men and women here.
Your all very open with your homosexuality here and that's great. But I was wondering if you are this open in your private lives as well? I know how society views homosexuals etc... It seemed to me that maybe the reason some of you felt so comfortable, was because the mods here won't tolerate any homophobic, hatred etc... of any kind. Meaning, you feel "secure" to be yourselves, rather than hide who you really are?

1. nice zappa pic.

2. sure. i'm not this open at work, but only because it's not the kind of environment where talking about our love/sex lives is appropriate. if someone asked me about it and i felt it was any of their business, i'd be completely forthcoming. why wouldn't i? in my own time, i'm completely at ease about it. it's not like i make a point to constantly remind the world i'm gay, but i don't hide it either. i mean, just because i'm left handed doesn't mean the world really cares if i keep calling attention to it.

I am open about it. I like to think I am the same personality online as I am in every day life, but it is easier to be open to people whom's faces you don't have to watch.

I always have jobs where I can be myself though. So, no problem. I am out to the world, but then again, I do not think it is that important to communicate to the world. Me being gay is just a small part of ME. I just skip people who have trouble with it; their problem, not mine.

Does the org have an inherent gayness? Or is it about the people? Also, if the org does possess some kind of inherent gay quality, is it like radiation? I ask because I keep coming over all queer.

Fauxie said:

well, now that you posted, this thread is inherently gay...which makes it really difficult to answer your question objectively.

Anxiety said:

That's ok. I think you already answered it.

I must be the Tao of gay, the source, the way. You are all my children.

wHiTEgIRlCrAzY said:

i'm usually pretty open. i usually don't care what other people think about me being gay but sometimes i don't say anything about it if i sense gay bashing vibes in the air. some of my more out there friends have, by example, taught me to not even be so concerned with that. just be who i am no matter what vibes r in the air. some guy tried to hit on me once at a greyhound bus station while we were at a stop. i told him i was gay and he told me that in jamiaca, where he was from they kill gay people. he said it like it was a perfectly normal thing to say AND do. i tried to be nice to him but the more he talked the madder i got and i realized just how stupid he was and told him this was america and we don't kill gay people here (not officially anyway) and i walked away and ignored him after that. he acted like it was some kind of crime against him and his stupid god for me to be gay.

another guy tried hitting on me once in a bookstore. he was all friendly and flashing his big white teeth in my face until i told him i was gay. then he backed off slowly like i had some kind of plague or like i had just sprouted curly green tentacles from my nostrils. in both of those cases it made me mad ONLY because i usually don't stop to talk to guys because enevitably they always try and hit on me and get my number and all that kind of stuff. both of those times i thought to myself, why not give them a chance, maybe they're just being nice, maybe they just wanna talk as friends. not.

most people though could care less. at least that's been my general experience. then again i usually know pretty open minded people so maybe i'm just spoiled. i did finally come out to my mom though not to long ago so i don't have to hide that anymore. she told me that she already knew.

ME? I'm Totally Open about Everything..Sometimes, Too Much so. I Love Both Sexes.

Zelaira said:

you don't say.....

I'm pretty sure Zel has love for sexes I don't even know about.

RuDeGiRL said:

Thank you for responding rudegirl,zel,hamster,anxiety and even faux. Very intresting so far.

Like men and women, for example.

Fauxie said:

overexplaining your jokes is MY job.

RuDeGiRL said:

yea, lesbian and straight male friendships are rare.

lilgish said:

yeah, i guess so. it's not because of me though. i like being friends with everyone, straight, gay, male, female, old, young, black, white, red, yellow, brown, human, alien, trees, plants, etc.

i remember there was this one guy who i really really liked. i thought he was so cool and i thought we were gonna be friends. i know he liked me but i've always thought that when he realized we weren't gonna be getting sexual he just kinda blew me off. it really hurt my feelings at the time cause i liked him. cool ppeople are hard to come by straight or gay and i thought he and i had a connection.

i do and have had a few straight male friends though. they've tried at times to hit on me too but once we got past that it was all love.

(leans over with my baddest mac-daddy move) Soooo rudegirl, ya like chinese food there sugarpop?

wHiTEgIRlCrAzY said:

sure i do. as long as it's really chinese food.

RuDeGiRL said:

The Lesbian friends I've had have always been older mother type women I met at work or knew through family members. In fact, most of my female friends are older celibate, married type women (and by older I mean 40 )

I find most of my male friends, gay or straight pretty much act the same, though we are the same age and have the same interest. At a party for my uncle and his boyfriend, I did walk up to this girl and give her my pick up "hello", I knew most of the women there were gay, but it's almost a reflex.

Fauxie said:

...

(Zel, please, don't kick me! )

Meow85 here; batting for both teams. I'm as out in the real world as I am here on the Org. Why not? If you can't say it, don't do it.

Fauxie is Too Funny..No,Shauna Never Girlfriend...

Zelaira said:

Yes. So that I wont have to hide from myself in the same time. I am happy with who I am so I just say if I like a guy or not to someone i just say it.

But I hate them sassy ass bitches who wear tight ass clothes and are all bitchy and shit and feminine, more feminine than girls themselves...GUYS why do u have to DO THAT SHIT!!!???

I'm out. I've always been out at work also.


M

There are only four people at my company. The boss, his lover, me and a straight guy. Out there in the other real world, my being bi really doesn't come up. I'm out to the members of my family that I care enough to share something that personal with. Everybody else: Fuck 'em.

Yes, I'm as open in my personal life. And there have been plenty of crap talking here but overall I am very proud of the gay community on this site. So many well rounded, fun, loving, vibrant individuals.

My family!

very much so.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I'm your big brother Supa!!!!! If anybody messes with you, you know who to call. (I know you can take care of yourself though)


M

1 learns quickly that coming out is not a 1-time thing. I'm out 2 my friends and some members of my family. I don't announce it, but I also make no effort 2 hide it.

paisleypark4 said:

Most people just copy what they see in clubs. I'd hate to give up my individuality that way.

On the other hand; it exposes them to other D&G fags, so maybe that's the point.
I am always a bit on the side in gay bars cuz they assume I am straight.
Dunno why, I can flame like the next guy in line (move over, Cloudbuster)

On the other, other hand; I always end up being attracted to guys that seem straight, are gay, but turn out to be very confused about themselves.

So.

I am 6'3".
Black hair.
Deep brown eyes.
My hobbies are music, reading, writing and collecting too many things.