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Counciling Does counciling really help? For those who go, do you tell them things you would never tell them anyone else? Is it a sign a weakness? | |
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As soon as I get around to going I'm sure it will help me | |
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I don't see it as a sign of weakness.. I think it's very brave to admit that you're having problems and look for help! The Borg... Partypoopers of the galaxy.. ( Medical Hologram )
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Pay someone to tell you the common sense answers you're too scared to look closely enough at your life and arrive at by yourself?
No thanks. | |
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One advantage is that you can get a more objective opinion, perhaps, from a perfect stranger than from people w/ whom you are personally implicated. | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: Does counciling really help? For those who go, do you tell them things you would never tell them anyone else? Is it a sign a weakness?
without going into it I've been extremely up and down the last few months emotionally and was/am going to start seeing a counsellor or psychiatrist (sp) ...it's worth it JD and as has been said elsewhere in this thread it's positive that you can see you need it - THAT'S a step forward already | |
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Natisse said: JDINTERACTIVE said: Does counciling really help? For those who go, do you tell them things you would never tell them anyone else? Is it a sign a weakness?
without going into it I've been extremely up and down the last few months emotionally and was/am going to start seeing a counsellor or psychiatrist (sp) ...it's worth it JD and as has been said elsewhere in this thread it's positive that you can see you need it - THAT'S a step forward already Good luck Nat | |
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I don't know maybe I should just get over it I think. It just feels like a bit of a step into the unknown. I'd be really ashamed to admit it to my folks. | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: I don't know maybe I should just get over it I think. It just feels like a bit of a step into the unknown. I'd be really ashamed to admit it to my folks.
JD there is NOTHING shameful about it at all... don't let your pride get in the way ok? and you will be getting over it yourself anyway - a good psychiatrist or counsellor's job is to help you find a way to HELP YOURSELF | |
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Fauxie said: Pay someone to tell you the common sense answers you're too scared to look closely enough at your life and arrive at by yourself?
No thanks. that's one way of looking @ it but i think it really helps and sometimes it's not neccessarily someone u pay... i used 2 go to teachers i was really close with, or my sister... it just helps to talk about it... | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: Does counciling really help? For those who go, do you tell them things you would never tell them anyone else? Is it a sign a weakness?
A sign of weaakness no way!! , it realy helps. Tell him /her everything (stuff that you cant tell anyone else in fear of being disowned) and you will feel a weight being lifted from you Guess that I'll stay at home
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I'm going to see a psychologist on Wed. Its my very first time...I'm scared but I definitely need it.
And I disagree with the idea that paying someone so they can give you common answers. For one these are trained proffessionals who study the mind and can help you in SOME aspects. I agree that it takes some effort on your part to help yourself in your own life. But the reason I am going is that...it easier to talk to a total stranger about your problems and have them listen to you. I don't seek advice...but it is human nature to seek praise or some type of indication that you are right. I simply want to be recognized as that my feelings are real and that its ok to feel the way I feel. Instead of hearing "Snap out of it" "Thats so stupid" "don't cry it doesnt get you anywhere". Stupid crap like that...but thats just my opinion | |
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BucketOfBouncyBalls said: I'm going to see a psychologist on Wed. Its my very first time...I'm scared but I definitely need it.
And I disagree with the idea that paying someone so they can give you common answers. For one these are trained proffessionals who study the mind and can help you in SOME aspects. I agree that it takes some effort on your part to help yourself in your own life. But the reason I am going is that...it easier to talk to a total stranger about your problems and have them listen to you. I don't seek advice...but it is human nature to seek praise or some type of indication that you are right. I simply want to be recognized as that my feelings are real and that its ok to feel the way I feel. Instead of hearing "Snap out of it" "Thats so stupid" "don't cry it doesnt get you anywhere". Stupid crap like that...but thats just my opinion all very true hon... what you should get out of this is the start of the path of SELF-help they should be able to show you a way to work through things at your own pace and the way you need to I was going to go see one on the 1st but didn't make the appointment good luck | |
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Natisse said: BucketOfBouncyBalls said: I'm going to see a psychologist on Wed. Its my very first time...I'm scared but I definitely need it.
And I disagree with the idea that paying someone so they can give you common answers. For one these are trained proffessionals who study the mind and can help you in SOME aspects. I agree that it takes some effort on your part to help yourself in your own life. But the reason I am going is that...it easier to talk to a total stranger about your problems and have them listen to you. I don't seek advice...but it is human nature to seek praise or some type of indication that you are right. I simply want to be recognized as that my feelings are real and that its ok to feel the way I feel. Instead of hearing "Snap out of it" "Thats so stupid" "don't cry it doesnt get you anywhere". Stupid crap like that...but thats just my opinion all very true hon... what you should get out of this is the start of the path of SELF-help they should be able to show you a way to work through things at your own pace and the way you need to I was going to go see one on the 1st but didn't make the appointment good luck I agree! Thanks Doll | |
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Fauxie said: Pay someone to tell you the common sense answers you're too scared to look closely enough at your life and arrive at by yourself?
No thanks. i agree but i do offer advice to people that do seek within but often times cant see through the dark clouds that can get in the way of clear sight | |
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to sammij and mach, yes I certainly see the benefit in talking to someone. Oftentimes we need somebody to remind us of things, or offer a different perspective. We become so caught up in something that we tire, or lose all ability to think clearly about a situation. However, we should hopefully all have friends capable of helping us in this way rather than a stranger we have to pay money to for the privilege. I guess sometimes, though, this is not possible, and these people are trained professionals after all. I tend to believe we know more than we think, however, and really learn very little that is new, but rather are just reminded of things we already know. To answer the original post, it's certainly not a sign of weakness. We all need a little guidance and a few reminders sometimes, because for all we can know in totality, as an individual we cannot expect to be able to logically and rationally draw upon our knowledge when strong emotions and personal situations are involved. Then, of course, there are those times when people simply know things that we don't, and we learn. Still, I would say look to trusted friends first and foremost if possible before giving your money to a stranger.
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Fauxie said: to sammij and mach, yes I certainly see the benefit in talking to someone. Oftentimes we need somebody to remind us of things, or offer a different perspective. We become so caught up in something that we tire, or lose all ability to think clearly about a situation. However, we should hopefully all have friends capable of helping us in this way rather than a stranger we have to pay money to for the privilege. I guess sometimes, though, this is not possible, and these people are trained professionals after all. I tend to believe we know more than we think, however, and really learn very little that is new, but rather are just reminded of things we already know. To answer the original post, it's certainly not a sign of weakness. We all need a little guidance and a few reminders sometimes, because for all we can know in totality, as an individual we cannot expect to be able to logically and rationally draw upon our knowledge when strong emotions and personal situations are involved. Then, of course, there are those times when people simply know things that we don't, and we learn. Still, I would say look to trusted friends first and foremost if possible before giving your money to a stranger.
... [Edited 12/11/05 7:44am] i mostly agree with you ... we do know far more then most think ... and after all... the high payed pros have only read more books, reached out and experienced their craft more then most have chosen to do... we all have access to the same books and studys ... you just have to desire to tap into the knowledge | |
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Fauxie said: to sammij and mach, yes I certainly see the benefit in talking to someone. Oftentimes we need somebody to remind us of things, or offer a different perspective. We become so caught up in something that we tire, or lose all ability to think clearly about a situation. However, we should hopefully all have friends capable of helping us in this way rather than a stranger we have to pay money to for the privilege. I guess sometimes, though, this is not possible, and these people are trained professionals after all. I tend to believe we know more than we think, however, and really learn very little that is new, but rather are just reminded of things we already know. To answer the original post, it's certainly not a sign of weakness. We all need a little guidance and a few reminders sometimes, because for all we can know in totality, as an individual we cannot expect to be able to logically and rationally draw upon our knowledge when strong emotions and personal situations are involved. Then, of course, there are those times when people simply know things that we don't, and we learn. Still, I would say look to trusted friends first and foremost if possible before giving your money to a stranger.
... [Edited 12/11/05 7:44am] sometimes problems can be deeper than anything that a friend or a family memeber can handle or fully understand. or sometimes the family or the friends are the problem. | |
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Fauxie said: to sammij and mach, yes I certainly see the benefit in talking to someone. Oftentimes we need somebody to remind us of things, or offer a different perspective. We become so caught up in something that we tire, or lose all ability to think clearly about a situation. However, we should hopefully all have friends capable of helping us in this way rather than a stranger we have to pay money to for the privilege. I guess sometimes, though, this is not possible, and these people are trained professionals after all. I tend to believe we know more than we think, however, and really learn very little that is new, but rather are just reminded of things we already know. To answer the original post, it's certainly not a sign of weakness. We all need a little guidance and a few reminders sometimes, because for all we can know in totality, as an individual we cannot expect to be able to logically and rationally draw upon our knowledge when strong emotions and personal situations are involved. Then, of course, there are those times when people simply know things that we don't, and we learn. Still, I would say look to trusted friends first and foremost if possible before giving your money to a stranger.
Is this Tom Cruise? But, seriously...these people are trained professionals who I would imagine would give you far better guidance than your friends or family (unless, of course, your friends or family are trained mental health professionals). | |
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Ace said: Fauxie said: to sammij and mach, yes I certainly see the benefit in talking to someone. Oftentimes we need somebody to remind us of things, or offer a different perspective. We become so caught up in something that we tire, or lose all ability to think clearly about a situation. However, we should hopefully all have friends capable of helping us in this way rather than a stranger we have to pay money to for the privilege. I guess sometimes, though, this is not possible, and these people are trained professionals after all. I tend to believe we know more than we think, however, and really learn very little that is new, but rather are just reminded of things we already know. To answer the original post, it's certainly not a sign of weakness. We all need a little guidance and a few reminders sometimes, because for all we can know in totality, as an individual we cannot expect to be able to logically and rationally draw upon our knowledge when strong emotions and personal situations are involved. Then, of course, there are those times when people simply know things that we don't, and we learn. Still, I would say look to trusted friends first and foremost if possible before giving your money to a stranger.
Is this Tom Cruise? No, the Bulldog Spirit. | |
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yes, it helps if you let it. Plain and simple. | |
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jerseykrs said: yes, it helps if you let it. Plain and simple.
I hear some therapists advise allowing a close friend of the same sex to masturbate you in order to break down social barriers and turn taboo's anchor on the psyche to helium. Is this true? | |
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