About six months ago I met a new neighbor one evening coming
home from work. She's 25 and to say this woman is beautiful is
an understatement. She lives with her cousin and her cousin's
kids in the building next to me. They don't have a car but can walk
to work if need be because their jobs are a stone's throw from our
complex. Her cousin is okay but my real interest is Amy. Not a day
goes by where she's not asking me to give her a lift somewhere,
taking her to get something to eat, grocery store, Target, on and on.
You name it, I do it for her. Anyway, back in September I asked her
in a very polite way if, for all the things I do, I could eat her pussy.
Didn't want to ask her about fucking because I didn't want to totally
scare her off. She answered me by saying:"I'm sorry, I just don't see
you that way." So being the schmuck I am I just said something like
"well if I hadn't asked you I would have never known" or some stupid
shit like that. I didn't want her to think that's all I wanted from her
so to this day I still do everything she asks me to, hell, now more than
ever. So here's my dilemma. It's been four months since I asked her
"the question" and she said no. My birthday is Monday and I want to
ask her "the question" again but I am terrified of being rejected again.
What do you think I ought to do? Am I wrong to think that for all the
things I do for her I deserve something? I don't want to stop helping
her out because then she'll hate me. As you can tell from reading this
I don't know what the hell to do. I know I'll probably get clowned by
some of you but for those who have maybe been in a situation like this
before I want to thank you in advance for your feedback.

Dude, you were too nice to her and she placed you in the "Friend Zone". I think it's game over.Never do everything a woman asks. She'll walk all over your ass.

Forget about her. Find another girl. Play hard to get, take her for granted, act like you are not interested and the girl will get interested. It's sick but that's women for ya.

And Why would you want to go downtown in the first place???

You were too forward.
You went for the 'dinner' when you shoulda just started with 'lunch'.
Take it down a few notches.
Next time
just ask her if she'll suck your dick.

Spats said:

Sorry, Sir, but...I only want to puke whenever I have been exposed to or am remembering my exposure to something "ugly" or "stinky", etc...

And, whenever you "puke" at the idea of cunnilungus, it casts a shadow of suspicion on all of your former girlfriends' vaginal cleanliness/hygene.

So

You sound as smooth as fresh piece of lava rock.

Else then that you are a sex-slave looking for a reason to live.

Hey if your fetish is to clean a woman after a real man has had sex with her, more power to you.

But if this isn't you, then maybe you should move on.

The term is called car-slave. It is something people do to others that have a car and are needy for friendship.

I would say if she is treating you that way she isn't a girl next door.

Ignore her and see what happens.

Else that, find your self a real mistress to grovel for.

She probably doesn't want it.

If a man had ever asked me 'Hey, can I eat your pussy?', out of the blue, I would find this very very very weird.

Anyway, if I wanted him to do this, I would have said 'yes'. She said 'no', so don't make it any worse.

If helping this lady out and not getting sex in return frustrates the hell out of you, just stop the whole thing.

To help people and feel like a ignored slave is worse than not helping at all.

Have some proudness, for god's sake !

SHANNA said:

... funny!

ImLikeTheGoochLookin said:

Is this a joke?

C'mon you should know it doesn't work like that with nice girls. You got exactly what you deserved, I'm sorry.

But seriously, how can a woman pass up an opportunity like that? .. dayum, I would have jumped on that opportunity .. But he better not expect anything MORE than that

Novabreaker said:

I don't know bout that

wow. i love how you're just so non-chalant about asking her that. You didn't stutter or anything??
"um..'scuse me, 'scuse me, uh, I was uh wonderin'...if, uh, I, uh can....can i stick my head 'tween yo' legs???"

She ain't interested, trust me... & how the fuck do you ask that "politely"???



But the only reason you're even doing all this shit is b/c you wanna fuck her, right? LAWD, men do some goofy shit



If a guy asked me once & I said I wasn't interested & he waited until his fucking birthday to ask me the shit again I would think he was the biggest fucking loser & I would never, EVER let him touch me. It's just too desperate...



YEA, you are! If she never offered you anything but her thanks in exchange, you shouldn't expect to get anything in exchange. You had every right to turn her down but you did these things in HOPE of getting something off her - she has no obligation to you sexually. NONE... why are guys like this??



She might but that's her problem - she should be glad she got the favors she did off you.

Just be who you are - the guy who hoped to fuck & has since disappeared since he knows he has no chance

The most you can hope for is that she considers you & your tongue if she gets really super desperate. But if she's that pretty, how likely is that?

CalhounSq said:

Us pretty girls hardly give up the .. we to have our desperate days

this thread, calhoun is crazy

TheCatWoman said:

laughing and typing wrong edit
[Edited 12/15/05 9:19am]

Gee, figure that.
She didn't want to pay you back with sexual favors.
I guess she mistook you for a gentleman or something.
I mean you asked so nicely.
What would you do if she said twenty dollars?

You shouldn't expect anything in return unless she offered.
Does she chip in on gas?
[Edited 12/15/05 9:24am]

Even i don't expect that. On the other hand i would not have done those nice things for her in the first place. Next time wait for her to offer it up.

This story is just wrong on so many levels.

1. Wanting sex in return for your favours is basically like treating her as a prostitute.

2. You don't ask someone for sex, at least not out of the blue like that. It is something that happens naturally when the situation and mood is right.

3. In general you shouldn't do favours expecting anything in return because then they're not really favours but investments, which in this scenario would be very inappropriate.

4. She used her beauty to gain favours from you, most likely knowing that you were hoping for something else (friendship, love, sex or something else) that she never intended to give you in the first place.

5. You continue to do the favours even though the whole "relationship" has already crashed and burned in the moment you popped your question.

6. You think she will give you sex as some kind of birthday present.

Just walk away, man. You should have walked away long ago.

retina said:

Very thoroughly put analysis of the situation.

um, why didn;t you just ask her out for dinner and a movie? if you had asked me that question i would have gotten out of the car, sprayed you with mace, and never spoken to you again.

Novabreaker said:

Thanks.

It's really easy to have a healthy perspective when you're an outsider though. If I had told you guys about some situation I'd ended up in lately you'd all probably have way more than six points on your lists.

She sounds like the type of girl that was using him because he was too nice. She could tell he liked her and took advantage of it. Another female game. I think the answer would have been the same even if he had asked that. She placed him in the "friend zone". No sacktime there.

JasmineFire said:

Spats said:

Aww shut the fuck up He put himself out there to be "used" by continuing to do favors in hopes of sex. It's not a female game - he was perfectly willing to participate. What do you call his silly ass plan? Is that not a game? PLEEZE

that's a long-assed paragraph.

in a ideal world, u could just walk up to a girl and ask her for sex, i mean, its just sex right?

CalhounSq said:

I can't believe I read the whole thread!

I can't believe I am confessing I read the whole thread!