I know about my parent's collection of Sun and Health magazines

i know what sound my mom makes when they're doing "it".


:shudder: i still have nightmares . . .

fantasyislander said:

yea, that my parents have no values that are worth anything, and that they really don't love eachother.
[Edited 12/11/05 20:49pm]

chunky said:

chunky said:

This is kind of sad, but here goes.


I know that I'm not my mom's first child.

She had a son 3 years before I was born who lived to be almost 1 year old but died during a fever. The man whose baby she was carrying was born to a rich family and ended up leaving her due to family pressure (she was a poor farm girl in a third world country).

She never told anyone in the family, but I have an aunt who can't shut her mouth and I learned this when I was 11. I've been waiting to see if my mom ever shared the story and she only did once with a neighbor lady.


The lady just had her son, Jeremy die of lukemia after a dredful year of chemo and constant visits. It was a horible ordeal and the lady was talking to my mom one day and she broke down crying. My sister and I were just around the corner of the house listening to them in the backyard, but she told the woman about her struggle--about her pain. She didnt' hold back in describe it in detail to the woman and trying to comfort her.

I never understood why she never shared that with me. My mom is like a treasure box of secrets/.

fantasyislander said:

You poor thing

thank you god for sparing me from that in my childhood.

AsianBomb777 said:

they certainly are

that i was a mistake/"surprise"

nilegettolrahc said:

no no, that wasn't my childhood. my mom and stepdad got married when i was a senior in high school. so the memory is even fresher . . .

it's kind of a funny story. i was going to do laundry and thought i heard something coming from their room. at first i thought it was the cat, then when i realized what it was a ran all the way to my room and shut the door! i hid under my covers trying to forget that sound.

:rockingselfinfetalposition:

That I'm flying out to Australia this week to marry ocean ...

AsianBomb777 said:

You know Dan, I can understand where your mum is coming from though. I have not lost a child but I do know that it would be probably the most devastating thing you could possibly go through.
The thing is though, that subsequent children handle knowing about it very well. I have a friend who is a surviving twin, he likes to talk about his twin (who died at childbirth), it is like he loved him anyway even though he did not know him. The lady next door lost her eldest daughter when she was 9 months, but her other kids know and she is a part of their lives anyway.
Maybe telling you became harder and harder because why didn't she tell you earlier?

fantasyislander said:

I don't know how you cope!

wHiTEgIRlCrAzY said:

wrong thread

wHiTEgIRlCrAzY said:

nilegettolrahc said:

like i said . . . :rockingselfinfetalposition:

nilegettolrahc said:

There are many things my mom has shielded from me, my sister and my dad.
As I"ve said her life is a treasure box of secrets. One that has been quite sad, actually.

As I get older, I've learned to view her with compassion and not the normal selfishness that consumes youth. I am very much like my mom in many respects, but I've used her and my Dad's lives as a way for me not to conduct mine.

She's actually a character in my upcoming book.

AsianBomb777 said:

cultural maybe? or she thought it was the right thing to do?
You can learn from their mistakes if nothing else.

wHiTEgIRlCrAzY said:

nilegettolrahc said:

Definately cultural.

It's funny how culture plays into everything we experience with our parents.


For example, in America it's very very seldom that dad's know their sons.

My brother-in-law is a atheist (34 years of age) who can't bring himself to let his baptist parents know. His dad knows nothing about his son. I mean, nothing. They live in fear of knowing each other, and I've seldom seen them hug---and this is not an abnormal father/son relationship in the southeast.

Ocean said:

you got a stalker!

AsianBomb777 said:

that is a national tragedy

nilegettolrahc said:

mmuuuaaahhh haaa haaa ....

wHiTEgIRlCrAzY said:

a stalker with a finger up his nose . . .

AsianBomb777 said:

My Dad has always been like that with my brothers.....now that I think about it I don't think I have every seen him hug them ...

fantasyislander said:

Ocean said:

there there. it's ok. i'm sure you have plenty of normal stalkers too. if none of them please you we can always hold tryouts.

Ocean said:

It can be very damaging I think.

My sister and I make it a point to hug my newphews all the time. We always tell them we love them, and we always tell the all sides of a story--even the ugly stuff.

They knew death was final, and that differnt people had different spins on life-after-death when they were only 3 and 4 years old. They also know that grownups can be wrong--we insist upon it. (Even though it doesn't change the fact that we are to be obeyed. lol )

Ocean said:

Lmao ... I'm a hopeless romantic, what can I say.