I just started seeing this new girl a little while ago and we've only had sex a couple times, but of those times, only once have I been able to maintain a hard-on for the whole thing. I've never had a problem before so this took me by surprise. I'm only 26 so I'm wondering what the deal is. I don't have medical insurance so going to a doctor is a last resort. Have any of you guys ever had this problem this early in your life and if so, what did you do about it? Thanks....

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guitarslinger44 said:

Easier said than done but DONT stress out and worry about it , it will only make things worse .

The ole boy will soon enough be ready for action

Have fun fella

Try to relax. If that doesn't work you might see a doctor.

But seriously, maybe you are just not that turned on by her. I don't know. I have never experienced that.

Spats said:

Or you like her too much. Both things can have the same effect.

Because he likes her too much? Yeah,right.

This happens to every guy at some point, so it's really not something you should worry about. It could be caused by stress, bad chemistry between you and your partner, alcohol, wanting to achieve too much, time-pressure, fatigue...you name it.

It happened to me once when I had brought a girl home for a one night stand and right when we were going to get to the real action, she said "you know, I get pregnant so easily that basically all it takes is that someone gives me a look and I'm knocked up".

Men aren't so different from women. We expect (and may be expected) to be instantly & constantly turned on. But, like women, we sometimes actually have to be relaxed & ready. Not to mention hydrated, not so drunk, interested, etc.

could be.

Spats said:

retina said:

that would do it

Yep. That's the only way i wouldn't be able to get it up.

Mr.I respect women so much, had a one night stand??? Hmmm. That's interesting.

what happened to cause it? Well i screwed someone for aver 3 yrs and it happen to me. I tell u what i did. First 9 months i was hard as a rock, then he moved in and the first 2 weeks i couldn't get it up and don't know why. Then i relaxed. And afterwards i had no problems since with e. d. But on the safe side, my job is the best, i get viagara every month 20 for half price for only 30 dollars. i have like 300 stashed in my cabinet and if u want to try one orgnote me and i can send u some ok. i don't use it. Makes me too hard!!!

Spats said:

You are so bitchy for a guy

has that blonde noticed you yet?

Nope. She hasn't made a move yet. Looks like it's going to be a Blue Christmas and a Lousy New's Year's Eve unless something happens fast. If it does not happen by New year's i am gonna give up.

Spats said:

might as well give up for good, with that attitude.....

I can't force her to be interested and i am only gonna wait so long. No woman is worth this crap.

retina said:

sounds like something I would say, though oddly enough this has not been a deterrent

MarieLouise said:

That's possible. She had an orgasm one of the last times we did it and told me after that that was only the second time in her life (and she's 26 also) that she'd ever had an orgasm during sex. Maybe I am stressing a bit.

But I tried to go solo today and it went as quick as it came (no pun intended). I was still able to finish but I had a hard time keeping it up. Man, I feel like such a goof posting all of this!

maybe you are gay...check the gay thread to see if you qualify

BucketOfBouncyBalls said:

You are SUCH a twat!

No, I get hit on by guys but they just dont' turn me on.

charlottegelin said:

...and you have three little pieces of evidence to prove it.

I once had a discussion with a woman I was having sex with about what would happen if she got pregnant. It turned a bit sour since she adamantly maintained that any exceptions to her complete freedom to choose would not be accepted, while I was trying to get some sort of say in it. Basically what I was suggesting was that if she wanted to have an abortion I wouldn't oppose it (even if I felt it was wrong) but if she wanted to keep the baby then I wanted us to agree on that. If one of us wouldn't agree, then we wouldn't keep it. I thought that sounded fair since the baby would belong to both of us and she wouldn't be forced into a pregnancy in any scenario. But I didn't get any sympathy. I guess she didn't realize/care how strange and unfair it can feel to be completely without a say in a situation like that.

retina said:

I've only had sex 3 times

charlottegelin said:

Are you implying that you've had sex...four whole times?

retina said:

I am not pregnant now, I don't think.

charlottegelin said:

Why go all over the three times comment then?

retina said:

I dunno

charlottegelin said:

I always look forward to our rewarding discussions.

retina said:

guitarslinger44 said:

Are you having too much solo sex? That could be a factor. We're not bottomless pits.