
oh come on...you said she isn't ugly...just plain. I would think that says she's a laid back low maintenance kind of girl. That's a good thing right? For you sake, I think you should go. For her sake...I think you should pass
but..if you choose to pass...just do it gracefully, and with some tact and there shouldn't be any awkwardness afterwards...especially if you're still "normal" or friendly around her afterwards. You could tell her you have new years plans..but maybe another time? just a thought.
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spats got banninated about a couple days ago, y'know.

yeah. life really is no fair for that cat.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Daft JD.
[Edited 12/30/05 7:14am]

Spats said:

Yo know Spats, that really was a punk-ass move. You know you're not interested in the girl, but yet you were a wuss and said you "might" go. That IS misleading her and giving her false hope.
And yes you should be happy that someone asked you out - doesn't sound like much of that was going on from the beginning. - You have the balls to be pissed at her?? That is priceless.

It was not intentionally a "punk ass move". She just caught me off guard. How do i say no gracefully so that things are not awkward next time i go? If i say "I have plans Maybe another time" then i am leaving it open for another time. I am not really interested in another time. I have to let her know by 6 pm tonight. This sucks.

I am flattered that she asked me out and she is a nice girl but she is not the type i am into. That's why life is not fair. Why couldn't the pretty blonde do this? I would have had it made. This New Years is going to suck.

I don't think Spats has done anything that a lot of us haven't done in the past. Sometimes people say "I'm not sure yet" or "I'll let you know" just because they're taken by surprise and it gives them thinking time to react.

Spats said:

*coughcoughboolshitcoughcough*


be happy a chick even did so much as give you the time of day, at least. fuck "type".


because you punked out on her, too! and yes! your new year will SUCK! oh ho hooooo, it'll suck! (invader zim voice) it'll suck goooood!!!!